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My daddy is in prison and will be for a couple more years for somethings he did before we got together. I'm so lost. I'm so lonely....
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Guest Ginger-kit22

Chin up! It isn't the end of the world, though I know the feeling can't be nice at all. Just go out and do you. Try to stay happy and maybe start some new hobbies. Definitely talk to him if you can and want to. Try to make some new friends :) Time'll pass quick enough, trust me. It's been almost two years since I've seen my bf and it's passed by really quick with work and all of the things I've been doing.

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I try too! I just feel like I'm betraying him by having fun while he is stuck behind bars:(. I talk to him every night and I go see him at least once a month. I just feel so depressed and out of place without him...
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Guest littleontariogirl

I recently lost my daddy due to him dropping me out of the blue.. I know that it doesn't compare at all but I hope that you are able to keep your chin up and that it will all work out.

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Chin up babydoll. Love prevails, truly.

 

I was facing a similar possible situation. And I was distraught... I'm still scared about it because it can happen any time easily...

 

But I hope things work for you and your Daddy! I have high hopes you'll be fine, darling. If you wanna talk to someone you can message me...

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Thank you. I finally got to go see him after not seeing him for over a month. It was wonderful and sad at the same time because not being able to just snuggle up we barely got to hug or kiss but just seeing him and holding his hand was amazing... 42 more months:(. I tried not to show how depressed I am but he knew... I'm so so lost him..:(:(:(
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I'm so sorry you are going through this, really I am.

But you mustn't feel bad for enjoying yourself etc. Please don't take this the wrong way, but he committed a crime. He chose to do that, knowing the risks. He is merely serving his time to pay back what he did in the way that society decided he should.

Try to accept that if he hadn't made that choice, he would be next to you right now. Everyone does bad things, usually they aren't so bad as to earn time in prison, but we all need to accept the consequences of our negative behaviour.

That usually consists of being a bit upset cos a loved one storms off and doesn't speak for a few hours, or yells at us. Or to this extreme where we spend time in prison. Either way, that is our own responsibility.

You have no reason to feel guilty.

The time will pass. Keep yourself busy. Find hobbies, join classes, look for local social events to hang out with fellow littles, look for support groups for people in the same situation, go for long walks, write stories, keep a journal, read books, start a keep fit campaign etc.

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I, too, no longer have a Daddy and feel more post than I think I ever have. Just found this site. Thought someone would understand. Sigh
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I, too, no longer have a Daddy and feel more post than I think I ever have. Just found this site. Thought someone would understand. Sigh

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I definitely understand. I am so utterly miserable. He hasn't called or wrote me in awhile :(. I don't know what to do anymore.
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i just wanted to say hey and that you're not alone. My Daddy has about 4 more years. It is hard but it's not impossible. It's really important that you communicate with him and keep in touch all the ways you can. But as hard as it is, you also need to detach and have your own life. He does too. You have to find a kind of equilibrium between being close enough to still support each other, but detached enough to be able to carry on your separate lives, because the fact is they are separate right now. The world he lives in is very different than the world you live in, and he has to keep his "head in the game" there to make it through. And you need to keep your head out here or you will feel like you are locked up too. You both have to let yourself go through a grieving period and really accept and adjust to the change because it's a significant period of time. What i find the most helpful is to pick something i want to accomplish using the time i have, and then dedicate myself to that goal. Basically making the best use of the time. Maybe your Daddy could help you pick a goal that you both want for you. Something meaningful and hard and involved like developing a new skill. 

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You're not alone:(. My daddy has depression and some mental health issues genetically and he's impulsive. He's in the hospital again for attempted suicide. Everytime I'm the one that finds him which makes it all the more traumatizing. I feel so so lost without him cuddling me at night and protecting me. I've been watching over him all day and whenever this happens, I stop eating, or I throw up, and I can't sleep unless I take a sleeping pill. I love my daddy so much and this is especially traumatic to my little mindset:(. It's probably my fault and I can't stop blaming myself, and his mom blames me too, because it's usually triggered when I have an argument with him. Today because his system was trying to flush out the medication, he was hallucinating a bit and he kept telling me to take him home. Even though he couldn't tell what was real and what wasn't, when I asked him if he recognized me, he just said: "You're my precious little girl." And I just burst into tears.:(
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