Lied to

[Lil1]

I was recently lied to by someone who totally misrepresented himself. To add insult to injury, he flipped it all on me. He was supposed to be my Dom and I had a lot of confidence in that until I asked him where we stood. It was as if a switch was turned. He became a totally different person. At the end I realized that he was never actually interested in being my Dom and that he was using me. I was so sad and embarrassed that I almost wanted to give up on DDlg altogether. I shared intimate things with this person and it turned out that they weren't who they said they were. I'm not a stranger to betrayal but I honestly thought things were going to finally be different for me.

[BashfulnBratty]

Hellos Lil1

 

I've been there before. My first Dom did some of the same things. I'm pretty new to Ddlg, only about a year. I did make the mistake of saying yes to him being my Dom after only about a week and lasted about a month. I thought everything was going alright. Then one day I asked him what we were and where we stood because everyone has different thoughts. He didn't talk with me as often after that. His replies went short and he got angry with me more often, wouldn't ask me how I was or about my day and when I asked him his answers would be short and clipped. One day he said he had a family emergency so he might not be able to chat with me that day. I told him I understood. He disappeared. I almost gave up on embracing my little side and DDlg too. I've finally started gaining some of my confidence back and was able to finally open an account on here. I embrace my little side and take time for me. I hope one day to find someone who will accept me for me, but until then, I'm happy with working on myself and embracing my little side hehe. I don't know if this helps, but please don't give up on your little/middle side. No one can take that part from you, and it is very special. I believe everyone has someone, its just when you find that someone you'll feel it and know and it will make that relationship and bond so much stronger.  I hope you have a great day and remember......you are AWESOMEFUL!! ^-^ Toodles! hehe

[IchigoHime]

First, I am very sorry you had to go through this.

Second, do not give up on DDlg if it was you want to do!

Third, things happen and while it was crappy, you can learn from it. Next time you talk to a possible Dom you now have a bit more knowledge of what to look for and what you should look out for. Don't let one bad "Dom" turn you off from all of this completely.

[Lil1]

Thank you both. I'm not going to give up on DDlg because it's not fair that I should have to when he's the one that was in the wrong.

[Guest St3v36996]

As a daddy i see this a lot unfortunately. The most important thing to me is to make sure both my little and any little i come into contact with feels safe and is never pressured into anything. You really need to make sure to protect yourself when it comes to finding a daddy online. I hope you dont loose interest in being a little because of some low lifes desperate attempts, there is still plenty of great daddys and caregivers out there ready to give you all the attention you deserve.

[Unicornprincess93]

So sorry that this happened to you Lil Don't give up on something you love though. There's a whole lowed of people here to help!