What is Ghosting or Slow Fade?
Ghosting or Slow Fade is a very common occurrence with online dating. If you haven't personally dealt with this, I am sure you have heard of it from someone.
"We were talking for days/weeks/months EVERY DAY, ALL DAY, then all of a sudden they vanished!"
Some go as far as to delete the account where they met the person, delete the messaging app, block the number, etc. In one case a person deleted all of their social media, with no explanation.
It isn't always a sudden ending, sometimes it is a "slow fade". The person slowly shows less and less interest, responds less, eventually just stops altogether.
Understand that Ghosting has been going on for a very long time, long before the technology era. With the boom of dating sites, apps and overall internet-born relationships, it has become more popular and easier than ever.
Why would someone do this?
There are endless reasons why someone would resort to this.
They may not know how to "let someone down easy". Vanishing may seem easier than talking it out.
Found someone else. Once again, vanishing may seem easier than doing the right thing and talking it out.
Commitment Phobia, when things get too serious, they back out to keep from repeating a previous heartache.
Personal life problems. Recent life/job stresses, loss in the family, it goes on and on.
If you have been Ghosted
Know that it is NOT your fault. There is nothing you could have done to deserve this. Whatever the reason behind it, it is the other persons fault, not yours.
If someone Ghosts you and later tries to get back with you, move on, let it go. Chances are they will do it again, don't let yourself go back through it.
If you have ever Ghosted
Please understand the pain and psychological damage you may have caused. The wondering of "what did I do wrong?"
Regardless of why you wish to quit speaking to someone, the very least you can do is give them even the most simple of explanation, rather than leave them wondering if you will return and why you left.
Without actually ending the relationship, you are letting the person hold on to a shred of hope that maybe, just maybe it isn't really over