Help needed... am i normal?

[AliceGlass1309]

Ive never been a little or daddys girl before. However for the last 8mths all i can do is dream about it. Its taken over my google, instagram and more! HELP! I was wondering if there are possibly some DDs or lgs out there willing to entertain my curiosity and help me understand why i get these feeling when i think about it. I am a 28yo professional from australia who has no idea where in my local community i fit in. For now id appreciate email communication due to my work taking me from place to place. I dont know what i can offer in return, im hoping that whatever it is you instill upon me can be appreciated and reciprocated to another who is just as confused as i. Thankyou in advance... xx

[Jmose1386]

For everyone it may be a little different. As for my little, it's all about her anxiety. She finds her release when she finds her subspace if you will. She has such a haRd time coping with day to day life. It relaxes her and allows her to unwind her mind when I take over. She can be free spirited without having to overwork her brain. She does so much between work, the family and everything else that comes her way during the day, I just enjoy seeing the smile on my princess' face when she gets home and can just relax

[bbyNymphette]

I dont know if this will help in anyway but from personal experience as a lg/sub i was quite confused after a while at my behavior and why i had childish tendencies because ive always been a straight forward hardcore textbook type person, and id alternatively switch between acting my lg age (5) and being an adult in my day and to day lifestyle until i fount out about BDSM,Dd/lg etc, and it was overwhelming but it felt natural ive had a few Doms who didnt exactly work out and been in many situations that ive learned from until i fount the person who was made for me. So what id say is figure out yourself first, find out what you like and what you dont, what you're exactly into personally before you try and search for a Dom if thats your personal choice to further the lifestyle. Being in pet and a little is a comfort of sorts from my mental turmoil at times and its a peace thing allowing yourself to regress into what feels right.

 

 

(srry for the ramble)i dunno if it helps but if theres anything i could shed any light on (though im not a professional) you can ask.

[LolitaDaddy]

Normal? Who knows, but you don't sound abnormal, let's find out.. Edited July 8, 2016 by LolitaDaddy

[StarEyed]

Welcome to this crazy wonderful world of DDlg!

My first suggestion is go slow. It's exciting and you're going to be contacted by many "experienced" people. Try to keep your head about yourself and tread carefully. My next suggestion is to do research on not just DDlg but about Dominates and submissives. I feel like understanding Dom/sub dynamics helped me to understand DDlg better. They aren't the same thing but they are similar. And make some friends on these boards! There are tons of great people that are willing to share their experiences. I hope you have lots of fun

[sirenaophelia]

I never knew this side of myself until i ventured out to "munches" locally I found through fetlife.com

 

First of all, there are a ton of fakes and predators in this community just... because it's easy to take advantage. BUT... don't let that deter you.

 

When I first found out this side of me, I was confused. Eventually I stopped in the community altogether because well... I wasn't finding what I wanted. I was attracting those "fakes" and "predators" ... no one serious and interested in nothing but the sexual part of it. It's not always sexual, by the way.

 

As a little, I let my adult side go and I get taken care of and play happily. It relieves stress, mental turmoil, and so many other things. It can relax you, make you feel so good...

 

But then as a submissive ... I find subspace to be liberating,much in a different sense than being a little. My Daddy was a Dom and Master... he says *I* made him the DADDY!!!! He never was until he met me. The BDSM part of our relationship has kind of been eclipsed by my constant release into little space but Daddy should know he can get me ready for a play session and more with the BDSM so easily. I can flip just for him. Never been able to before.

 

Of course, meeting my Daddy was a chance thing. I told him.. I knew from the moment I met him he was my Dom, my Daddy, my Master.. everything. I knew. I just knew. He had told himself "no we are just meeting about photography and modeling she's beautiful and her profile is amazing but she'll never be into me I'm 50 years old" ... I'm 29. I was 28 when I met him and he is now 51. The age gap does not bother me because I've always been into older men..

 

But to find these things in yourself and understand (WHICH BY THE WAY YOU ARE NORMAL!!!!!!! SURPRISE!!!!!) <3 

.... it's kind of amazing. Especially when the dynamic is strong. You'll find your one if you want a Daddy or a Dom or a Master or a man that's all three. I call Daddy my owner, too, because we indulge in pet play, on behalf of me. I've opened up his world as he opened up mine.

 

But doll, you're normal and being into this lifestyle is not weird or abnormal. It's about as right as you can get! Just... make some friends here, browse the board, look for topics and people to talk to. My Daddy is a mentor as well.

 

@sixtytwofifty is his user handle... So, you can talk to him about anything pretty much and he can help guide and teach! Welcome to the board and hopefully the lifestyle! I hope you find it as liberating as (I'm sure others feel) but I feel about it. It's freeing!!!! Just let go and let your desires take over. You'll discover your "little" or "middle" age... You'll find things that make you feel little and put you in "little space" ... Just tread carefully as my Daddy would say because there are those fakes and predators out there.

[diddlydoodlydee]

Hi! So.. obviously you've been answered already but I thought I'd add my two cents anyway ^^ You seem perfectly normal to me (but not in the boring way xD)! Though I can understand why you'd question that. But you've come to the right place! Whether you decide to move forward with this side of yourself or not, this is a safe space where no one will ever treat you like you're less than because of what you like.

Now. With that out of the way! I don't think anyone can really tell you why YOU feel the way you do. It differs from person to person. For me, I think I'm a pretty controlling person. Like... perfectionist, OCD, if it's not the way I want it I will FREAK controlling. Plus I've spent quite some time dealing with anxiety, depression, all that fun stuff. So as far as BDSM at large there's the whole freeing feeling of letting someone else take charge. But DDlg specifically well... there's just something completely otherwordly about letting yourself be in a place (mentally speaking) where you don't have to worry about anything. I mean, think about it. What kid spends their time stressing over work or bills or family problems? When you're a kid you're free to just play and have fun and be yourself without all the big people problems of life. And, for me at least, that's what being a little is! It's a way to escape, if only for a moment, all the stress and worries of being a grown up. To let yourself go back to who you were when you were younger and didn't have all the struggles you have now. And, if you're lucky enough to have a daddy or mommy or whatever kind of caregiver you prefer, a way to know for sure that there's someone who cares for you and will protect you and will always be there to catch you if you fall. And as far as I'm concerned, wanting those things is definitely normal. And anyone who says something's wrong with you for being that way is just a mean poopoo head! ^^

[Carl]

Ok ill start by saying you are normal, with new found little girl desires. Why do I say that? Well, as it turns out I'm right where you are. I'd consider myself a "normal" guy. But like you ive stumbled across this ddlg world and it's absolutely sparked something inside me. It's also consumed a lot of my time and thoughts lately, researching, and seeking information. I think my imagination is now in overdrive )

 

I understand you have never been a little, or had a daddy before... i also have not cared for a little nor been a daddy. Although the thought of exploring a relationship between daddy and his little girl does excite me. Maybe we could explore this new adventure together? I can't offer past experience as a daddy... but can offer a daddy who's safe, understanding, non-judgmental, fun, playful, and ready to both learn and teach! Daddy's little princess will be in strong safe hands )

 

I actually just found this site tonight... ( So hello to the rest of the gang ) seen your post and joined so I could reply so be sure to send daddy a message back.

 

Daddy xox

NSW just outside Sydney

[prncsscs]

Normal? Who wants to be normal- that's so boring.

Being interested in DDLG is nothing to panic about. I'm sure you'll find someone to help you out, but really, is anyone ever really normal? Everyone's a lil weird.

[Guest annemarie]

when i first got into this i was totally completely obsessed with it too, so i don't think there's anything abnormal about how you're behaving at all