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So my bf collared me over a year ago. I wore a permanent collar. I belonged to him n I took comfort in it.

Today we broke up he said I don't make him content and it's for me he's doing it.

I got so upset I cut my collar off. And now I feel naked I feel so alone. I have no place in the world.

I wish he would still be with me I love him and I always will. We were going to get married and have kids he even picked a name. Now he doesn't want to a furture with me he doesn't want me anymore.

Can anyone help me please?

Any advice welcome

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get some ice cream or sweet of your choice. turn on sad movies. call your friends or mom or someone who will understand. 

 

just be sad. 

 

allowing yourself to be sad is super, duper important. when you are ready, you can move on, but for now, just be sad.

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I'm so sorry for your heartache! I always had a forever kind of mindset too, and I still do.

I remeber the first and only breakup I had. It was high school. I was with him 3 months. But breaking up hurt so bad that I prayed what I thought was a ridiculous prayer: "Lord, even if I have to wait until I'm 40, please don't let me have a boyfriend until he is the one I am going to marry."

Guess what, the next school year I met my future husband. Now he is my Daddy and Master, too.

I told you this to say that I don't think that prayer is ridiculous anymore. Because I have learned that God sees a woman as belonging to her father until she marries. At that point she then belongs to her husband. So if a man wants to collar you "which is a blessed thing. I wear mine everyday no matter what!) then he has no right of ownership over you until he has possesed you through marriage.

Waiting until you are sure it is forever will save you from heartache. It is always best to do things God's way.

I hope it gets better for you really soon. Mr. Right will probably come along after you stop looking for him. That's how it worked with me.

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Sorry to hear about your current situation. It's never pleasant when we lose the things we cherish. If I could offer up some advice, I'd try to take what I've learned from your relationship and use that to find what you want. Stay strong little one, never give up.
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:( I don't have advice, but I do have this virtual hug. *hugs* I hope things start looking up for you.
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Sweet pea, I can definitely empathize. 5 years ago our daughter died.Two years later my wife also died. I know loss, and I'm only 35. I know how it felt when I finally made the decision to let my wife go and I took my wedding ring off for the first time in 8 years. I felt naked. I felt abandoned. I'm generally a well-adjusted man, not macho by any means, but not prone to "theatrics" but I can admit that I sobbed on the floor for an hour afterward. I would wake up in the middle of the night and feel where my ring should be. 

 

I'm not trying to make you feel any more sad. The point of all this is to let you know, it gets better. It feels less painful. Eventually.

 

Trust me. 

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Thank you for ur reply.

I simply can't not imagine your loss.

Im still not used to not having my collar on but I know it's gonna just take time for my brain to catch up.

I think it's okay that you cried. It means you cared. Emotions don't make you less of a man I think they make you more of one.

Im trying to find out who I am now that I don't belong to anyone.

It helps to know other people understand how much it ment to me.

I've been filling the emptyness with food but that long terms not gonna work.

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