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I have a daddy and a caregiver = Confusion!


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Hi All! 

 

I'm new so I don't really know if I'm posting this in the right place and I'm very sorry if I'm not. 

 

I'm a little and am in a relationship with my daddy, he wasn't a daddy before me and thats another issue for another time but i have him whom i'm very happy with but I also have a caregiver who is a very good friend of mine. He calls me very cute names and he doesn't know my daddy (but knows of him), he asked if I wanted to call him daddy to which I said I couldn't cause it would be to confusing and I can't have more than one daddy at a time but then I don't know what to call him... it is all very confusing to my brain still...

 

I guess what I'm getting at is what can I call my caregiver who isn't my daddy?

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So your Daddy doesn't know about your Caregiver/friend and this Caregiver/friend wants to be your Daddy?

 

Well no my daddy doesn't really know about my caregiver/friend... and no i don't think my caregiver wants to be my daddy but i guess is trying to help me be as comfortable as i can and for some reason using his name kinda brings me out of that comfortable space I get into and that's what I'm assuming he was picking up on

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Just briefly might I suggest making sure your Daddy knows about your caregiver/friend? If someone is taking on the role of your caregiver that's a bit of an intimate position and you don't want your Daddy to find out in another way and start questioning things. Think of how he would feels. Just my thoughts but it's wonderful you have such great relationships.

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Just briefly might I suggest making sure your Daddy knows about your caregiver/friend? If someone is taking on the role of your caregiver that's a bit of an intimate position and you don't want your Daddy to find out in another way and start questioning things. Think of how he would feels. Just my thoughts but it's wonderful you have such great relationships.

Yes i know i will have to tell daddy about him but daddy and i are in a very unbalanced place right now which is why i havent told him yet... Thats why my friend has been taking on the caregiver role cause he knows i need it so i dont fall apart type thing...

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So, let me get this straight. You have a CG, which your Daddy knows nothing about, while your relationship with your Daddy is on the rocks? There's nothing wrong with having another person providing care for you in a CG role, but they both need to know about each other and agree on their roles respectfully. I would worry about titles after you've explained things fully to your Daddy so that he can decide if he is comfortable with such an arrangement.
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i guess yoo all right i need to talk to my daddy... it just doesnt that easy to talk to him right now... He never seems to understand how i feel about anything at the moment...

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Maybe write a letter if your finding it tough to talk and have him understand you. Do you have his email, you can let him know you have some things you need to say and you would like to email him a letter since you are finding it hard to talk; if your shy about handing him your letter personally. 

 

For me letters are best because communication is hard but communication as scary and hard as it can be always the answer.  :heart:  :heart:  :heart:

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Maybe write a letter if your finding it tough to talk and have him understand you. Do you have his email, you can let him know you have some things you need to say and you would like to email him a letter since you are finding it hard to talk; if your shy about handing him your letter personally. 

 

For me letters are best because communication is hard but communication as scary and hard as it can be always the answer.  :heart:  :heart:  :heart:

oh my gosh thank yoo so so much! that is such a good idea! I dont really have to bring up the whole daddy and caregiver anymore seen as my caregiver said he just wants to be friends last night that he doesnt wanna be my caregiver anymore :(.

 

But this will hopefully really help with me battling to talk to him about alot of whats going on between us right now!!

 

Thank yoo so so much!!! :heart:  *glitter*:heart:  

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