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Boyfriend uncomfortable being "daddy"


Bittersweet.Mya

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Haii, so my boyfriend who I've known for 2 years now has only just been introduced into Dd/Lg and was unsure at first but gave it a shot and now he is comfortable with my little side, my stuffies, pacis etc but he has mentioned the word "daddy" and how he doesn't like it. When I'm in little space he isn't weirded out but he treats me kind of like usual, he isn't dom at all and I wanna bring that side out of him. Any suggestions???

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Hmm..see this is a toughie!

If your partner doesn't like being called daddy and he doesn't act like a dom...the only thing I could think of to do would be to straight up ask him how he feels about being a bit more dominant while you're little. Maybe give him a few examples from big things like bringing in punishment  or bondage to smaller things like brushing your hair, cutting up your food into smaller bites, or giving you chores to complete.

Another way to try and coax out the dominant side of him (assuming he has one hidden somewhere) is to be a a really good sub. I mean TRULY giving your all to submit to him. Say yessir (since he doesn't like daddy) to everything he says, immediately doing what he asks, acting respectfully at all times, and lots of nuzzles and telling him that you belong to him.

I did this recently and really brought out the dominant side in my fiance full-force.

 

Luckies to you! :D

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Have a talk with him about it, be honest and frank.  Understand that the conclusion may be separation.  Compromise is one thing.  But you can't change who a person is.  No matter how much you may like someone and they may like you, doesn't always mean you're a match.

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Sometimes there is no dominant side to bring out in someone. Other than having a talk with him and telling him some of the things you would like for him to try that's about as much as you can do. Not everyone has it in them.

 

This doesn't make him a bad partner, just maybe not the Daddy type. But as long as he loves you and accepts your little behavior (even if he doesn't take part), and if your OK with that because you love him then it will be fine. You don't NEED him to be a Daddy, just a good partner.

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^^^What P said. 

 

Not all men have the "dom" personality - Some just don't have those desires or traits. You can't make someone something they are not. 

 

If hes a good partner then be happy with that!

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