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I've always been into having a daddy & being a sub but just recently found out about ddlg. My husband is interested in being my daddy but he doesn't do it enough. He's the youngest guy I've been with (29) & still has a fairly immature personality. Idk I still have a want for a older man but I'm not going to cheat/divorce. Anyway is there a way I can guide him to being what I need?
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How does he not "do it" enough when you just recently found out about DDlg? Have you ever had an open and honest discussion about what the dynamic means to you? You need to tell him your definition of a good daddy in order for him to even attempt to fill that role for you.

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Just talk to him about what you want, us guys aren't mind readers, but once we know what our significant other wants, we'll damn well work towards getting there. I guarantee that talking will help you out, a lot.

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I have talked to him and he'll do it for a day but that's it. He mostly just does it while we're intimate. When I say "do it" more I mean I want it to be a regular thing not just during sex
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I have talked to him and he'll do it for a day but that's it. He mostly just does it while we're intimate. When I say "do it" more I mean I want it to be a regular thing not just during sex

 

Oh okay, I see. Try to work on something that works well for the two of you, even if that means just two, or three times a week, when you're not having Sex.

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If you have had a thorough And honest discussion with your husband and outlined the things you would like to incorporate into your relationship as CG/l and he still does not follow through... Then maybe its just not for him. Don't be discouraged however. Just because you may have different interests does not mean you can't compromise. He may not be a inharent Daddy bit as your husband he will want to support you as a little. Why not ask him what HE is comfortable with or what part of the Caregiver/little dynamic does he feel drawn too.

 

And remember that even if NOTHING draws him to the dynamic at all... That doesn't change you being a little. Maybe its just not for him.

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Communication, communication, then... communicate about it some.

 

It sounds like he is at least interested, and that's broken ice.

In time you both will learn your personal dynamics, and be able to choose together how much is enough.

To some it's a 24\7 lifestyle, to others it's weekends or occasionally.

Let him know that it's not just sexual, if it isn't for you, and be patient.

I'd also let him know that your on his side, and not going to run away if he's not as into it.

Taking as much pressure out of the situation is great for both of you.

 

I think you're well on your way to bliss, but like most good things, bliss best comes slower and can last longer when properly aged.

Best of luck.

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