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Hi fellow littles!

 

This is kind of a rant/me wallowing in self pity so be warned.

 

I had been talking to a potential daddy on kik and I was really warming up to him!

 

Day 1: I introduced myself to him sent some selfies, we talked about general getting to know each other stuffs. He sent selfies and a few vids of him talking (he lives in the UK) and it was a good first day!

 

Day 2: we spent the whole day talking again lots of selfies and convos still getting to know each other- he still hasn't said anything sexual at this point and neither had I (thank goodness) he was a real nice guy! I was looking forward to talking some more

 

Day 3: ok this is where things start to get a little different than the last 2 days, I had to work therefore I could not be on my phone 24/7 (I am a CNA no phones allowed on the floor, but when I went to the bathroom I sebt messages and all that) but I couldn't be on the phone ALLLLL day. And I told him that. He said he understood.

 

Day 4: I wake up to a message saying he knows this isn't going to work out as he needs his little to be more attentive than I am and I am obviously more distracted with work than to be bothered with him

 

Now I know this isn't my fault. I'm just upset. I am a little but I'm also an adult I have to work to pay bills just like most people. *sigh* I really hope all daddies dont want you to literally constantly be in contact with them as it is completely unrealistic... Has anyone else had similar experiences at all? Not all daddies are like this right?

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Hmm... No...

 

Daddy's usually like to see you flourish and achieve at life.

 

Bullet dodged there if I'm honest haha.

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Guest Bunnyblossom

Aw jeez. That's rough. 

No, not all Daddies expect you to be available 24/7- promise. 

But some do. As you can tell. 

 

You seem like a very down to earth, intelligent and sensible young lady. ^_^

I'm sure you'll find someone with less unrealistic expectations. 

 

I still think that's a bizarre complaint though. Like no sh** you've got bills to pay and stuff.

Unless he's going to pay your utilities and other living expenses after 4 days communication, then get funked. Gosh.

lol

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I have one thing to say.....

 

 

MAKE YO MONEY GIRL.

 

You'll find the right Daddy who will not only like that you work but will work just as hard. Good luck in the future !

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Any Daddy who gives you a lame a$$ excuse like this after 1 day of not being available 24/7 is a Daddy totally undeserving of your time. I understand why you're upset though. When I run into stuff like this, I give myself a day to sulk, a day to rant, and then watch out world, you ain't never met a girl like me!
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I'm in a similarish situation. My Daddy is super busy and we spent an entire weekend asking to each other and the day of our first meeting talking. And I know he's super busy with his job and other stuff and I felt I was being really good but during the week and on busy weekends it was only ten minutes a day he would talk to me. I told him I was super glad he had a few minutes for me but I was hoping for more than ten a day. It's also hard to line up our schedules. And I felt like a jerk telling him that I know I need more than ten minutes a day, even if it's only thirty minutes a day, but he said he would try and figure something out that worked better for both of us. So that guy sounds like a butt instead of being happy you could communicate even for a moment or two during your shift with the kind of job you have.

 

I tried to be happy with just ten minutes a day and if I wasn't dealing with keeping my anxiety in check it would've been fine with me but right now anyway I need more attention and Daddy has been awesome about it.

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No Daddy has the right to expect your constant attention and availability, especially so early in the relationship.  And any true Daddy should have no problem accepting the fact that you have a life and responsibilities outside of the relationship.

 

If things seem to be going well during the early days then schedules and availability are among the things which need to be discussed before taking the relationship any further.  And if it continues, both people should gradually find their comfort level in terms of how much time they want to spend together.  This guy just sounds like a self-centered jerk, and you're lucky to be rid of him sooner rather than later.

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Well, in this dynamic, it's really important to have both sides agree to different aspects of the relationship. If he expects more attention, he should get it and perhaps you can compromise with that. However, if you cannot, it just wont work and you will have to find someone else that can match what you prefer in this dynamic. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you but at least he told you as early as he could with what he wanted and now you can move on. 

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If this had never been discussed, he said he understood you had to work and then he couldn't get through the very first day that you weren't 100% focused on each other then I rather doubt his capacity to provide for you emotionally in the long term (or even short term).

 

I agree with MilkPop, you seem to be grounded, and he does not. With your attitude I have no doubt you will find the right person if you keep looking.

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Um, let me just say that he's a "fake/ pseudo" Daddy. He's in it for his needs. A real Daddy wants to encourage you to be who you are and to work and be as independent as you can be as long as you need him. Daddies understands that you can get busy and that when you aren't you devote your time to him. My Daddy is the the hard worker in the relationship, he works outside of the home and will have unconventional hours but he knows that I work to and when I need to work if it's an emergency I do not have to ask for his permission. My Daddy understands that I don't always have the luxury to cling to him all the time even though I want to. I honestly think that guy is a loser, for losing out on you.  Chin up darling, there's a Daddy out there for you.

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No, not all Daddys are like this, thank goodness!! I'm a work a holic who works two jobs (one at night) and sleeps most of the day. Daddy is a stay at home father who cooks and keeps the house clean. Because I work at night and sleep during the day, even though we live together, we rarely see each other for more than an hour a day until my one day off every. He is proud of me for working so hard, financially providing for our large family, paying off my debt, and trying to get back into school to pursue my dream career. He has never once made me feel bad or guilty about the time apart or conplained that I am not attentive enoygh. There ARE times when he really needs more attention, so I will stay up a little longer when I get home in the morning so I can give him that attention. And there are times when I need more than our schedule allows, so Daddy will stay up a little later at night to message me or he will lay down with me when I go to bed in the morning and give me the attention I need. But this is always a compromise and NEVER an ultimatum.
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Like no sh** you've got bills to pay and stuff.

Unless he's going to pay your utilities and other living expenses after 4 days communication, then get funked. Gosh.

lol

This

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I sowwy :( That's not a nice way to treat you and you deserve way, way better. You got lucky in finding out soon, I think. You have a life, and you shouldn't be expected not to live it.

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Guest bubbles__
I personally love clingy Daddy's but he's not looking out for your best interest if he's legitimately getting upset for you not giving him constant attention. He has a lot of growing up to do. Ive encountered them too it's unfortunate.
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Guest Kali
My guess is that your Daddy is quite young or isn't himself in full time employment. LDR are difficult and require a degree of patience on both sides. I'm quite a needy Daddy myself and enjoy lots of contact/snaps etc. but I never lose sight of the fact that we all have to pay the rent and deal with life's little hurdles from time to time. Keep looking!
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