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I feel like my daddy doesn't really understand


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He is new to ddlg and I try to explain things to him but I get so shy and I just can't and I want to be better able to explain things to him but I get really shy and he never really tries to learn things for himself and relies on me. How can I either calmly explain or show him I go to give us a better relationship. Please help xc
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You can search for this topic I think :)

 

The best advice I've read (from various people) is to write down what you want/need in a letter and give it to him :)

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I think for starters you need to try and make him realize that you being the one to take control and being in charge sort of defeats the purpose of having a daddy. Motivate him to take the initiative of learning about ddlg because that in itself is an aspect of being a daddy! Being able to take responsibility and do things that you know will benefit the relationship. With that being said you can help him by telling him specifically what characteristics you're really interested in. You know, what is about about this type of relationship that you like? Let him know that its important to you and that a good daddy wouldn't rely on his little to tell him how to be daddy. Edited by Stuffykins
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I know my opinion may be a little bit harsh and disappointing. But what if he is not a daddy? I found that it is better for any relationship to let people be themselves, I know you want him to be a daddy, and may be he wants to be so just for you. But what if being a daddy is not who he is? what if it puts pressure on him? I would rather you talk together and find out honestly what he is comfortable with and may be you both can find a common ground on which you both be happy, may be you will be happier than being in a ddlg relationship but being upset he is not doing it the way you are expecting it. Let me know what you think and how will go

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If he's not taking initiative shows that he's really not interested in CG/l. Maybe its something he's doing just because you want to and not because it makes him happy.

 

You should never be too shy to talk to your partner. If you trust them enough to be in this kind of dynamic then you should feel comfortable talking to them about your needs. If you don't then you can't expect anything to change.

 

There's no amount of research he can do that will make him a better Daddy. Especially if he's not into it. A good Daddy is someone who loves what they do, not someone who does what the internet says a Daddy should do. Each person has different needs. If your not communicating the needs won't get met and no one is a mind reader.

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See if you can get him to join up on this website and have him read some. If he won't do that, he's probably just not interested in this type of lifestyle...

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