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Hi everyone :)

I wanted to know if there are many other littles who have children?

 

I found it hard to be my little self when my daughter was younger because I am a single parent and felt I had to be big.

 

If anyone else feels that way how do you manage it?

 

As my daughter has gotten older I feel closer to her because we colour together and have fun and I'm not afraid to be little around her though I still be big when I need to be. I can go to kids shows at the movies and buy kids toys and play in the park and no one looks twice.

She knows I'm not like other parents but she is glad coz they are boring lol.

 

I guess I just wanted to know if other littles have kids. It's not something I've heard much about.

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There are quite a few littles on here with kids. I personally love being a little mama. I have a 2 yo and one on the way currently 37 wks pregnant and so excited for baby to get here. :) It does require a balance of grown up time but it's so worth it. 

The only times I've struggled with being little is when I felt overwhelmed with responsibilities so I try to reward myself after I do something stressful or if I have appts/errands to run I take a friend with me so feels more like a day out.

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I think there are times it helps you be the cool mom. My house always has craft supplies available, we explore and experiment and I think it helps that I'm just as excited about new projects and ideas as the kids. My kids are teenagers now but even their friends know we have fun here.

 

The rules for everyone no matter what the age.

Be respectful of yourself, others, and the things around you. Take care of your own supplies and mess. Nothing flamable. If anyone gets hurt everything gets shut down.

 

It's kind of a toe into little space and and the rest of me grounded in all responsible and stuff.

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I mean. From my understanding, wouldn't that be a rather contradicting task to accomplish? Maybe I'm missing something.

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I am a little mom, too. I find it helps me be a better mother. I have always had a bubbly personality, very imaginative and kind and in wonder of the world. However, as I grew up and had to face adult responsibilities, I became stressed and cold and grumpy. I grew up too much. Whem my Husband helped me realize that I was (always had been) a little, and I let it out, I became happy and cheerful again

I am kinder to my children and rememebr to have fun. It is still a struggle sometimes, especially because I have hormonal imbalances which give me ups and downs. But little space really helps me with all that, too.

As far as it being a contradiction, it shouldn't be. As actual adults, there will always be times we have to put our big britches on and handle our stuff, whether we have children or not. I think that it is healthy to find that balance between being a little inside and a big when you need to be. Being little can be an escape. And take it from an expert escape artist: it can be too easy to escape from your whole life into your safe spaces. Embrace your whole life so you don't miss a minute of it!:)

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I mean. From my understanding, wouldn't that be a rather contradicting task to accomplish? Maybe I'm missing something.

Cg and biological parent are not the same thing and being little doesn't mean a person is incapable of saying no or being responsible. Basically being a little/parent means you teach your child more by example rather than verbal discipline. The child learns good manners and boundaries by the little/parent interacting with them on their level and mimicking the good behaviors sometimes saying no or using timeouts are necessary but not often. 

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I'm a single mom and for me it's just trying to balance both our needs. My son has special needs and I don't think he has a clue most Mom's don't craft, color or watch kid's shows. Now that he is bigger he likes his own space, so we each do our own thing.
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I am a single mom and I love to play with my son. However I find it easier to be in my middle space even when he is around as he doesn't know I am in my space. Sometimes I put music on and we dance together.
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Im a little mum too :D

 

My daughter is 5, we colour together, dance, sing (loudly) and we love movie nights. Daddy (my husband) will get us both to read together to teach her, same with writing and math.

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  • 5 years later...
On 6/22/2017 at 9:19 AM, nevergrowup said:

Hi everyone :)

I wanted to know if there are many other littles who have children?

 

I found it hard to be my little self when my daughter was younger because I am a single parent and felt I had to be big.

 

If anyone else feels that way how do you manage it?

 

As my daughter has gotten older I feel closer to her because we colour together and have fun and I'm not afraid to be little around her though I still be big when I need to be. I can go to kids shows at the movies and buy kids toys and play in the park and no one looks twice.

She knows I'm not like other parents but she is glad coz they are boring lol.

 

I guess I just wanted to know if other littles have kids. It's not something I've heard much about.

Duuuudddeeee I feel the same way! My son turns 6 today 

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  • 4 weeks later...

I have a 2 year old son! I think being a little myself helps me connect with his childlike wonder and interests. I'm more compassionate and understanding towards kiddos as well. I don't get to be in full blown little space often anymore, but I do get to bring him to do all the things I would've loved to do as a child!

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My son will be 9 soon, it has been amazing to see him grow and I had lots of fun playing with him. I love videogames but I am not good at boss fights because I usually play cutesy relaxing games and he likes cool games, so now he will fight the bosses for me 😮 in return I do the crafting and riddles or whatever. Whenever he does things like that I wonder how it will be when he outgrows my little age (I am a middle, about 12).

I don't do age regression and being a middle as part of my personality I rarely feel like I can't adult at the same time if needed so that does help. I do need time to myself here and there to do cute/geeky stuff to get rid of stress at some point, but worse case if I can't find time for myself I can still watch something cute with my son.

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  • 4 months later...

I'm older than most on here - 52. I have 4 children, 12, 15, 17 and 18. When they were littler, I was more of a lc. Now, though, I realize I'm actually a middle. I do not do age regression, but I am able to be more comfortable right now with the ages of my children. I don't know how that's going to work when we all age. I can tell you that getting older makes it much harder to be a middle, even just physically. We do a lot of Disneyland, and that also satisfies my middle, but with my Daddy on another coast, it makes things complicated.

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