Coming out about dd/lg

[Guest babyemmy]

I want to be comfortable talking about my daddy, calling him Daddy in public ( even infront of his kind of meanie judgmental friends) and telling my friends or public. I'm also wanting to make a dd/lg (or just any cg/l) youtube channel but i'm a pretty closeted little. Joining these forums is scary for me but also comforting. I have also told a few friends. Any advice??

[Guest NeedToServe]

I personally see no reason to tell anyone anything. Relationships are intimate. Why do people need to know? You will always be judged for calling him daddy in front of others, that will never change, and they don't want to be forced to accept your particular kind of relationship, whether that is right or wrong.

Ddlg is intimate and is between two consenting adults. It is, by definition, a kink, and society does not freely embrace kink.

[LittlePupChickpea]

I personally see no reason to tell anyone anything. Relationships are intimate. Why do people need to know? You will always be judged for calling him daddy in front of others, that will never change, and they don't want to be forced to accept your particular kind of relationship, whether that is right or wrong.

Ddlg is intimate and is between two consenting adults. It is, by definition, a kink, and society does not freely embrace kink.

I totally agree, some parts of your life are better left private. For most littles, the lifestyle seems normal and totally harmless, but there are super judgmental people out there and a lot of people aren't comfortable talking about it in a positive light. The ddlg community is one of those things that will probably never be openly accepted by our whole society, so it's best to keep it to ourselves and not let anybody else ruin our fun 

[Princess-P]

Your relationship dynamic doesn't belong in public places. Outsiders haven't consented to being a part of it so you shouldn't shove it in their faces.

 

A YouTube Chanel is up to yo. People can choose to ignore it but you would have to flag it as adult content even if its non graphic because its still kink related.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

for us, we keep our private life private. also, we have children so it's not something I need getting around our small town and into my kids school. the youtube channel might be your best bet for getting feelings out and meeting like-minded people.

[Guest NeedToServe]

Or open a tumblr blog. Its a great way to express yourself and become part of a community, even if its only online. Had mine for about 18 months now and its my "safe place".

[Little_Ella]

I'm not out with strangers but amongst my friends I am. My house mate doesn't bat an eyelid at seeing me with my sippy cup watching my little pony. My friends are very open minded though and I've known them all for many many years and they completely accept me. I think you just have to be selective about the kind of people you are open with. I'm not open with my family because they just wouldn't understand and I don't need that grief.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I am with the other littles here - While it's nothing to be ashamed of.. it's a private thing. It's kinda like having a huge dick.. Great to have it, Great to be proud of it - But you wouldn't wanna just wave it around in the mall or your local Walmart. 

 

I have close friends who know I am in a TPE Dom/sub dynamic.. but that is the extent of what they know.. Again not because I am ashamed but because they aren't part of my relationship and I owe no one any explanations. 

 

In a total power exchange sometimes things can be brought out in public but you just have to learn to be tactful and have class about it. It's fine to be flirty or cute but yea... its not cool to make people uncomfortable. 

[Guest cherryteapot]

I am with the other littles here - While it's nothing to be ashamed of.. it's a private thing. It's kinda like having a huge dick.. Great to have it, Great to be proud of it - But you wouldn't wanna just wave it around in the mall or your local Walmart. 

 

I have close friends who know I am in a TPE Dom/sub dynamic.. but that is the extent of what they know.. Again not because I am ashamed but because they aren't part of my relationship and I owe no one any explanations. 

 

In a total power exchange sometimes things can be brought out in public but you just have to learn to be tactful and have class about it. It's fine to be flirty or cute but yea... its not cool to make people uncomfortable. 

i agree with this one completly! also it could cause problems with people not fully understanding your relationship, it's okay to be open around close friends but best to stay private in public spaces as it could very quickly become unsafe for your relationship if someone has a wrong assumption.

[Guest babyemmy]

Being little is my life style though )):

ALSO, I want little friends. I will consider making a tumblr blog. 

For now, I have only one video up.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQHoMkXiONU

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Being little is a lifestyle for most of us as well. It's fine to express it - we all do - just choose your timing carefully.

[Princess-P]

Even if CG/l is your lifestyle it is still a dynamic that falls under the BDSM umbrella. You have every right to participate in any dynamic that suits you and you consenting adult partner. However some things do not belong in public. If its going to make people around you uncomfortable don't do it. Nothing is stopping you from dressing cute, having you partner hold your hand when crossing a street, or small things like that. However some things only belong in private. People who do not participate in your relationship do not want to have it tossed in their face and that's something to be respected.

 

When in public spaces keep others in mind is something you should do regardless of the activity. I have a mouth like a sailor... That doesn't mean I'm at the playground with my daughter dropping F*bombs. And I hate when I see couples groping eachother in public, its disgusting. Conduct yourself with class and decorum at all times.

[GlitterUnicorn]

Oh wow. Okay from the looks of it you're relatively new to this (Haha don't worry, I am too) First of all, it's okay to tell a few people about them. Accepting friends. Maybe even family. It's perfectly okay to roam around in cute clothes and hold your boyfriends hand. But walking in public, calling your boyfriend Daddy and displaying other child-like characteristics will make people uncomfortable for obvious reasons. For one, children. If I ever saw a couple being that way in front of my kid, I would probably scream my head off at them. It's a wonderful lifestyle, but not something the little ones should be exposed to. Secondly, you have to be aware that not everyone is as understanding. They will hate you. They will shame you. And hurt you. Why would you go through all that just to show to the world that you're a part of the DDLG lifestyle? I'm not saying everyone is like this but a lot of people are.

Not showing the world you're a little doesn't mean you're ashamed of it or repressed. Some things are meant to be kept private, this is simply one of them.

Edited July 20, 2016 by GlitterUnicorn