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    #21 yungK1LL


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    Posted 09 April 2017 - 11:41 PM

    It's kind of a relief reading this post, thank you. I have been stressing lately and overthinking everything.

    #22 PrincessoftheMoon



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    Posted 19 April 2017 - 05:01 AM

    Thank you for this. This is all so new to me still but your post made me feel a lot more comfortable and a lot less nervous.

    #23 Fox&Bunny



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    Posted 26 April 2017 - 01:37 PM

    Thank you for this post! I really needed this

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    Posted 22 May 2017 - 08:29 PM

    Reading this really eased some of my anxiety...

    #25 Guest_Kali_*

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    Posted 30 May 2017 - 09:49 AM

    Isn't the insistence that there is no true way, a way? *listens to the collective groans from around the room* - seriously though folks - there is no true way... I only wish the major world religions would take note.

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    #26 Guest_Mario_*

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    Posted 16 June 2017 - 02:38 AM

    Totally agree. As religion, sexuality is personal and unique. If you are nice to me, i will be nice to you. Don't care about your way of life if you don't hurt me or my friends.

    #27 Littlest_Bee



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    Posted 20 June 2017 - 12:07 AM

    It's a bit sad to me that it even needs to be pointed out. Knowing that people have different wants and needs is a basic principle that everyone (especially in a kink-community) should understand and respect.

    Thank you for being clear on that point. ❤
    Be careful with your words. They can only be forgiven not forgotten.

    #28 Little Dancer

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    Posted 12 July 2017 - 03:14 AM

    I have been told that I am wrong for being in the ddlg community and being asexual.

    #29 Daddy's Lil

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    Posted 14 July 2017 - 12:03 PM

    We found our true self's as Daddy and lil. It was only after reserch that we found there was such a thing as DDLG. For us it's a lifestyle. We have our own little kinks. I don't get punished as such we use whipping and slaps as foreplay. This works for us. Each to their own and you should do what feels right in your dinamic.

    #30 osito


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    Posted 17 July 2017 - 06:52 AM

    Thanks so much for this.
    I've noticed how people try flaunt their views as "The Way," and I've seen(and personally gone through) how people struggle to find their place or their title or whatever. But it's a personal and unique thing. We just gotta be who we are and find people who appreciate that and who we appreciate.
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    Posted 30 July 2017 - 06:52 PM

    How can anyone claim to know a "one true way", when every ddlg relationship is unique to the participants ??


    Completely illogical belief.

    #32 Guest_JekyllTheMysticalDaddy_*

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    Posted 30 July 2017 - 09:29 PM

    I agree on so many levels. Every subculture has it's "purists" and the tend to ruin it. I appreciate you taking the time to write this!

    #33 Guest_SUeB_*

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    Posted 05 September 2017 - 11:05 AM

    Oh how i have to laugh at those sanctimonious and ignorant sillies!

    #34 Guest_kirababygirl_*

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    Posted 07 September 2017 - 10:06 AM

    I am thankful for this post...I am still trying to figure this all out. Glad to know that it is flexible, but this post did teach me that I can't figure it all out until I have a Daddy.  O.o 

    #35 HeCallsMePrincess


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    Posted 15 September 2017 - 09:16 PM

    Well said

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    Posted 11 October 2017 - 04:17 AM

    Well hi there everyone. Let me introduce myself to those of you who won't know me. I'm Melly and I'm an admin here and one of the resident bad asses. I'm writing today because I'm noticing a worrying trend. I'm seeing a lot of people boasting about knowing the one true way.

    Let me tell you right now, there is no true way. It does not exist. The wonders about life and BDSM and CG/l or whatever you call it is that we can make it whatever we want in our relationships. We can chose and chop and adapt it to fit us. I don't care if as part of your relationship rituals you rub you partners cock three times and play the Hokey Cokey before bed. What I care about here is that your over the age of 18, if you have a partner they are over 18, you follow the rules, you be yourself and that your Safe, Sane and Consensual. SSC is the only part of all BDSM practises I expect everyone to follow.

    Your all great, amazing people and don't let others restrict who you are. Know here we accept everyone and you will be respected. This is meant to be a safe haven for people in this lifestyle and will continue to be so.


    I agree 101% with you!

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    Posted 24 October 2017 - 06:36 AM

    I agree. It is important to remember that we're all here with this ddlg thing in common, that we're a smallish community and we need to be open-minded toward one-another's ideas and not stuck on our own. Too much of the world isn't open to us or our lifestyles, even our friends in the larger BDSM community often look at us sideways. So, cherish and accept the people here and their ideas
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    #38 Atê



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    Posted 02 January 2018 - 11:28 PM


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    Posted 04 January 2018 - 05:28 PM

    Thanks! I like seeing this because as I read through this forum I know there are definitely things I am seeing that I don't know if I'd want to be comfortable with. It's good to see that things are more broad and that whatever one is comfortable with is the most important thing. 

    #40 anthrday



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    Posted 09 March 2018 - 01:19 AM

    I’m glad that others have already expressed what should be obvious. None of us contemplated this lifestyle because we wanted to fit into someone else’s category or boxed definition. Why should we start fitting someone else’s definition now? It’s up to each couple to identify their own boundaries, their own safe zone, and to make them work for them.

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