First, in regards to an older post I made... the guy was leading me on, so we broke up. We'd hardly been dating a month and I dropped it, took some time to myself until about 5 days ago when me and someone else made it official. No judging please?
But, onto what I'm kinda worried about right now?
So... I'm not accustomed to someone being very physically affectionate? Like kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling...
My new bf (Lets call him.. Toby) loves all of that. To be honest I don't mind a little bit of kissing or holding hands, hugging or cuddling, but too much of it and, well... the best way to explain it is a cat. They're all cuddly and want attention one minute and the next they have an attitude about it and want nothing to do with the person.
Like my last serious relationship was long distance (we'd lived together for awhile before I had to move) and he wasn't physically affectionate at all, which suited me fine. Toby though is here in person, so we can see each other basically anytime (he literally lives across the courtyard from me). I've been used to having my space and time to myself since I broke up with my ex almost 7 months ago. I can only spend maybe a day and a half with him right now before I feel myself getting frustrated and have to ask for a day or two to myself so I can kinda recharge and whatnot. He's extremely kind and understanding with it, doesn't fuss over it. He messages me and checks in, seeing how I'm doing, doesn't just invite himself over.
I just feel really rude about this. He's admitted that he hasn't dated anyone in a few years now and for being the first person he's dated in that long... well I just feel bad for only spending a day or so with him and then just texting sparingly for about two days before I see him again. Do you think I'm being rude about this? >_< Or is anyone else this way and if so, how does your partner/gf/bf take this? or vice versa?