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    #41 Little Illy

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    Posted 15 May 2018 - 04:42 PM

    Bump bump bump bump bump....

     

     

    I can't believe we still have this issue in our community. There is a difference between being Fake and being Incompatible...   <_<


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    #42 Frog

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    Posted 15 May 2018 - 09:49 PM

    Just my two cents... I've had bad experience with some littles. To be honest, I don't know if they knew about the community, or if they were just into the online kink fascination. But I've been ghosted and had one who on Day 1 called me "Daddy" and started asking about diapers. (I'm not into ABDL.) I don't know if they were just into calling someone "Daddy" or if they were just overly needy.

     

    Were they fake? Possibly. Will I insist they were fake? Probably not.

     

    We didn't click, I called things off quickly, and I never looked back. Simple. I won't judge another little for the actions of another, little or wannabe little.



    #43 Little Illy

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    Posted 17 May 2018 - 02:07 AM

    Were they fake? Possibly. Will I insist they were fake? Probably not.

     

    We didn't click, I called things off quickly, and I never looked back. Simple. I won't judge another little for the actions of another, little or wannabe little.

     

    And this is the mature response!

     

    They could be uneducated, inexperienced, incompatible, or simply fake. But the fact is, WE DON'T KNOW. All we know in these situations is that something went awry and it ended. Especially as bystanders to a very, VERY, small part of their one-sided story of the relationship. Yall know how long I write my posts (and I know it annoys some of you), but even if people made posts that long about their "Fake" partners.... it is still not enough information to conclude someone is fake!

     

    Anyways, I wont rant anymore XD XD 


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    Posted 07 March 2019 - 03:55 AM

    Just because you have a PREFERENCE doesn't mean they are FAKE. Brava.



    #45 MommySophia

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    Posted 09 March 2019 - 09:33 PM

    This was quite a good read. As a trainer the word "fake" to me is vile. Thank you for explaining it like this. 



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    Posted 09 March 2019 - 10:42 PM

    Thank you very much, this is very well written. I am glad someone see's the issues within our community as well as I. There are all types of dynamics within this lifestyle and this dynamic is no exception. -stands up and claps-



    #47 brattynsweet

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    Posted 31 July 2019 - 03:43 AM

    I completely agree. Thank you for taking the time to type all that down for everyone. I'm new here, and I am learning more and more about this community. The first thing I came to understand is that there is no clear definition of what a little or caregiver should be and act like. It's all about compatibility. Don't have high expectations; no one is perfect. And it should be common sense that no one can be in that headspace 100% of the time. We all need space, a little break, when life gets tough. Being in a relationship means showing support when your partner is suffering. Don't expect them to be a perfect caregiver, or a perfect little all the time.



    #48 PiperParadis

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    Posted 08 August 2019 - 08:44 AM

    As a person that got into this not long ago, I REALLY apreciate it. I think this should be in a place where every new person in this forum reads it. For me it's been hard to assimilate that I felt identified with the DDlg lifestyle/relationship type/whatever, because everything I've known about or the image we tend to have is that if you're a little, you like coloring books, wearing ponytails and pink porn-version of childlish clothing and your daddy wears suits, gives you treats and have dom sex with you while introducing you to "this new game in which you make daddy happy but it's between us and nobody can ever knows" which is a disturbing idea in any way you look at it. Knowing that DDlg goes farther than that, that there's multiple types of relationships, that you, as little or as daddy doesn't have to be or to act a certain way (You can be a submissibe daddy and a dom little, or vice versa) is awesome. Reading you post made me feel more secure about the decision I took about entering in this forum and giving it a shot. THANKS.

    #49 Fragile Princess

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    Posted 08 August 2019 - 09:03 AM

    The only fake Daddies are f*ckboys just wanting nudes.

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    #50 Aston

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    Posted 09 August 2019 - 01:02 AM

    The only fake Daddies are f*ckboys just wanting nudes.

    im not sure why you felt necessary to contribute this to this discussion but after some of my latest interactions with "littles" im becoming more and more convinced that any kind of thoughtful communication is completely wasted on them.

    what's the point of wasting energy on reading someone's profile and past posts, so you can get a good idea of who they are so you can come up with a well thought out opener with the hope you can start some kibd of meaningful conversation with them. onlyy to have them

    a: ignore it
    b: react incredibly hostile
    c: quit responding after 2 days.

    after my latest experience im genuinely done with it and frankly im about about one step away of giving up on common decency and just whip my dick out and ask for nudes like everyone else.

    at this point im just tired sick of putting in the wasted effort

    But despite that, the person who I interacted with was in no way a "fake". sure, they were emotionally damaged, but they were still a genuine little.

    people in this community tend to label any kind of undesirable behavior as "fake"

    fuckboys asking for nudes are an irritatiting nuissance. but they are crude, and theyre easy to spot.

    that said
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    truth is, there is far more malignant behavior out there than just that

    there are definately some "fakes" out there. there are some predatory assholes out there calling themselves daddy. and either naive or emotionally vulnerable girls who cant distinguish dominant behavior from severe abuse.

    in the last few days alone I've seen several instances where someone who was looking for a caregiver was repeatedly ground down by guys who mistook their own toxic personality for "dominance" and think that being a domme means emotionally damaging someone

    #51 0xJustAGirlx0

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    Posted 13 August 2019 - 03:42 PM

     A reall CG and a real little does exactly whatever makes them happy, comfortable and who they are. There is no mold to fit, no build-a-little or build-a-CG to which statistics are required to be met

     

    I'm sorry I know this is a super important post and I 100% agree with everything you just said but the idea of a "Build-A-Little/CG" is the cutest thing ever and I'm gonna draw it or something. Maybe you can choose certain traits like "Goth", "Girly", or "Tomboy" and "Bratty", "Pleasantly Spoiled", or "Sweetie". It would look like a dress-up game but be so much more! Omfg i have a problem


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    #52 Nyc_princess

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    Posted 14 September 2019 - 09:23 AM

    I know this topic is many years old but I would like to throw my two cents in.

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    Back in the day (heh) the term was only used for those CG/littles who were literally using the dynamic as a way to purposefully hurt their partner. In short - they were a predator searching for prey. And that went both ways, littles were predators to inexperienced or overly trusting CGs. But the point is that these people were literally (dictionary definition of literal) trying to harm the other person by taking advantage of them for sex, money, or just to hurt them

    Unfortunately there are still people like this and will be posing as a daddy or little to hurt others.

    If we cant call them fake, what can we call those people ?

    #53 Hinako

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    Posted 14 September 2019 - 10:08 AM

    If we cant call them fake, what can we call those people ?

     

    Maybe predators or fiends?







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