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    #1 MellyBoo19912015

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 07:11 PM

    Well hi there everyone. Let me introduce myself to those of you who won't know me. I'm Melly and I'm an admin here and one of the resident bad asses. I'm writing today because I'm noticing a worrying trend. I'm seeing a lot of people boasting about knowing the one true way.

    Let me tell you right now, there is no true way. It does not exist. The wonders about life and BDSM and CG/l or whatever you call it is that we can make it whatever we want in our relationships. We can chose and chop and adapt it to fit us. I don't care if as part of your relationship rituals you rub you partners cock three times and play the Hokey Cokey before bed. What I care about here is that your over the age of 18, if you have a partner they are over 18, you follow the rules, you be yourself and that your Safe, Sane and Consensual. SSC is the only part of all BDSM practises I expect everyone to follow.

    Your all great, amazing people and don't let others restrict who you are. Know here we accept everyone and you will be respected. This is meant to be a safe haven for people in this lifestyle and will continue to be so.
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    #2 littlevulcangirl

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 07:51 PM

    I'm so glad to read this
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    #3 ImABoo🌙

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 07:57 PM

    THANK YOU! 


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    #4 Arya

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 08:11 PM

    Bless this post. I was so sick of the back and forth.
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    #5 Bam Bam 💣

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 08:12 PM

    Thank you... But it's still not going to stop some people believing their way is the true way...


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    #6 Arya

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 08:13 PM

    Thank you... But it's still not going to stop some people believing their way is the true way...

    I was thinking the same thing >:/
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    #7 littlevulcangirl

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 08:33 PM

    Honestly it's incredible "the one true way" exists in most subcultures. I've seen so much of it regarding trans people, gay people, disabilities etc. Whatever community you're in you really need to stfu about it, it can be incredibly damaging and alienates people.
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    #8 countlieberkuhn

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 09:02 PM

    Thumbs up from me!


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    #9 Mikey Mike

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 10:44 PM

     resident bad asses. 

     

    Reported for lying!!  Haha all kidding aside Melly is wonderful and posted a well thought out post!  Thanks for all you do!


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    #10 LittleLola

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 11:17 PM

    Thank you for this! :)
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    #11 Leafy

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    Posted 05 January 2017 - 12:00 AM

    I respect this post and I'm glad to see it - thank you. :)


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    #12 Fuego

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    Posted 05 January 2017 - 01:17 AM

    DDLG is a deeply beautiful and unique dynamic that deserves its own identity. This community is a great place to help people define that identity for themselves.
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    #13 phi

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    Posted 13 January 2017 - 09:19 PM

    This made me very happy to read...i used to lurk on this site a lot and felt like i never adhered to the 'true' little standards (therefore never joined until recently), and finally i just figured hey screw it, there isn't a right or wrong way to go about it, as long as both parties are down. Anyways, thanks again for making this post, it was much needed! :)
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