Helping with communication

[Harley_Quinn]

Hai,

 

Idk if there's a thread or not but I know some littles have a hard time communicating their emotions.

Like I do. I can't tell daddy how I feel ever. And I was actually wondering if some caregivers had any ideas to help daddy help me. (Or help other daddy's help their littles too). Even help with things such as bathroom or hungry or sleepy.

[sirenaophelia]

I'm same ... Tonight even I had a break down of uncontrollable emotions.. crying, sobbing, near panic attacks...

 

Just because I'm not very good at communication. Daddy is VERY patient with me. He grounds me and gets me to the point I can talk and listen and understand... After my emotions pour out and no control and just building and building... Yeah. It's hard.

 

My Daddy could give some insight! He's a mentor and very good at it... @sixtytwofifty

[Tenno64]

My little left me. We still talk because we care about eachother deeply even as friends. Ill always be there for her no matter what and she knows that. I'm a new Daddy and I just didn't know enough to make her feel submissive I guess. Hopefully she'll come back to me one day, but it doesnt matter to me cause I'm still a part of her life and as long as she is happy I'm OK. She knows I'll always be there for her. And she was able to express her feelings when she left because of the trust and respect we have. Our communication isn't perfect yet I know it's not always going to be good. The best thing you can do is be straight forward. I'm a new Daddy, but no matter the relationship honesty is best. You have to understand that communication isn't always going to be a happy one and sometimes it may cause a bump in the road. If your Daddy loves you the way I loved my Princess than he will be open and understanding to how you feel. Even if it means leaving. Just rember when you speak to your Daddy that he loves you and you are his entire world. Make him understand he is yours when yoh talk to him and that you're opening up because you want that deeper bond. If you can't be open with him it's only going to hurt you both. I hope this helped and I wish you all luck!

[Sergeant-Snuggles]

Sometimes it's easier to talk about your feelings when you're not in little space. I've given my littles safewords to use when they need to express themselves as people instead of littles. Once they get it out of their system and ur sympathizing and dressing their emotions as real people they feel better and u can slowly bring them back into little space. Both these littles were new to it, tho, and weren't always in little space anyway. One tried to be at first but it worked out verrrrrry badly because her anxiety built up to a breaking point. Then when we tried again (after we separated for a while because she couldn't handle the commitment along with her issues) I told her she could be herself whenever she needed to so she wouldn't feel trapped and unable to express herself.

[kissingkitten]

I cannot express emotions very good when being lil or a sub. My brain just freezes and I can't get the words out. I dont do well expressing my emotions even when big. One time after i continued to do what i knew was upsetting me i came apart inside and got dressed and "ran away" from the house. I had to get away. All i could say was "i have to go" "i cant" "i haves to go". My daddy didnt know i was having a difficult time processing emotions before i was in lil-then sub space and i let it go too far. I had flight as a reaction instead of being held and loved and poor daddy didnt know what had gone wrong. Hours later after i had gone several places an then could come home again we had a talk and i explained how i knew i wasnt doing good emotionally that day but because i wanted to be a good girl i did what he asked anyway even though i knew it would make me worse inside. I did it from love and wanting to be a good girl. But it was the wrong decision because it hurt me in my brain. This is precisely why i am not the daddy/mommy/caregiver. I dont make the smartest decisions when it comes to me. And i hurt daddy because i ran. After i was calm enough and daddy patiently talked me through what happened we decided to use the safe word "yellow". Even when it's not in a bdsm context and im just in lil space but cant express things the word yellow lets him know something is up. Then he can take care and do what daddies do to figure things out. It is a simple word that i can remember no matter what and yet leaves me with a doorway where i can get a message to daddy without getting all frustrated in my brain. I know this was a long story but i hope it helps someone.