Little-Kitten97 Posted July 14, 2016 Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 I'm a little and I feel like I get too needy for attention but I can't help it. I get really lonely sometimes and since I don't have a proper daddy right now(bit even so its still the same when I do have a daddy) it could be due to my kitten side but I don't know... Does anyone have any advice? Or even a theory? Cause I don't want to get a daddy then lose him cause I'm too needy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest weeniehutjr Posted July 14, 2016 Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 There's no such thing as too needy in my opinion! Have confidence in yourself, love with every thing you got and the right person will accept that 100% Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little-Kitten97 Posted July 14, 2016 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 Thank you weeniehutjr :3 that makes me feel a lot better to be honest :3 I just hope I find the right person soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest NeedToServe Posted July 14, 2016 Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 This is something I see over and over and OVER again. If you are too needy for a daddy, he shouldn't be your daddy in the first place. Doesn't make someone a bad person, many simply cannot or do not want to deal with that level of intense need, but the right daddy for you will embrace it, and as you come to trust and feel secure with him, it will probably settle down anyway. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest weeniehutjr Posted July 14, 2016 Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 You definitely will! Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tempest Posted July 14, 2016 Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 I get this in spades. I'm definitely a needy person too, and worry constantly that I'm gonna make people mad. So, I'm gonna read the comments too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess-P Posted July 14, 2016 Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 I happen to think there is such a thing as too needy. If your needing constant attention to the point you can't go a few hours without talking to your partner (for example; while they are working), or if you don't get a reply within minutes and it sends you into a fit, or if your crying and whining constantly if your not getting an unreasonable amount of attention... Then that's too needy. And unhealthy. Also if you cant be bothered to support yourself and you expect your partner to do it for you, or refuse to do things for yourself simply because you want them to do it for you... That's also way too needy. And also really just rediculous. So there is a line where you can cross into the too needy category, but expecting your partner to not ignore you or to do certain things to make your relationship functional and to make you feel loved is not needy. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
honeyboy Posted July 14, 2016 Report Share Posted July 14, 2016 I'm incredibly needy (I have borderline personality disorder and it affects that a lot) but honestly I think you just need to find the right daddy. I've had problems in the past, but my current daddy understands my neediness. We talk way more than most couples, but not just because of my neediness - if daddy doesn't hear from me for more than 2 hours they start worrying and missing me too. Not to the same extent as in my case sometimes, but we fit well together. Daddy could never imagine talking to me once a day, let alone going without talking to me at all the whole day. You might find some of your relationships are affected negatively by your neediness, but if it's something you can't control then you have to keep looking until you find a daddy who will accept and maybe even welcome your neediness. It's not always a terrible trait, as long as you try to bear in mind that there WILL be times you'll have to be alone and you'll have to work on ways to cope with that when it happens. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest CalicoKitt3n Posted July 15, 2016 Report Share Posted July 15, 2016 (edited) . Edited July 26, 2019 by Alicorn 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Don Pablo Posted July 15, 2016 Report Share Posted July 15, 2016 neediness is relative, like anything tbh LUL, for some you might be too needy, for some not needy enough and there will be daddys that will find your neediness just perfect, wait for one of them also, if you dont rush a relationship, your potential partner will have an idea of how needy you are and either accept it or let it be before something serious starts, so don't worry about loosing a daddy because of how needy you are. i hate when people write in unreadable colours Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little_Ella Posted July 15, 2016 Report Share Posted July 15, 2016 I agree with what most people have said here, you just need to find the right daddy. I'm needy but it doesn't bother my daddy at all because he loves to take care of me. I think most littles are quite needy - it comes with our childish nature. Don't feel bad about it, you're not alone x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daddyslilhoneybee Posted July 20, 2016 Report Share Posted July 20, 2016 I am needy, daddy knows all my signs and behaviors for when I am needing more attention! You just have to find that person who understands the level of attention you need and is committed to you, and your needs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Joe Joe Posted July 20, 2016 Report Share Posted July 20, 2016 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littlelili Posted July 20, 2016 Report Share Posted July 20, 2016 If you think that you are too needy, maybe you are pointing a chance of improvement yourself and that's very good!!! I think that you should find a good balance, being needy is cute and it is good in a DDlg relationship. However if you are too much needy you will end up putting your daddy in difficult situations, I mean at work, or when traveling or stuff. If you can understand that there are good times to be really needy, and that there are times to be respectful with other's time and attention, then you'll be totally ok. If you want to find a good daddy, then you must be a good little as well. good luck with that!! Hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littlebylittle Posted July 20, 2016 Report Share Posted July 20, 2016 Hello ! I agree with Princess-P, I think it's possible to be too needy and that's not good for personal development. I have no idea if that's your case, though - I don't know you. I don't think that it's about finding the right Daddy, or rather, it's half of the equation, the other half is yourself (in fact its more 90% about yourself). As Dark Glitter pointed out, you are yourself pointing an issue. While it does not necessarily mean that you are too needy, it still raises a red pink flag - a part of you tells something is worth attention. Moreover, in your post, you mention you are already fearing to loose someone - someone whom you don't have yet! This sounds a bit needy, or at least is a telltale sign of something deeper. I think you should not taken your level of "needy-ness" as a given - you can definitely work on it if you feel uncomfortable with it - and improve by reducing it. It's up to you (and of course it's easier said that done - but still, it's not something fixed, it's something you can work on - better than waiting for the 'right' Daddy to show up). Wouldn't be it super nice to know that you enjoy your Daddy not only because you have a need you can't control, but because you want it from the bottom of your heart? It will also reduce your anxiety ! Also, from a very pragmatic point of view, if you have reduced needs, you will find a Daddy who can fulfill them more easily + you will love him not only because he is the rare one fulfilling these needs, but because you chose him. I hope you will find the right balance and a Daddy who makes you happy ! Twinsen 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirenaophelia Posted July 21, 2016 Report Share Posted July 21, 2016 I HAVE a Daddy and *I* FEEL I'm too needy as well. I don't think it's a problem, though. I'd imagine a really good Daddy would accept that neediness and put himself into the moments and do so much for you that "too needy" doesn't exist... At least that's kinda what my Daddy has kind of taught me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandababy Posted July 21, 2016 Report Share Posted July 21, 2016 I think most littles worry about this at one time or another. I know I do. I recently found someone who is very accepting and understanding and I still worry about being too much for him. I've gotten so used to that feeling of being too much or not enough in relationships that it's hard to let it go. I agree with the other comments in terms of being needy is okay and a part of who many of us are as littles. As long as it doesn't get to the point where it is unhealthy or harmful, then the right Daddy will appreciate and embrace that neediness. Patience is really the hardest part...took me almost 44 years to find my just right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CanGuy Posted August 4, 2016 Report Share Posted August 4, 2016 I think one of the defining characteristics of most littles is SOME degree of neediness. It's perfectly normal and like a lot of people have said here, if your daddy thinks you're too needy, maybe they aren't the right daddy for you. A littles neediness should be just as much as a daddies WANT for them. Daddies sometimes get needy too. They too want to talk to and see and play with their littles. It's a two way street, so don't feel bad for how you feel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MissNMTX Posted August 5, 2016 Report Share Posted August 5, 2016 I had this same problem even in my vanilla relationships. Always wanting the connection and feedback. When I was told I was little and started studying it made so much more sense to me. Its the approval and affection you need. Its hard in relationships with people who aren't Daddies and since I've yet to find my Daddy I can't help there. I do find it helped to set rules for myself and to make sure I always had a plan for what to say....So it didn't feel like talking for no reason! In the end, it boils down to part of who you are...its something deep in you. A real Daddy will understand this and help you get to the root of why. Hopefully, we'll both stay true to ourselves and find people to love and embrace all of who we are. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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