DD/lg and therapy

[Eves]

Hi all, 

 

I'm Eva, a Little, and very new to this, and have spent the last week or so browsing the forums here and learning lots - so much great information and insights. 

 

I'm a very private person and opening up is pretty hard for me in general. I have a therapist, I've been seeing her for about a year, she's amazing.  I'm good at compartmentalising, which is not a great habit apparently, but there you have it. 

 

My question is this - has anyone here mentioned their DD/lg to their therapist and has that been something that they've received with understanding? I'm pretty self-aware - I can pinpoint the reasons that DDlg appeals to me, so I don't feel any particular need to open that can of worms with my therapist... 

 

Or have people kept that info to themselves? And how has that worked out? 

 

Thanks a mil for any thoughts. 

Eves. 

[Guest FrenchDaddy]

Hi Eves,

 

I see a psychologist (a cognitive behavorial therapy) for the problems I encounter with Asperger syndrome (anxiety, depression, difficulties with social interactions, etc.) and I never told her about DD/lg. I compartmentalize a lot too.

 

DD/lg is (not only but) closely linked to my sexual intimacy and I don't feel the reason to discuss this topic with her now.

[Eves]

Thanks for the reply, Friedrich!  

[Guest itsbabygirlbean]

I had mentioned it to mine. My therapist knew about it from a kink standpoint, and was super intrigued by it. He told me that I shouldn't feel uncomfortable about sharing it.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Both my therapist as well as my girlfriend's (we're both Littles) know that we are living a ddlg lifestyle. Neither of us are sexual in our Little spaces, and both our therapists find it very normal and healthy as a coping mechanism. They've both been very understanding and expressed interest in discussing why it appeals to us.

[Guest friendeavors]

It could give your therapist a better insight to your lifestyle, thought processes, etc but may not be appropriate or necessary.

 

 

Things to consider:

Does the DDLG lifestyle pertain to any of the reasons you are seeking council?

Will such a confession result in prejudice or bias?  (It never should in these circumstances but its a possibility none the less.)

Is your therapist knowledgeable enough to understand and correlate psychology, your reasons for council, and the DDLG lifestyle?

Will sharing this aspect of your lifestyle potentially mislead your therapist from any other underlying issue(s)?

 

In my opinion, think deeply of as many possible outcomes as you can (similar to those above) to better determine whether or not you should share your DDLG lifestyle.

[Eves]

Thanks all for great insight. These are things worth considering in GENERAL (for myself, independently of my therapist), as well as possibly broaching with her. 

 

Much appreciated.

[ToraHime]

I informed my therapist about ddlg...more like age play and 'daddy issues' but not before I explained to her how much my distant narcissistic father messed with my psychological development growing up . She seems fine with me playing with toys and pretending to be 12 and looked after by daddy once in a while since it isn't hurting anyone and there are far worse coping mechanisms out there.

[BbSo]

I told my therapist not too long ago about being a little. She was understanding and accepting, and seemed to encourage continuing to explore it (it's all new to me, I had repressed all this stuff for years and that was definitely not healthy for me). So it went way better than I expected, and she supports me

[Freuds Teddy Bear]

Hi Eves;

 

New here, and this is my first post.  I actually ended up here through psychological interest, so this seems like a good place to start.  If you have a therapist, It may actually be very helpful to you, and your therapy to tell them about your involvement in DDlg.  As much as people tend to believe they are "self-aware", the therapists job is to find the parts of the person they are most unaware of, and help them to come to terms with those dissociated parts, they are trained to do this.  DDlg involvement seems to, in my opinion, speak directly to those parts of the person where Trauma may be hidden or emotional development may be arrested, very much because DDlg seems to directly reflect the part of the psyche known as the "inner child" where very much of a persons repressed and hidden infantile and childhood frustrations, resentments, and developmental traumas lie.  By letting your therapist into your "little" world, they may be able to quickly find the areas which are causing you to seek therapy to begin with.  I know it seems scary to open up, but in reality, that seems to be much of why littles are looking for "bigs" or parental figures, to have someone who cares and is understanding, to have a place and situation where these things can be "acted out".  In my estimation, many times DDlg involvement is this "inner child" looking to recreate "childhood developmental situations" later in life so that they may be worked through with a "parental" figure, because the "little" may be in some way stuck in that same regressive situation psychologically.  In much the same way "bigs" may be looking for a situation to be the control and nurturance figure as a way of dealing with their own lack of nurturance received, and lack of control they felt in their own childhood.  I know the Mommies and Daddies may not like to hear this, because it takes away some of their power, but just think of your therapist as a big without any, or at least much less of an underlying "unconscious" motivation (sexual or otherwise) to help you, because it is what they are passionate about and "actually" trained and educated to do.....Hope this helps. 

Edited July 27, 2016 by Freuds Teddy Bear

[LoralieHaze]

I've kind of told my psychiatrist about it. Not in full detail, or any of the sexual aspects, but that I feel like a little girl sometimes and like to act/dress as such. Also that there is a subset of people who enjoy doing the same, and that there is a subset of people who find that attractive. I was really worried about telling him, even though I've been seeing him for about 8 years now and we're more like friends at this point. He didn't side eye me at all, he was totally okay with it and was amused by the fact that I have a Monster High coloring book. The only reason I mentioned it was because he noticed I'd been a lot happier these past 3 months and he wanted to know why. (I didn't say it was DDlg or use the word "daddy" though, I thought that might be too much information.)

[Freuds Teddy Bear]

If you've been seeing your psychiatrist for 8 years, I doubt any of this would come as a surprise, rarely do they lay all the cards on the table as to their insights, much as the patient is rarely forthcoming with their deepest material.  Most of that stuff is just assumed over time since something known as the "incest drive"  is often seen as the source of a lot of a persons mental anguish.  The patient usually thinks they are doing a pretty good job of hiding certain things, but complexes, especially Electra complex, has a way of giving itself away.....Usually through something known as polar opposing overcompensation.  The shrink watches the over-compensatory behavior, then figures that the truth is much closer to the opposite stance.  Pretty standard Electra Complex therapy.  

[Sanrio333]

What if a Daddy is a non-practicing child psychologist?

[LittlePupRune]

I've actually been thinking about bringing it up. I know my therapist is open-minded (I mean he's the one who pushed for me to start going to the local lgbt center) but I'm thinking of introducing it slowly as just kink in general then going from there based on the understanding and reaction.

[Harley_Quinn]

I mentioned it to an old therapist. But that's as far as I'll tell anyone what was said

[Baby Neko]

I'm training in psychology and we aren't taught to be against kinks or anything like this, so I think usually they will be fine if they can see it's doing more good than harm. I think they like when clients discuss their hobbies and interests to bond over it and make the client feel safer with them. However, you don't need to share details you don't think are relevant to what you're seeking therapy for so don't feel pressured.