DD and LG role without the labels?

[Child Of Light]

I'm in a Domestic Discipline relationship and we have more of the setup of a Daddy Dom/ Little Girl setup, without identifying him as "Daddy" or me as a child. We just fit into those roles. He is protective, but also in a way you would be with a child, does cutesy things, have reward charts, spoils me... and etc. I like wearing cutesy things, frills, etc.I like him to make the choices, rules and punishments when bedtime is. I like to colour, anime, and other things. Would this fit into a loose DDLG term? I don't call him daddy and don't think he'd like that.. but it's different than Domestic Discipline, and not hard-core like D/s different.  I'd like to do more DDLG type dynamic, too. But I don't want to get into much detail right now.

 

I know labels don't matter- however: is it 'proper' DDLG relationship without calling the dom 'daddy' (but know he takes on the 'daddy' role?) as well as not embracing the "little" label, and considering yourself a submissive? 

 

I think this is me needing reinsurance that I still belong here whilst I figure out my needs

Edited January 14, 2017 by Child Of Light

[tayiie]

Every relationship is different. If you two feel that there is no need for lables then thats how it is :3 still counts as an DDlg relationship to me. Ive had DDlg relationships where I wouldnt call my "daddy" daddy, he would call my sweetie as most, and it was fine too :3

[cuppycakes]

I've never heard of a domestic discipline relationship, but it sounds interesting! In a wide response to your questions: DD/LG is whatever you want it to be. (Here's a forum created by MellyBoo-an admin) https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16623-no-true-way/

 

You don't have to call your significant other "daddy"! There's a whole forum for other names to call a dom because there's a bunch of people who aren't comfy with that idea!

 

You decide if you belong here. Don't let anyone tell you that you do or don't because you know yourself best

[Child Of Light]

Thank you

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

I think this is a great question.

 

I think a lot of people would say that labels do not matter and I agree. Others might say that traditional BDSM labels are very important and I also agree with that ! What a contradiction I am   

 

If you are super into traditional BDSM and the labels in entails , great ! If not , that is also great ! I find myself somewhere in the middle , I appreciate traditional BDSM terms and labels but am also naturally rebellious and think labels are only what you make them. If I label a big blue crayon pink and believe it is truly pink , that is my prerogative isn't it ? It doesn't really truly affect anyone else does it?

 

I call my Daddy my Daddy , as well as my Daddy dom. I call myself a little. It's just something I find myself identifying as more so than anything else. Do what makes you happy , labels aside !

 

As for fitting in here while you figure things out , don't worry ! There are people here who identify as kittens , switches , along many other great things. I know it's called the Dd/lg forum and I expected to be only Dd/lg people here but guess what !? Everyone here is looking for a safe place and I think that's wonderful so the array of different labels here has never bothered me.. I'm almost positive it wouldn't bother any other good heart having people either. ^-^ 

 

So to answer your main question , I'm not sure it is "proper" as a Dd/lg relationship as everyone has a different view and opinion on their relationship and what it is let alone others. Only you can really make that choice , whether it is proper to you or not !

 

Hope this helps !

Edited January 15, 2017 by Daddysmonkey

[Barbie Lumina]

Well, a lot of littles call their daddy other things, such as sir, master, teacher, mister, king, etc.. You don't have to call him daddy. You can even just call him by his name. I don't call my partner daddy as often as I'd like to, but that's just because he's new to it all. 

 

Your partner acts like your caregiver and you act like a little, so it is a DDLG dynamic relationship, so it does fit into the DDLG lifestyle. There is no DDLG relationship that's the same, so yes, it sounds 'proper'. 

 

Also, 'I'm in a Domestic Discipline relationship ', I have no idea what this is. Sort of like a slave/master relationship?  

[Child Of Light]

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Also, 'I'm in a Domestic Discipline relationship ', I have no idea what this is. Sort of like a slave/master relationship?

 

No, not like Master/ slave. More like -- we sit down, and discuss rules/ goals. And make a plan to achieve those things. It's not an act or game. If I where to fall short of those agreements he has the 'right' to disapline me as he see's fit. For example, we have a general health rule. If I was to do anything he felt wasn't good for my health: not taking meds, missing doc appt, stressed and not eating - he would discipline me for it. Which includes corner time, lines, spanking, lectures. My general goal is to not be punished.

[Barbie Lumina]

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No, not like Master/ slave. More like -- we sit down, and discuss rules/ goals. And make a plan to achieve those things. It's not an act or game. If I where to fall short of those agreements he has the 'right' to disapline me as he see's fit. For example, we have a general health rule. If I was to do anything he felt wasn't good for my health: not taking meds, missing doc appt, stressed and not eating - he would discipline me for it. Which includes corner time, lines, spanking, lectures. My general goal is to not be punished.

 

Very much like a DDLG relationship then