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Rissy
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So I have a little question.. Well, maybe a couple. 

 

About a week ago I shared my little side with my boyfriend. We've been dating for a few months, but we've been friends for a long time. I basically told him straight out "I'm a little and this is what that means- for me anyway." I told him about things I like and things that I wanted. It was all mainly just to get it off my chest. I hate hiding things from the people I love. I didn't expect him to hate me or anything, but I expected a neutral response at best. But then he tells me that he wouldn't mind doing all that stuff? He said he would love to brush my hair and tuck me in bed and that sort of thing. He said he might even help me get dressed in the future and that he will always care about me.

 

That being said, we didn't really get a chance to talk about all of this and what it meant before he had to go off to camp. I'm thrilled he is so accepting and even willing to take care of me a little bit, but I don't know exactly how much of a role he wants in this. I'm not even sure how much of a role I want him to have. He's so good to me and I just don't want to mess anything up. The anticipation is killing me, especially since I don't know what I should say. Should I bring it up or maybe just wait and see what happens? How do I go about talking about it? I feel like I'll make things super awkward. I know I want to take things slow, considering I'm still pretty new to this whole thing myself. I just feel a little overwhelmed and anxious. 

 

Any advice?

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Guest LavanderRabbit
Write it out as a letter first. It can help organize your thoughts and you can understand what you want to say. If you don't think you can bring yourself to speak you can give him the letter. Let him know you want to take things slow and he doesn't have to do it if he is uncomfortable with it.
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Thank you for your opinion. I think writing a letter is a really good idea. I might try that. :) I always take forever to find a way to say what I'm thinking anyway. 

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What kind of camp did he go to and is he going to have phone and/or internet access? Just wondering this because I think that how much you say and the way you say it might be influenced by the amount of time that goes by between communication.

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It's a bible camp. He's being a mentor to some kids. I think it's great, but he doesn't have any sort of  technology there, so I won't be able to talk to him until Saturday evening. :(

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Since you don't know what you want quite yet, I would recommend research. If talking to your Little friends isn't an option, blogs and user submitted stories are always helpful. My favorite blog/artist is DDLG Doodles. Wattpad has a plethora of stories to sort through for ideas.

 

Another thing I want to say is not to worry if you don't fit into the Little stereotype. Just enjoy yourself.

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As was suggested above, I would organize my thoughts in a way that makes sense to me, gather some articles and do a bit of research, get some examples of things that you'd like to try and implement, and be ready to sit down and talk with him about it when he gets home. Use the time while he's at camp to collect your thoughts and breathe. This is new for both of you it seems, and you can totally take this journey together.

 

Just communicate openly, share honestly, and be gentle with each other. Move at a pace that is comfortable for you, and like Strawberry said, don't worry about the Little stereotype. There are loads of different Littles out there. Just be you, and you'll be doing just fine. <3

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