Is he cheating or am I paranoid?

[Guest cottoncandyheart]

Yesterday my daddy said he'd tried to install Snapchat again on his phone so he could see my snaps again (he has a Windows phone which doesn't allow anyone to download Snapchat, but he said he got it with a third-party app, he then said he saw my snap story and then it crashed). However, I thought I'd check if it had worked and if he saw my story which he had, and I clicked on his name. His snap story had increased by a good 300 points (I'm not some crazy stalker..the old number was my mum's birthday, easily memorable). I of course panicked especially as the last time he had it (a good year ago), I was his only contact and he had not sent me any snaps and his score remained at the score he left with. I asked him about it (didn't accuse, just asked), and he said he had absolutely no idea why it had jumped so much as he never used Snapchat (and couldn't anyway, having a Windows phone) and put it down to the third-party app glitching or the score just refreshing because he hadn't used it in so long. I also sent him a snap back in March and it told me he had opened it Sunday when yesterday (the day he said he got it) was Wednesday... I told him to tell me if there was anything going on, he got quite defensive and told me to just believe him. I said to him don't get defensive because that clearly means you're lying, he said I'm not defensive, I'm angry that you'd assume I would use it without telling you, and you're my only friend etc etc. So I let it go, and apologised. 

 

This morning after we got off the phone, I checked the score again out of interest. It had gone up again by another point. I of course flipped and messaged him asking why the hell it had gone up again. He said not this again, I don't have the app anymore I have NO idea why it's going up! etc etc. I was crying and panicking, and I am so scared he's cheating on me. He works very very long hours and barely has time to message me, let alone use Snapchat if he does. I just don't understand and I feel so hurt and scared of him cheating on me. I love him and I do trust him, I just think this is very very odd for this to happen. Please don't say I'm stalking him, being stupid etc. I feel like getting upset over this is relevant and I am very confused about all of it I don't know if it's the third party app he used to get Snapchat really messing up his score, refreshing out of the blue etc... Am I paranoid? Or is something fishy going on? Thank you in advance

[Guest cherryteapot]

many times on snapchat you get points for earning the badges and rewards, so it's most likely he got point for earning the rewards like confirming his email or something like that, the best thing to do would just be to ask him about it

[Guest cottoncandyheart]

many times on snapchat you get points for earning the badges and rewards, so it's most likely he got point for earning the rewards like confirming his email or something like that, the best thing to do would just be to ask him about it

I suppose that could be true, just wish it would explain how it went up 300 points X

[Guest annemarie]

i agree with you that it's fishy that he got so defensive and i don't think that there's anyway it could've gone up  300+ points without him using the app daily. i'm not sure what advice to give, however, since you've already tried confronting him. he hasn't given you a good enough reason to believe you other than to "just trust him" and you deserve better than that, so i guess i would say you should try talking to him again. tell him that you're not accusing him of anything,  you're just really concerned and you want to believe him, but you just don't see how his words and what you're seeing are matching up. try to be as unaccusing as possible and try really hard not to get angry back (which you will probably want to and he will probably deserve, but don't do it, it won't solve anything). if he's being disingenuous, he'll probably get more angry if you do this at which point you should ask him straight up if he's cheating. i'm sorry i don't have better advice i hope this helps somehow anyway.

[Guest QueenJaylen]

First off I am soo sorry you had to even post this let alone be in this situation it's never a good feeling to not trust someone. Second press the issue I mean that's what I do atleast I don't like sweeping things under the rug especially not stuff like this. Has ge ever showed signs that he was cheating? Has he changed in anyway towards you? Those are just a few things you need to think about. A wise woman once said(my mom) "If a man is cheating on a woman she'll know, It's just a feeling that you have" then I realized you have to WANT to know if that makes any sense. I personally would talk to him about it because well why not  excuse my but fuck trust right now if all evidence is against him then I'm pretty sure it's not good. Ask him if he's cheating on you, you know all feelings aside because those are not something to be played with at all. Like AnneMarie said it more than likely not possible for him to get 300+ points without using the app everyday some how I mean damn if he wanted to lie he could have said his account got hacked lol IDK i'm not saying he's lying but he could have saud that so try to talk to him fuck feelings fuck trust just lay it all out don't hold nothing back cause you could hurt yourself mentally by doing that trust me I know. BUT I WISH NOTHING BUT THE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP I HOPE ALL GOES WELL          

[Guest cottoncandyheart]

Thank you both so much, I do agree it's incredibly weird and odd but he was adamant that it was the third party app that had messed up his score.. I have no idea what to think! I've already brought it up twice to him and I don't want to seem to pressing and distrusting when he's never done anything for me not to trust him thanks though, I'll see what i can do xx