Advice for newbie needed

[Ser Ludo]

Hi guys, As some of you may know already I'm new here (just in case the name didn't give me away) I guess I'm after general advice and guidance on the DD/lg dynamic. I guess I'm finding a little difficult to take the first tentative steps into the DD role, not because I don't feel it's right for me, far from it. My main worry is that I'm going to c*ck it up and ruin the experience for myself, or even worse for my first little. Any tips, pointers or general guidance would be brilliant and gratefully received.

[Guest Pastel.babybat]

Have you laid the basics about what you both want and expect? 1st step is knowing what you BOTH expect. 2nd step would be establishing boundaries, rules, chores, rewards and punishments in case you both agreed it was a thing you wanted to do.

 

Figure out if the DDlg will also happen during sexy time or not.

[Guest]

The best thing about Dd/lg is there is no one "right way" to do it. You can make it suit you and your little ones needs and wants.

 

First thing to do is sit down and think what YOU as a person want out of such a relationship. Is it going to be something you want to do 24/7 , or only when it's playtime. Are you going to want an online relationship to start with or are you looking for someone local to your area. Once you find what you want , you can go out and find a little that has some of the same wants and you guys discuss where to go from there.

 

Try research everywhere. Tumbler , Google stuff , give the resources on here a good read. Just learn as much as you possibly can.

 

Also remember you are human. You are new to this and just like everyone else did when they are starting out you will make mistakes and that is okay! You are learning. Just remember your role is to be a happy caring daddy to your future little. You want the best for them and to keep them happy and safe and your little in turn will want to keep you happy and proud.

 

Good luck!

[Mrbeardman]

Have you laid the basics about what you both want and expect? 1st step is knowing what you BOTH expect....

This this this so much this.  I don't know why this isn't the first step in every budding relationship.

[Guest Princessaj]

HI, welcome. I am a new middle, new to DDlg, new to the DDlg Forum and the second to the oldest, in real age, middle on the forum. Please consider me an older sister. I am 2 months into tons and tons of research, great conversations with DDlg friends of all kinds about all things DDlg, make abundant comments- 122 to date, finding out who I am as a middle and so forth. Loving it all so far.

 

We get this question all the time from every kind of participant and the same answers all the time. The most, "you have to have the experience for yourself so you can make your own decisions. There are no right or wrong in the DDlg Lifestyle." Yes, that is a given, but not the answer to your question.

 

I have been contemplating creating a DDlg outline/timeline/check list/worksheet, a very simple over view to how things go/flow from the very beginning and into the future, all from my observations and research. Starting when you have the "Aha!" that you identify as a DD/MD/CareGiver and/or babygirl-boy/little/middle/Princess/Prince/pet and/or Switch. I have all this info in my head and it would be a great exercise to put it on paper for everyone.

 

Would you like to be the guinea pig DD newbie? Help by giving your feedback and offer input to form the blueprint? I sent you a friend request so you can message me your reply and ask questions. Please check out my profile too.

 

To everyone else!!!! message me please if you want to help. Blessings