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Daddy and I aren't in a "real relationship" and he's explicitly expressed that he doesn't see one with me. But for me, that affects our DDlg relationship. Am I wrong for wantinf him to treat me like his gf in our DDlg relationship? How can I get over this?

 

*Also, I've been having so much trouble going into little space lately because I've been worried about us. I'm starting not to feel so little anymore because I'm face with grown up stuff. I can't get the relief that I once did. I don't even really remember what used to get me into little space ...

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Guest daddy's_little_shadow
Okay, I'm definitely not qualified to give advice, since I've never been in a relationship of any kind with a Daddy, but I know that you should tell him about how you feel. Even..no...especially, in DDlg relationships, though it's hard, communication is crucial. If you two can't work something out, then at least you know and aren't staying in an unhappy DDlg relationship with this person. That's just my take on this. I hope everything works out for you!
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I am not sure what you mean by real? 

Is your DDLG relationship totally platonic?

 

And like little_shadow said, all you can do is talk to him about it, epspecially since it is affecting you so deeply. 

Be clear and concise on how this makes you feel and hopefully the two of you can come up with a resolution, best of luck!

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If a committed and deep relationship is what you want, you should definitely pursue it. And if he is not on board for that, then you deserve to find it somewhere else. It sounds to me at the bottom of it all that you want someone to love and to love you back. I think most if not all human beings want that. And you should hold out for that. It seems to me that if he doesn't want that with you then he is just using you. I don't know your whole situation btu from the outside that is what it sounds like.

A ddlg relationship is a relationship. If properly done it involves a Dom and sub who care for each other and have the other person's best interest at heart. Do you feel that he has your best interest in mind in the way he treats you?

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Ok to start, it's good to know that for a lot of ppl, their vanilla world and bdsm world is seperate. As in, someone can have a vanilla wife who they love, and still have a sub girl also who they own and care for. Love or a vanilla relarionahip is not required for D/s to work. However, many ppl do wish to fall in love with and be with someone in a vanilla relationship AND a D/s one. u guys should have discussed this before y'all entered a dynamic. Since that ship have saild, now it is up to u to talk to him as 2 adults (leave ur roles behind during this discussion) and let him know u want a Daddy who u can also be in a vanilla/regular/committed relationship with and if he dont think he can ever love u...then u need to decide for ur self if a D/s dynamic without love is something u can live with. If it isnt, then u need to move on. So no, u are not wrong for wanting to be loved by ur Daddy, u simply made the mistake of nt clarying ur expectations before entering a dynamic with him.
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It sounds like you two entered onto a casual kind of relationship that worked because it was convenient to you both at the time.

 

Its OK that you have developed feelings for him, but it also OK that he does not return those feelings. While sometimes these sorts of arrangements work for people, sometimes they just dont.

 

Unfortunately if he's telling you he's not interested then its a sign that its time to move on. You won't find a real relationship while staying with someone who isn't interested in you. He's being honest with you which is great, so be honest with him. If its not working then its time to look out for your best interests.

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if you want real relationship you might want to dump this guy and find someone who actually wants to be with you in a romantic way. Since it seems like he has made it clear that he does not want to be in a relationship with you

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Guest PrincessK<3
Thanks for the advice and replies. The situation is kind of confusing. We're not in a platonic relationship. We do all of the same things that couples do, except he doesn't really take me out on dates. But we do other stuff. He loves me and I love him. He just doesn't see me being his girlfriend or wife ever, but I'm deeply in love with him. If that makes sense?
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Have u considered that he might have commitment issues? Or perhaps like he said, just doesn't see a future with u. If that is the case, seems like he is wasting both of ur time. He could just be interested in 'something for now'
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oh my god my daddy broke up with me this week like not even three days ago but we still have the ddlg aspect. im sending you a friend request if you wanna chat about it. this sucks so much for me and im experiencing some of the same things you said youwere experiencing and id love to talk to you about it, maybe we can help eachother through it!

my daddy said he loves me but he lost feelings for our relationship which i dont even know what that means but since then ive been having a lot of trouble gettng into littlespace or being able to call him daddy without crying and just ugh i know how much this sucks and im so sorry you are having to go through it too, i wouldnt wish this on anyone! if you choose not to message me about it, i totally understand but i do want you to knw that you are not alone and that there are people here to help you through this rough time

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I'm a 24/7 little and my daddy is also my boyfriend, wouldn't have it any other way. Communication is super important though, he won't know what you want if you don't tell him-me and my daddy are very open and always honest with each other. If you don't feel comfy talking to your daddy about everything then he may not be the one for you
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