Just a Daddy that is hurting and could use some support.

[Nice_Daddy]

As the topic says, I'm just a Daddy that is hurting and could use a little support.  My little girl and I broke up.  It's been on and off for a while now and I did see this coming.  But that doesn't make it hurt any less.  It's a long story and one that I do not need to go into.  We were in a semi LDR relationship and trying to work it out to live together.  Time was just not on my side.  We both played our parts, both good and bad.

 

It feels difficult to express my pain as a Daddy.  Because we have a tendency to hide our perceived weaknesses.  So that we always look strong to the littles that look up to us.  But Daddy's do feel pain too.  Sometimes the weight of adulting can wear us down too.  And make us feel vulnerable.  And that is where I am today.  I just feel sick to my stomach and alone.  I know time will help, but I can't speed up time fast enough.  One of the greatest things about a DD/lg relationship is how close you can become.  Closer than any normal relationship in my opinion.  The down side to that is it HURTS LIKE HELL when the proverbial shit hits the fan.

 

I just needed to let some of this out, like a diary entry per se.  And who knows, maybe this can encourage some littles to run and give their Daddy's a big hug and tell them how much they appreciate them.

 

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

ND

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I am so sorry this happened to you. It's never easy to lose a little, and it's usually not as acknowledged. I'm glad you are taking the time to grieve, as historically speaking, the Littles tend to get the most support after a break up. It's really wonderful to see you reaching out. You've definitely got support here. <3 

[Trixie]

hang in there, when the going gets tough the tough gets going!

[Nice_Daddy]

Thank you both ... very much. 

 

I knew I came to the right spot.

[brattybunny]

I'm sorry you lost your little It's hard losing such a close and comfortable relationship, especially because of a thing like time and all the shit it causes.
Coming from experience, it doesn't get better- it gets easier. It's gonna hurt like a bitch but over time, you'll heal. There will come a day where you don't think about her everyday... keep striving for that. I broke up with my Daddy last year and it took me a couple months to feel okay. I even still think about him from time to time. But it's a lot easier, you get a lot happier, things in general lighten up. If you need someone to talk to I'm here. Although time has hurt you, it's the only thing that will heal you (cheesy I know but very true). Keep yourself busy, surrounded by people you enjoy being with. Do things for yourself, take care of yourself. Make yourself feel special just like you did with your little. 

Edited June 22, 2016 by brattybunny

[Nice_Daddy]

Thank you for the thoughtful reply .... even the cheesy part!        

 

I do understand that it will take time, I just am not looking forward to that part of the journey.  And I am sorry about your break up and loss and hope that your healing continues.

[Guest AmberDoll]

BrattyBunny said everything so wonderfully I definitely agree with her, Just know that this community is really great and there are so manny people here that will be here for you, I'm sorry you got hurt so bad I think everyone experiences a really bad break up more then most let on it's sad but it's part of life the best thing to do is to remember the good times and let go of the bad and move on and realize it just wasn't meant to be and that's not a bad thing that means there is someone who IS your missing piece that will fit your life and be your one and only for the rest of your life the only thing is the journey it takes to get to them but I believe we meet people for a reason that fate makes us stumble into certain people so just take something positive from everything even if it's just to the fact of making you stronger in certain situations. *Hugs* I hope you feel better soon!    

[MadameButterfly]

I'm so sorry you lost your little. I don't like when others feel pain and sadness, it makes me not very happy. I hope you feel better soon and find that perfect little for you.

[Nice_Daddy]

I do appreciate all the kind words and advice.  I do try to remind myself that all of these things happen for a reason.  She did help me grow in many ways.  It's kind of funny to be at this stage of my life and still learning about myself.  And that is part of all of this, even this pain, to feel it and experience it ... and to learn from it.

 

Thank you all... getting ready for work and ready the comments again helps.  Hope you all have a great day!

[krystalleeann]

aww sorry you lost your little i hope you feel better 

[Kitten-lover21497]

If you want too talk about it you can message me. If I lost kitten I'd probably die.

[Nice_Daddy]

Again ... I appreciate the support and well wishes. We did text a little bit yesterday and talked about being friends. To be available to give each other support as we move forward through all of this. That made me feel better. It still feels like that relationship is over and I know that it will take time to heal. Part of our problem was how busy that I am and unfortunately one of the best ways for me to deal with this is to just stay busy. So I will just bury myself in work and projects. This will probably validate her thoughts, but ... I ramble.

 

Time to go to work. Thanks again to everyone. ND

[DaddyPenguin]

It sucks going through a break up, no matter the reason. All one can do is allow yourself to feel the pain. Sounds strange but to allow yourself to go through the stages will help you heal. See where it did go wrong so you can avoid that mistake again. I saw you said you texted a little yesterday about maybe being friends. Where that can be a good thing but usually down the road. As it can lead to you hurting more knowing she is not with you anymore. Just my 3 cents worth.

[Nice_Daddy]

@DaddyPenguin.  I hear you and so far that seems to be about the outcome of keeping in touch.  But I do agree with feeling the pain.  I've been thru this before and I do realize that it is part of the process.  Thanks for the reminder though and your 3 cents worth.  (damn inflation!)

[Tenno64]

My little and I broke up as well. I'm not giving up and Its not easy and I never thought it would hurt so bad. I think a lot of littles forget that they're our entire world than when it ends it destroys us inside. After all...the world ended.

[Guest ShyDaddyDom]

Sorry to hear about this bro. To be honest though, this isn't a weakness in the slightest and isn't perceived as a weakness. We all feel and it is especially bad when we lose someone close. When my last little left me for another daddy I was truly heartbroken. Alas, this is something that we all need to feel and all need to grow from. Just add me and DM if you ever need to talk mate.

[Nice_Daddy]

Thank you both.  I'm just working thru all of this. Slowly.  Trying to focus on my job and keep my mind occupied.  It's always worse when I have free time and my mind can run over things. 

 

This is such a great community though.  Truly.  Thank you all!

[Guest Sassy Princess]

I went through almost the exact same situation as you, except I'm the little. He left me because this pretty cheerleader girl started paying attention to him at work. He's my first love and my best friend, so the heartbreak that I felt was almost unbearable. I just figured I'd tell you all this so you know that you're not alone and that you can message me if you ever need to talk. I know how you feel.

By the way, I think that keeping yourself busy is a very good idea and I've been trying that too. I hope that things get better for you, nobody deserves to feel how you feel.

Edited July 29, 2016 by Sassy Princess

[MrB]

Hey littlestlamb I'm really sorry to hear that :,( I know it doesn't help with the pain right now but this is good as he was not a true daddy and you will find a much better one I'm sure Although as I said I know that doesn't help right now because all you can feel is the pain but the most important thing to remember is that the pain IS temporary and will go away in time. I suffer with chronic pain and I have learnt a lot about how pain works both physical and emotional and the most damaging thing you can do is believe the way you feel right now is the rest of your life because it isn't. Trust me I know it's hard as I've done it but it helps just remind yourself that it gets better oh and your suggestion about keeping busy is true that helps facilitate the process. 

I hope this helps you too Nice Daddy and that both of you can move on from this nasty experience that hits so many of us

[Tender_daddy]

Hi I have come to this board to sympathize, I totally understand, I had a very difficult break-up with my (former) babygirl recently and I never imagined it would be this hard. Unfortunately she is going through too much emotionally for the relationship to be functional anymore.

 

It was my first DD/bg relationship ever, and even though others can help me process the break-up, it's hard to find people who understand the pain of losing such a special relationship as this.

 

Thanks and DM me anytime, sending positive energy to everyone.

[Guest Ddlg_littlegirl01]

I'm kind of late to this post..but I just wanted you to know it'll be ok. I'm sure you're a nice mister and you deserve an amazing little that loves you with all their heart. Best of luck to you.

[Guest annemarie]

reading this made me realize just how much i want me and my oniichan to be able to work out the relationship issues we've been having right now. i want him to know he's loved and appreciated too. thank you for posting this cause i'm sure i'm not the only little that forgets to be appreciative from time to time and i'm sorry you're going through such a hard time <3 

[Littlejacob]

I am sorry to hear of your loss of your little. Breakups in any relationship are hard on those involved. However it especially brutal in a Alternative lifestyle ( BDSM, DD/lg, DDlb, MDlg, MDlb, CGl ) as we open up our most secret and protected part of our core being to another. Something that a normal"vanilla" relationship does not do. Several years ago I lost my Owner to an accident during a dust storm, they were pulled over and got rear ended at highway speeds.

It takes time, it does get better, it just takes time and support.

 

Feel free to message any time,

lil jacob

[Nice_Daddy]

Once again ... thank you everyone for your kind words and wishes.  I have been working thru all of this and it is nice to see the support. 

[Guest Faith137]

I know how you feel, my daddy was talking rings, wife and moving in together.  I gave him everything, more than I would normally, and it does hurt like hell.  Ive been there and know how devastating it can be.  Im so sorry , if you need to vent, chat or whatever, send me a fr and a message...Ill share and mourn with you.  

In fact, Im still not over it today and that happened 2 months ago.  I just got comfortable with the idea of finding a new daddy.......