How to get a guy into a daddy mindset without sex.

[nicksPrincess9315]

I love my daddy to peices but he has a hard time being daddy without being turned on. Is there anything I can do to get him be more daddy like but not sexually?

[Guest Ginger-kit22]

I really wouldn't say it's a matter of you doing something or not. Maybe sit down and talk with him about it, explain what you want? Personally, if he's only a Daddy when you two are being intimate, then I wouldn't try to change him. It's what he's comfortable with. But that's just me. Just talk to him and see what his take on it is! Maybe he's unaware that you want him to be a Daddy when he's not turned on?

[mikereper]

you can give him a quick handjob/blowjob (or whatever seems the best for you ) to make him cum , since after he does , he'll be able to focus more on what you'r saying and you'll get through to him.

it is also possible to talk to him before he gets turned on , but you have to know the good moment where he's actually going to listen to you , and not be distracted by being turned on  .

and trying stalking directly to him , informing him or what you like and what you don't while having an open mind

[LoralieHaze]

I don't mean to be rude to the two people above but that is...not good advice. Don't just let it go if it makes unhappy or unfulfilled that he's only a daddy in the bedroom. Don't give him a HJ/BJ and then talk to him about it because that will only reinforce the situation that you're trying to fix and he'll be more confused than before!

 

I need more information before I can give appropriate advice. Did you introduce him to DDlg? If so, how long ago? How many discussions have you had about it so far?

[TheMadHatter]

I would recommend the talk with him, communication is the key to any relationship fetish or not. Next is compromise see if you both can work out a middle of the road test agreement. Maybe even have play dates together and fort building ect non-sexual let him see how happy you are and how you shine when he is daddy outside of the bedroom. the extreme solution might be to withhold sex from him until he does compromise, thats a tough one though because of other issues that could surface. Good luck my little friend

[Komorebi]

talking to him about how you feel is probably the best bet to work things out. I am in agreement with Bat.

[dnswd]

Dont have enough information to be able to give proper advice. What LKL and Bat said is true. Again since I dont know the dynamics between you and your daddy or his experience etc I can only give my insight.

 

First why should being a daddy and not be turned on be mutual exclusive? Why should they be seperate? I cant speak for other but for me when I was with my little more than 70% of the time I was turned on. Does that mean I wanted sex in some form? No I didnt. Were there times I felt bad about being turned on....yes at first when she didnt like having an actual paci and used me as a paci (I think people can guess what it was without going into details). Perhaps he is like me, someone that can be a daddy and be turned on most/all the time.

 

For me cuddling, water gun fights, watching her jump around, sleeping etc would turn me on. Maybe am different in that I enjoy the state of arousal more than completion. Another example, my last little she loves to bounce, be it in my lap or on my back or propel her when she sit on my knees (human see-saw). Those would turn me on too but it never lead to anything sexual.

 

So just talk to him about it. Just cause he gets turned on by being a daddy doesnt mean that it has to lead to sex.

Edited June 24, 2016 by dnswd

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

It's hilarious how the title says without sex and yet some people are recommending training with handjobs.

 

Talk to them. Communication is important in any relationship. Since I use my little space to cope with stress my Daddy never has interest in sex when I'm like that. Middle space is a different story of course, but really just talk to them. Maybe have non sexual activities together like coloring or watching cartoons. Let them know you would like to do that stuff without sex being involved.

 

What you don't want to do is train them to subconsciously get horny when you're in little space. Then they expect the behavior all the time. A man can listen to someone speak, even if they have issues in their trousers. They don't turn into mindless zombies that need to screw something. They can manage themselves and you don't have to always take care of it. You have your rights to say no. This is why there are safe words and consent rules and talks.