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I'm not new to the dd/lg life style but i have had problems in the past. Guys would show intrest in me and we would start talking to me then after they find out what i do for a job they freak out and stop talking to me. I work in a gentlemens club as a dancer, to me i see nothing wrong with it and have been doing it for a long time. I have held normal jobs but for some reason i get bored with them and go back to being a dancer. Any advice or comments would be nice to help this little out.
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Guest Tag you're it
Most doms like littles to keep their bodies view only for their dom. But that doesnt mean there isnt a dom who would be proud to have you and see that as fine! Im really assertive and most doms dont like that either it seems. Don't even fret about it! He'll turn up. The raddest people are the type that are difficult to find. Dont ever change yourself for someone. Edited by Tag you're it
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Tag is absolutely right. You are you. Don't change that special spark in any way to conform. By staying true you will be happier in the long run.
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Guest PRINCESSE

Because they are either simple minded because of stigma attached to that job,or they are too jealous to let other people see you.

I love pole dance if thats what you do.  :D

Keep doing what you do girlie  :heart:  :heart:  :heart:

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I wish I had the guts to do what you do (I realise that sounds sarcastic, but trust me, it isn't!) 

 

You'll definitely find someone! 

 

If you see nothing wrong with it, why should they?

 

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There's nothing wrong with what you do for a living and really, that's awesome that you enjoy it. You gotta do what you love.

 

Some men just can't handle the idea of other men seeing their girlfriend the same way they do. Its a very complicated mind frame. But other men won't care. The right one will come along, but never compromise your happiness for anyone.

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I get that the DD wants to keep their littles body for themself, but I think they would still enjoy watching other strippers so it's quite the double standard, and insecure. I say that you just need a confidant man girl, you do your thing!
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Well my ex was actually a dancer in a gentleman's club. We weren't in a DDLG relationship but a BDSM one, but as a dom I must say it bothered me a little at first, cause I never even was in a gentleman's club or anything and I had a totally wrong picture in my head so to speak. I met some of her coworkers, got to know them and saw that they are great ppl, not like whores or anything like some ppl may say. Sure the relationship ended, but that had nothing to do with her being a dancer. I remember when she told me whe was a dancer in one of those clubs and it was followed by 10 minutes of awkward silence xD. But I learned to accepti it, and if I could I'm sure others will be able to as well. I'm sure u'll find your ideal daddy :)

 

Don't give up on what you love doing just so you'd please ur potential daddy. Even if you find the perfect daddy like that , deep down inside U'll resent him for having to give up dancing.

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I'm not new to the dd/lg life style but i have had problems in the past. Guys would show intrest in me and we would start talking to me then after they find out what i do for a job they freak out and stop talking to me. I work in a gentlemens club as a dancer, to me i see nothing wrong with it and have been doing it for a long time. I have held normal jobs but for some reason i get bored with them and go back to being a dancer. Any advice or comments would be nice to help this little out.

 

There is NOTHING wrong with you.  I used to be a dancer and there is a major problem with how some people feel about it. There's the notion that we are easy, cheap, hookers, druggies, and the list goes on.

I was always very truthful with guys and my dancing.  It went 2 ways: try to get me into bed or no more contact. They didn't understand it was my job. lol   My partner actually understood it was merely a job and it is how we met- he wasn't my customer either.  We just hit it off! 

 

The right one will come among, Little Blue. Just be yourself.  : )

My feet ended my time on stage and the club I was at did LONG shift hours. I do miss it sometimes and I MISS my heels!  : ) 

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Most doms like littles to keep their bodies view only for their dom. But that doesnt mean there isnt a dom who would be proud to have you and see that as fine! Im really assertive and most doms dont like that either it seems. Don't even fret about it! He'll turn up. The raddest people are the type that are difficult to find.

I think this hits the nail right on the head.

 

One also misses the point when the comments turn into "because they're insecure / jealous / simple minded with double-standards and the just can't handle it". That may be reason for one or all of the potential suitors backing out, but we can't really know what someone's reasons or motivations or experiences are. Everyone has a right to be attracted to who they want and to pick what things they want to be a part of their life, even if we could somehow enter their mind and life and perfectly just what were "good" or "bad" reasons. Unkind words and prejudices toward those who reject us actively work against one's ability to find future companions - and more importantly, they are contrary to a life of peace and happiness with oneself.

 

The greatest and most lasting relationships in my life have always come by surprise, so don't give up. I'm sure the right guy will find his way into your life before you realize it.

 

But before I go, I have to give the dissenting opinion to the "don't ever change for someone" rhetoric, and this may sound pedantic, but such absolute blanket statements, while usually spoken with uplifting intent, can result in the wrong message. One should not make harmful, destructive, or immoral decisions to win the favor of another (and expecting someone to do so is selfishness, not love), but lasting relationships usually include a variety of changes that each party has made for the other. Of course you still get to decide for yourself what your priorities are and who you want to be with, and they should want to meet you halfway with changes as well. It's all about finding out what's worth sacrificing, and what's worth making those sacrifices for, and those things can change in life.

 

If some random girl knocked on my door and said, "I'll be your new toy if you stop thinking science is cool", I would laugh, but I have also made major sacrifices and changes to my original career and education plans, the time I spend on my hobbies, and even the way I act and talk to people, all for my wife - and she has done the same for me, and years later, we have helped each other become better people, and to say I prefer the life we've built together over my bachelor freedom is a massive understatement. I'm not saying you should quit your job for John Doe because he asked, just do what's best, and none of us can tell you what that is.

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Guest Youngoldsoul
I personally see no problem with this as a Daddy/Dom. I think it would add a fun dynamic knowing that everyone can see a littles body and also knowing as Daddy that you are the one who can touch it....it comes down to how trusting the Daddy is I think.
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I'm not new to the dd/lg life style but i have had problems in the past. Guys would show intrest in me and we would start talking to me then after they find out what i do for a job they freak out and stop talking to me. I work in a gentlemens club as a dancer, to me i see nothing wrong with it and have been doing it for a long time. I have held normal jobs but for some reason i get bored with them and go back to being a dancer. Any advice or comments would be nice to help this little out.

You state "I have held normal jobs but for some reason I get bored..."

 

That's the reason. Men view you as unsuitable for a relationship because they feel like you need validation from multiple men and because of this you can't commit emotionally and physically to one man that loves you.

 

That assumption brings out the primal fear men have of getting cucked. Biologically speaking, it is the greatest fear. A man doesn't want to put all his time and resources and emotional investment in a woman apt to carry another man's child. It's a complete waste of time and emotion.

 

You answered your own question. Maybe you should be asking yourself, why you need that validation.

Male aversion to you and your job is entirely justified logically.

 

 

You just learned a lesson your forebears knew implicitly. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

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Guest Littlepup

i'd say thats a pretty typical reaction from people... a lot of people arent comfortable with that. so i think you are doing the right thing by bringing it up right away because you should probably weed out the people who make a big fuss about it and find a guy who accepts you the way you are and doesnt take issue with your own life. just keep being patient and finding a special someone is always hard, for everyone

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