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Being a Daddy and Unemployed


Guest Volkmane1985
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Guest Volkmane1985

Evening all,

 

Just curious to know if there are any other Daddys who are currently unemployed?

 

I have yet to 'get' my Little and I stopped myself writing a Personal earlier as there isn't much I can do currently, apart from meet up in the Town where I live.

 

Though of course I can chat online, play games online, skype etc.

 

Anyone else in similar situation?

 

Littles can reply as well :)

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Guest Dominik

I had a time of being unemployed. And I think that having a relationship can strengthen you there. You have a person you are responsible for, so I suppose that this will motivate you a lot to find a new job! And she can encourage you.

 

If you want you can write me a message, then we can talk about it. Maybe I can help you :-)

 

Dom-inik

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Guest _LittleKat_

I'm not completely in your situation but my Daddy doesn't have a stable job at the moment, he's self employed so work comes and goes, and that's okay, it can be a little hard sometimes but Daddy always finds ways to make it better ^_^.

 

I really hope you find your little also ^_^

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Guest daddy_zach

I don't think being unemployed at the moment should handicap you being a good, caring online daddy.

If your little was local, I could see how that might be difficult though.

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Guest Volkmane1985

Thanks for the offer Dom :)

 

I'd love to have my Little local, never had a relationship with someone who lived in same town.

 

Like many others I'm after a relationship first and then start the DD/lg part.

 

Being unemployed while annoying, it only really means I can't spoil my Little :p

 

Quality time can be spent without money.

 

I was once asked by a Little I was talking to what I'd do with lots of money. Spoiling my Little rotten was one of them.

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The right little will not mind. Yes, we will want things and you as a Daddy should get your little something, but it should be when you can.  Being little and Daddy is more than just Daddy getting  me stuff. It goes both ways. Yes, Daddies encourage littles to be better than we are now but at the same time we are here to encourage Daddy to be better himself.Don't be afraid to look for a little but just be honest with her.

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Guest daddy's_little_shadow

I'm an unemployed Little. It sucks, but due to my circumstances, I can't just get out there and get another job. I'm kinda stuck. You're not alone. lol

 

It's not a requirement for me to have a Daddy that is employed. I don't really want money. I just want love and affection and dominance. That's all I ask for. That's just me, though.

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I'm a middle (little sometimes, Big only when I have to be) and I am unemployed. This makes me anxious about dating cause I don't want them to think I'm a gold digger :/

 

All my selfs really just want snuggles and affection, except my big self who just wants a stinkin' job and to be independent.

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Being unemployed has absolutely nothing to do with being a daddy or dom. it's about using life experience to care for and guide someone to allow them to grow.

 

As for no money, yes that's hard but there are lots of people in a relationship who have no money. It's about spending time together.

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Guest Mittens

Hmm. This is a very tricky subject. In my experience, everyone always wants stability with work. Plus there is a lot of pressure because you want to take your little out and shower them with gifts. Now, provided, looking into the comments here, there are some littles who don't mind if their daddy didn't have a stable job or a job at all. That's fine, however I find a deeper side of things. For a Daddy to not have a job, it's an internal struggle, and yes they can lose motivation. Yes you are absolutely right in the comments to say a little can give motivation. I overcame MANY physical hurdles as well as mental ones where I had to fight my own mental disorders and overcome many fears to get where I had to be. I would never and have never done it before, until I met my last LG. She empowered me and strengthened me so much I could move mountains. She gave me the energy, the hope, the confidence, and the motivation I needed to get out and do something. However.. Lets dig a bit deeper. For you littles, you need to know it is very very tough on a daddy not to have a job (provided they aren't fake daddies). A caregiver is someone who wants to take care of you, this includes giving you stability. So sometimes things can get tough but never stop fighting, the second you stop cheering the second they lose it all. Or a good portion. And Daddies, this puts a lot of stress and strain on littles, they need their motivation and encouragement as well, and if they are the only ones doing the cheerleading or not getting a return of some sort, then they might lose their own will. This is where it becomes beautiful, an image of 2 people supporting each other. It is like making a house of cards. Or a card pyramid. 2 cards are leaning against each other at just the right amount. This gives both support, if one gives too much or too little it can fall over and then you have to start again. But it's amazing how it all works really and we can relate this to cards haha. However, here is the plus side to things. All this time you have, since you aren't working, you can now put into your LG or littles if you are jobless you can put into your daddy. This is where things start to get edgy because sometimes people like to spend time with friends more than their other. You have 16 hours in a day if you only get 8 hours of sleep. 16 hours, and if you only spend time with your little for 4 of those hours, then who else are you spending it with? NOW I am not saying that all can be like this, I know family, and life can require thins from you. Maybe you only get unlimited talk and text on weekends so you are limited, or they are going on vacation with their family ect. I am not talking about those special occasions. But i see many daddies go and play games or hang with friends and ignore their littles while they writhe around all day bored and missing their cg's. (not so much on this site but my own sites and friends yes). Even if you can't buy her something, you can make her something. Draw a heart draw a stick figure scene of you two on a date, write a letter how much you love her ect. This means so much to them and if they are gone for awhile or have to sleep or whatever, you could be spending your time on them by making things for them. That's the best part for littles, littles you get all the attention you want and need! provided you want attention or need it and provided your caregivers are giving you that attention lol. But in good relationships it helps you two to get to know each other and grow fonder which can increase the motivation of the daddy. 

 

 

So my TL;DR message for you Volkmane is.. Don't fret, life can be hard, life can be tough. If you are surviving and making things work in the realm of food and a place to stay and even net and phone. Then you are getting be enough for a little, to help her, to reassure her, to comfort her and to love her.  You can still find work and apply, and if nothing comes up, be persistent! But use this time as an opportunity to give a little something, they can't get with you working. 100% full undivided attention to make them feel special loved and welcome in your life. This is my opinion and this is my path. And to answer your question: I am a jobless daddy, but I lost everything because of my ex. So I am in a special situation here. Be well and love everyone!

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  • 3 weeks later...

I am unemployed but i'm a student so i can't buy a lot for my little but i make her drawings with her that we can hang up and you can go to a flee market and find some stuffie or still in the box paci or what ever your little likes and just make sure it's really clean.

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Guest Fros†beard

I'm basically retired (due to health reasons) at this point. Does it make me feel like I can do less for my little? Sometimes, sure.
But the thing is, I've still got 250-300 euros a month to blow on whatever I want. The stereotypical DD is big and strong, with a steady job... but I've got so much time to pour on my little since I'm not employed!

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  • 2 weeks later...

Well I'm a new Daddy with a new little. Not unemployed but a low paying job. My little girl lives with me (we rent from my mother)

And we're engaged. I wont lie. It is tough. Sometimes you want to spoil her/him but the finances don't allow it... In that regard my little is amazing. Also has a low paying job but she's great with making money stretch... My point is you always find a way to make it work

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Guest ShyDaddyDom

I'm like in out of depression, jobs seem to follow that suit.

 

I personally feel like a worthless daddy as I can't do stuff for a little that I knw they'd want. All I really have to offer is a heart and that is never enough.

 

Although this may be depression putting too much of a negative spin on things it still really grinds me down and when I talk to a little I just don't feel good enough because of it.

 

It sucks.

 

I've never been about money, just about being a good person. If it was down to me and not society I'd live with the bare minimum and spend my life ding voluntary work, alas, that won't allow me to eat of give a little a life they deserve.

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My Daddy is retired, and certainly not rich. Money means literally nothing to me. As long as we can spend time together, that's all i care about. We share the expense and "effort" of that. He will drive to me, or i will get the train to Him.
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