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littlecl13

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hi there! i guess i'm kind of looking for support and wanting to know if there is anyone else in my situation.

 

i only have one friend in real life, and he is my ex. my best friend besides him is my mom.

 

i am very introverted, and i don't put myself out there much. i have lost a lot of friends over the last four years, and now i find myself very alone.

 

i have made some friends online recently, and this community has been great.

 

anyway! anyone else out there like me? how are you doing?

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I'm like you but I never find myself needing friends. I have no issues making friends and if someone needs a friend I'll gladly apply but when it comes to me I can go weeks without talking to anyone unless they ask me something.
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I'm like you but I never find myself needing friends. I have no issues making friends and if someone needs a friend I'll gladly apply but when it comes to me I can go weeks without talking to anyone unless they ask me something.

 

It's the same for me. I have a few friends, and I am actually a friendly person, but I have no problem with being alone.

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Guest MelodicWhispers

I have offline friends and they are pretty awesome, but we rarely go out together due to being busy. They're very understanding of everything to do with my life (online and offline). I'm lucky. And I don't feel the need to be social with them because we're all quite introverted xD When we eventually talk/go out, it's like nothing has changed.

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I have autism and social anxiety so I have a pretty hard time socialising and I've never been able to have friends-I'm used to it now though
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I feel for yeah I moved to college in January and since then I've only made one friend besides my roommate. Grant it I have a friend at home that I'm pretty close with but they don't visit often. I think for introverted people (like me and you) it takes a bit of time. My advice is to not to be afraid to start a conversation compliments are a good place to start because people don't have to continue after but if they complement you back then you have something to build off of. Hope this helps! 

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I have friends online.. like on world of warcraft, apart from that I'm a hermit. I don't like being fave to face with most people...

 

I like who I am, but it does get sucky when you can't have play dates.

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I'm introverted too. I find it hard to make friends, I don't like talking very much, so it's hard to find a connection with most people. It's a lot easier online, but even then I find that online friendships are so quick to suddenly disappear.

 

With me, my work life is so draining that the last thing I want to do on weekends and evenings is to hang out with people, so I guess it doesn't suit my personality to have a whole bunch of friends.

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Ijs, irl friends are over rated in my opinion. I'd rather spend hours reading a book, while on skype to my online friends, not saying a thing. I'd rather be nice introvert any day.
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Yep. I find it so hard to find nice friends irl. people are more open online. my life would be unbearable without the friends i have made in the community.
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With me, my work life is so draining that the last thing I want to do on weekends and evenings is to hang out with people

DRAINING. With 8+ hour INTENSE workdays plus over 2 hours of a super-congested sloooooowww commute, I find I no longer want to go out during the week, compared to my last job which was expected to work 8hrs and no more - I would often be out during the week. (both positions are/were salaried). I am sooo comfortable in my introvert self staying at home all weekend, with the only interaction with people are neighbors when I'm out working in the yard and they stop by to chat.

 

It did take me a while to overcome the 'guilt' of not getting out on many weekends and trying to be like the extroverts. I have no shyness and I hold a conversation quite well... I just don't care to most weekends

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Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾

It happens to me the same, I only have a friend in real life, and she is a schoolmate and we have been friends for 10 years. But all the other friendships I have are online. I'm not very good at dating or interacting with people personally. I tend to be very quiet at first.

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Yeah, I have a couple irl friends but I lost quite a few after high school. It's hard to make friends that stick out here lol

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Guest daddy's_little_shadow

*raises hand* Me!

I'm the same as you. The only friends I have are family members, and I don't really count them, because they are family, so yeah. It doesn't help that I live in a very conservative Christian town, and I'm far from conservative Christian. I just don't fit in with the people here.

 

You're not alone! *hugs* :3

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I'm like that too. I'm very shy and quiet, and because I was really ill in England, I didn't know many people. After I finished school, I was so unused to talking to people, I didn't dare try to meet any so all my friends were online. Now, I have no irl friends at all. I kind of know my neighbor across the road, in that I know her name and her dogs, but that's mostly it.

 

It gets super lonely, so when I meet new people online, I kinda get clingy, because it's so nice to have a friend.

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I am in a very similar situation but I have BPD too. However, in my case, I care very little about friends. Anywho, add me if you'd like, wouldn't mind a few
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I only have 2-3 friends besides my boyfriend and parents and I haven't made a new friend since high school, meaning my current friends and i have somewhat grown apart. I have a lot of issues socialising and even reaching out online makes me nervous.

 

Sometimes I'm happy to spend a lot of time alone but I feel social pressure and judgement which makes me feel like I'm a failure for not being active socially. I also don't like superficial relationships and won't bother with people who don't want to be close emotionally, which means I've missed out on some potential college friendships.

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I'm in the same position. I don't have any friends, I'm introverted and don't really know how to start conversations. Plus where I live there is absolutely nothing to do and I don't really have a way to meet people, also most people here are conservative and don't share the same views as me. And again being introverted being around people is so tiring, especially when it's people you don't connect with. 

 

So yeah I definitely feel your pain. Most days I'm okay with it, but other days it's really lonely. 

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I have a best friend irl but apart from her and her boyfriend being my friend now I don't have any other friends irl.

I like talking to people but I've been told I can be too much.

I guess I scare ppl away.

 

I don't mind being alone though it's when I'm happiest but too much of anything can be bad. So sometimes I do get lonely.

 

If anyone wants t chat just add me as a friend

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I have trouble making friends irl too. Ever since I had my first child (7 years ago) I've had terrible depression and ended up just disappearing on everyone. I have a few friends now but no one that I feel like I can really share things with. It usually doesn't bother me but sometimes I feel really isolated.
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I am super extroverted, but I have very very few friends irl. I've lost nearly all of them either due to distance & busy adult lives, or because they couldn't handle having friends with kids.

 

I lost a lot of friends because of my daughter.

 

It's been kinda hard.

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Nobody really close but I have friends I socialise with, fairly infrequently, if they make the effort to arrange something...
I'm pretty unsociable most of the time, basically a fully qualified introvert, which seems to bother me less as I get older.
I quite like my own company (which is fortunate).

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