cloverborne Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 (edited) Okay so I need advice, and I know I'm going to get massively judged based on the title so I am going to say I AM NOT ASKING ADVICE IF I SHOULD HAVE A RELATION SHIP WITH THIS PERSON AND OBVIOUSLY NOTHING IS GOING TO HAPPEN! But anyway I've been talking to this girl for the past couple of hours, it's lucky I found out early! I thought she was 22 it turns out she is significantly younger. The advice I want is how to help her, I'm worried for her safety as she has told me that she had a daddy previously who was 26, knew she was underage and asked her for nudes and things. I don't want her to try talking to someone else and get taken advantage of. I have told her that if she does talk to other people, then she can come to me so I can attempt to advise her on things and do whatever possible to keep her safe. I don't know if that's right to say though, is there still risk for me, should I just walk away from the whole thing? Thanks for reading, I really hope you can be understanding and not too judgemental Edit: I'll just say she isn't a member of this forum she messaged me on reddit through the /r/littlepersonals section Edited July 30, 2016 by cloverborne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess-P Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 Nope. Walk away. Any time that your interacting with someone underage you are putting yourself at risk. Big time. Cut it off, say "sorry your underage, I can't talk to you" and then block her from further contact. You might feel worried for her but honestly thats her own problem. She wants to play grown up in a adult space that has every indication and probably straight forward warnings about being 18+ she knows she's getting her self in a bad spot and that she's putting others at risk for interacting with them. Its selfish of her but obviously she's fine with that since she has decided to join that kind of community. Not your problem. Shut it down. Protect yourself. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeCallsMePrincess Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 walk away. seriously, it's not your job to parent this child and you could get yourself into a lot of trouble. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TallNerd Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 Aside from legal standpoint, it's not much of a taboo for me. Teen girls are cute. I suggest if it bothers you just block her and move on with your life. You're not her father and you gave her advice and she'll either choose to ignore it or do her own thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Zephy Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 If you really wish to help and protect her report her to the moderators of the subreddit. Don't get involved further. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Grinch Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 Report and move on. /Endofstory Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest DragonDaddy Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 Unfortunately it's a pitfall of the DDlg world, underage littles! I would recommend distancing yourself and maintaining boundaries for legal reasons even talking could be misinterpreted. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest NeedToServe Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 You can't "help" her, she isn't your responsibility. The more you talk, the worse you make it. Block and walk away. Immediately. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Moonpie Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 I agree with them all...just leave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloverborne Posted July 30, 2016 Author Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 Okay thanks everyone, I have told her I will no longer talk to her and that's the end of it 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Coyote420 Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 Well honestly when I look at girls from 15 to 25 years old it all looks the same to me. It's hard to judge a girl's age bassed on looks so it's easy for a girl to decieve you age wise. The girl is probably interested in older, mature guys so she lies about her age, so she wouldnt be rejected just cause of that, but she doesent understand the amount of trouble you could get into for that. I reccommend you to do the same as the above mentioned responses. Just send her a messege explaining why you have to stop talking to her and that she should find guys her own age, before blocking her , afterall a person's matrity has lil to do with age (well offcourse u grow as a person with age, but when it comes down to it it's all about character). A 15 year old can act mature, and a 30 year old can be worse then a child. Bottom line is that YOU HAVE TO STOP TALKING TO HER! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrB Posted July 30, 2016 Report Share Posted July 30, 2016 A friend of mine had this problem as mentioned above it is a nasty pitfall of DD/LG and sadly a lot of underage girls seem to see it as a fad and think there is no danger but there is. Hell you do not have to look far to find fake Daddys who are just fuckboys looking for what they think are easy girls but on top of that there are real sexual predators hiding behind the veil of Daddys. In fact there are some great tumblrs and sites dedicated to pointing out the differences and danger signs. However as said above yeah most of the time the underage girls do not listen to this. My friend was like you a nice guy who wanted to prevent her from becoming another nasty story of online abuse or worse but like everyone has said it's too risky. My friend did not listen to advice from me and many others and continued talking to her and it nearly blew up in his face. The girl acted like she was being careful but was flat out advertising herself online and then even claimed they were having sex! Now I and many others knew this was bull as they were a long distance apart and he was a student so yeah flat broke. Plus what she didn't know was he didn't have a passport and they take like 8 weeks to get so yeah there was no way but still he freaked out and deleted his tumblr and hasn't heard anything more on it BUUUUT she was asking for his phone number for "protection" :/ Best advice has already been given report and walk away but I thought I would share this story just incase you wondered. You seem a nice guy so don't let the bad ones screw you over Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterBrent Posted August 1, 2016 Report Share Posted August 1, 2016 (edited) . Edited January 3 by MasterBrent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess-P Posted August 1, 2016 Report Share Posted August 1, 2016 Even if she's one day away from being 18 it doesn't matter. She's not legal. She shouldn't be joining an adult community, and she can still get him in a TON of shit. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mad.Max.1080 Posted August 1, 2016 Report Share Posted August 1, 2016 Just walk away, you are the one in danger here, not her, you are not responsible of her, think about yourself too and all you have to loose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littleharleyq Posted August 1, 2016 Report Share Posted August 1, 2016 Agreed with everyone. My former daddy started talking to this girl and she said she was 18 and they meet luckily nothing sexual happened but he found out she was 15.she then wanted to keep talking to him because she had depression and a lot of issues and he told me about this and when I tried to message him to see how things were going i heard nothing and I haven't heard from him in weeks and his profile on fetlife no longer exists and I have no idea what ended up happening to him and it makes me sad cuz all he was doing was being a nice guy and he ended up getting screwed over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeCallsMePrincess Posted August 1, 2016 Report Share Posted August 1, 2016 another view on underage "littles", they're not littles. they're children. also, if they send nude pics even if you don't ask, it's considered child pornography in most areas and you could BOTH be in some serious shit should the child's parents find out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloverborne Posted August 2, 2016 Author Report Share Posted August 2, 2016 I didn't really want to say what her actual age is, it doesn't really matter because under 18 is under 18 but as some people have asked I will say she was under 16 I hope that will stop the comments that some people are saying it may be okay if shes only 17 or whatever! Adding on to what HeCallsMePrincess said, I didn't think about it at first but after finding out her age I got a very strong "Child looking for a father figure" vibe rather than her being an actual little Anyways like I said before I told her I would no longer speak to her, and she seemed to understand and hasn't attempted to get back in touch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Youngoldsoul Posted August 12, 2016 Report Share Posted August 12, 2016 hey just wanted to add my advice and hopefully it will help you a bit.... As everyone here has mentioned, WALK AWAY...that is the best thing you can do for both yourself and her....I know you have a genuine desire to help this girl, but it is not worth the potential lifelong consequences to yourself, even if your intentions are pure there are literally thousands of guys that thought the same thing and ended up on the last list you want to be on....it is her parents job to raise her, not you. That being said, in the future I highly recommend some form of age verification with a potential little, especially if they look really young and definetly before any sort of "playtime" conversations take place...good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FitPapaBear Posted August 12, 2016 Report Share Posted August 12, 2016 You know you could be a Mentor to the girl... No romance or sexual interest, just guidance. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest algernon Posted August 12, 2016 Report Share Posted August 12, 2016 You know you could be a Mentor to the girl... No romance or sexual interest, just guidance. There exist worthy institutions and organizations that provide excellent and meaningful guidance and mentoring to minors. Adult BDSM communities are not on the list. I understand that motivation, but I'm with all those here who say get out of that, and right away. It's too dangerous, too messy, and even assuming perfect intentions and perfect behavior by both parties, there are still too many ways that ends up with the cloverborne's life going to hell, and fast. I have seen it happen. It leaves someone with nothing but regret. Even strictly online communication is out of the question in this context. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest c-m-punk Posted August 12, 2016 Report Share Posted August 12, 2016 You know you could be a Mentor to the girl... No romance or sexual interest, just guidance. Even doing that can be seen as grooming her for a future relationship which is still a crime. One wrong word or a misinterpretation and it's big trouble Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FitPapaBear Posted August 12, 2016 Report Share Posted August 12, 2016 I'd risk it to keep her safe. Would thread extra carefully though and make sure I'm experienced enough and am able to maintain control of all events. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest algernon Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 (edited) I'd risk it to keep her safe. Would thread extra carefully though and make sure I'm experienced enough and am able to maintain control of all events.Except her safety is not his responsibility. I'm not arguing against altruism, just that this is one of those cases where both the moral high ground and the only possible practical course of action are to walk away. If her safety is a legitimate concern, the police can be notified, as well as school officials, family, etc. And you can tread as carefully as you want, but no one with any amount of experience can "maintain control of all events". That's not the case in any relationship or any situation in life, and when it comes to something like this, any one of millions of pervasive little variables has the possibility of ruining the rest of his life. Edited August 13, 2016 by algernon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGambler Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 Guidance can sound fine but its dangerous too. Which is kinda sad since the girl is, obviously, safer talking with you than to some kid's stalker but sooner or later she would want more from you, i fear. You did the right thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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