Pushing away

[Guest dyingembers]

I had one daddy that loved my neediness, he went above and beyond to meet it with all the attention a little desires. My next one didn't last long because I was needy and he was busy. I've had this also happen with some of my friends, both on and offline.... Not because of neediness always, but just because I'm me. I don't know how to fix myself.....anyways, maybe I just needed to share this to get it down in black and white.

What do you do, when who you are becomes your enemy....?

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

Being needy doesn't make you broken. It means the caregiver you have may not have enough energy nor time for you. You don't need to fix who you are because of that. It might be possible they might not be putting in enough effort either. A good way to help would to be keeping yourself busy with things or make more little friends to talk to, that way you won't seem as needy and might grow a little more independent.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Neediness is often synonymous for bad, which as lovely Lavender pointed out, simply isn't the case. There's a big difference between wanting and requiring attention, and demanding it or not understanding when someone might be too busy to give it. I think embracing your neediness, so to speak, is a good way to start, too. Try to figure out why you need attention when you need it. It's almost like the difference between head hunger and actual hunger. Do you really need attention right now, or are you just bored and lonely? Can you find something else to take up your time, or is this an instance where you absolutely need your partner? I've been where you are, and figuring out the difference helps a lot.

 

Also, some Caregivers specifically prefer "needier" Littles! So maybe that should be something you look for in your next relationship if you don't want to change the person you are. Because you absolutely shouldn't have to unless it's something you want to work on.

[Guest dyingembers]

I know I need to work on my character, but I am supremely feeling depressed in conjunction with the loneliness. Offline, my life is a disaster and I've alienated myself from those who cares for me. The trend is carrying over into my online life. I just, for once, want to feel happy.

[Komorebi]

There is nothing wrong with being needy. Nether is there anything wrong with you being you, Ember. We all have our weaknesses, most of us have scars that don't show up on the outside. 

 

There is nothing inherently wrong with being depressed, lonely, or anything else that most people view as negative, you feel that way for a reason and that reason usually involves the cruelest side of humanity.

 

 

I have seen the worse and some of the best humanity has to offer so I understand enough about the dark corners of the soul to know just how messed up things can get.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I know I need to work on my character, but I am supremely feeling depressed in conjunction with the loneliness. Offline, my life is a disaster and I've alienated myself from those who cares for me. The trend is carrying over into my online life. I just, for once, want to feel happy.

Oh, sweetheart. That's not an easy cocktail to deal with. I don't blame you for wanting to feel happy.

 

Anything we can do to help, let us know. This isn't a great place to be in, but you've got support if you want it. It's clear that you know you do, which is why you've reached out to us here.

[Guest dyingembers]

thank you

[Guest dyingembers]

thank you

[Osah]

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