Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[babygirlallie_79]

I'm a 46 year old Little/Middle & have been hiding it for years from every one I know, including my husband & kids (but that's a whole other issue). I've also been on disability for chronic pain, DDD, scoliosis, & sciatica for about 10 years now. I was diagnosed with the spine of an 80 year old by the time I was 30, & I've had to have several surgeries on my back, neck, & shoulder because of it. Lately it's been harder for me to get into my Little mindset because of the pain, so I've been more of a middle lately. I'd give anything to be non-verbal & completely dependent on my CG, but that's not possible for me. I'd also love to find friends who are struggling Littles/Middles. If there's any one out there dealing with some of the same things, please feel free to contact me. Maybe we can help each other to hold onto our Little/Middle side. 😊

[Solitarily_Me]

19 hours ago, babygirlallie_79 said:

I'm a 46 year old Little/Middle & have been hiding it for years from every one I know, including my husband & kids (but that's a whole other issue). I've also been on disability for chronic pain, DDD, scoliosis, & sciatica for about 10 years now. I was diagnosed with the spine of an 80 year old by the time I was 30, & I've had to have several surgeries on my back, neck, & shoulder because of it. Lately it's been harder for me to get into my Little mindset because of the pain, so I've been more of a middle lately. I'd give anything to be non-verbal & completely dependent on my CG, but that's not possible for me. I'd also love to find friends who are struggling Littles/Middles. If there's any one out there dealing with some of the same things, please feel free to contact me. Maybe we can help each other to hold onto our Little/Middle side. 😊

@babygirlallie_79 I'm a bit older than you (I'll be 58 in July), but if you'd like, we could be friends, or just chat once in a while. I can sympathise with you having to hide your little side from hubby and kids, as I'm in the same predicament (although my kids are grown and flown). I am also on disability, but mine is because of an anxiety disorder. I am so sorry you are dealing with all the pain. I can't even begin to imagine how tough that must be. 

I generally have a hard time getting into that little mindset just because of life in general. However, my little side is part of who i am. So, in my head (so to speak), I'm always little. lol Since I don't have any friends, my stuffies are my best friends, and I talk to them all the time. 

I can definitely relate to wanting to be non-verbal and completely dependent on a CG. That would be so wonderful. But, like you, it's not possible for me, either. 

Feel free to message me any time if you'd like to chat. I'm a great listener! 

 

[babygirlallie_79]

2 hours ago, Solitarily_Me said:

@babygirlallie_79 I'm a bit older than you (I'll be 58 in July), but if you'd like, we could be friends, or just chat once in a while. I can sympathise with you having to hide your little side from hubby and kids, as I'm in the same predicament (although my kids are grown and flown). I am also on disability, but mine is because of an anxiety disorder. I am so sorry you are dealing with all the pain. I can't even begin to imagine how tough that must be. 

I generally have a hard time getting into that little mindset just because of life in general. However, my little side is part of who i am. So, in my head (so to speak), I'm always little. lol Since I don't have any friends, my stuffies are my best friends, and I talk to them all the time. 

I can definitely relate to wanting to be non-verbal and completely dependent on a CG. That would be so wonderful. But, like you, it's not possible for me, either. 

Feel free to message me any time if you'd like to chat. I'm a great listener! 

 

Hi Solitary_Me! I'd love it if we can get to know each other & be friends! 😊 

[Solitarily_Me]

@babygirlallie_79 that would be great!! 😊 I look forward to it!! 😊😊 

[siren_79_]

Also deal with DDD and have had several spine surgeries.  I struggle a lot with am I a middle or submissive.  I know I'm more into having a caregiver and it's so difficult finding someone who gets that.  I'd love to have older friends in the life who get what I'm facing.  More friends always welcome!

[babygirlallie_79]

On 5/7/2025 at 6:31 PM, siren_79_ said:

Also deal with DDD and have had several spine surgeries.  I struggle a lot with am I a middle or submissive.  I know I'm more into having a caregiver and it's so difficult finding someone who gets that.  I'd love to have older friends in the life who get what I'm facing.  More friends always welcome!

It sounds like we have a lot in common siren_79. I'd love it if we can be friends! If you ever need to chat with another little/middle who can relate to what you're going through, you can always chat with me either here or on discord at numb3r1rav3nsfan. 😀

[Lunita]

I left the Lifestyle for the last few years, it's hard to be an older little. Having spaces like this is a big comfort in knowing I'm not alone. It can be overwhelming.

[kittypickles]

Hi everbody! My name is kittypickles, I'm 37 but my little age is around 2-4. I too have noticed that many of the little on here is much younger,  and I find that I don't have much in common with them.  I am also finding myself needing my little space much more as I get older,  and the stressor of this period of life become harder.  Idk. I just want a few little friends to talks too sometimes,  and stuffs.

[Lunita]

2 minutes ago, kittypickles said:

Hi everbody! My name is kittypickles, I'm 37 but my little age is around 2-4. I too have noticed that many of the little on here is much younger,  and I find that I don't have much in common with them.  I am also finding myself needing my little space much more as I get older,  and the stressor of this period of life become harder.  Idk. I just want a few little friends to talks too sometimes,  and stuffs.

I can relate so very much. I need little space much more than I used to. 

I'm here if you ever need an older lil to chat wif🖤

[kittypickles]

1 minute ago, Lunita said:

I can relate so very much. I need little space much more than I used to. 

I'm here if you ever need an older lil to chat wif🖤

Awww sank yous so much!! That would be the bestest!

[Guest SunshineButterfly218]

I'm 42 years old and I'm so happy there's a section here. I've always known that I was a middle. It's nice to meet everyone and hope to meet some new friends on here. 

[littlegala]

👋 I’m a little with a Big ags of 43. I used to be so confident about my age but my body started changing. Its nothing big but just enough to remind me that I’m getting older lol. I’m basically allowed to be little in my family to a certain extent. They accept what I wear and what I might buy. No sippy cups or baby toys though. But I feel like I’m being held back when it comes to Daddies and little space because of my insecurities of my age. I wish I could get past this bump and be more confident in myself. So that's how I feel about being an older little. 

[BabyPoppy]

So I've been around here awhile, but haven't checked in lately... I'm Baby Poppy... my little age is 3 and younger... down to baby...🥰 my big age is 4 and 5 hehe... someone told me I could use that to feel better about my big age!

Like many of you, my body tells me all the time that I'm growing up... arthritis in my hands, wrists, elbows, hips, knees, feet... asthma/allergies/food issues... tummy troubles... no more girl parts inside and hormone stuff... bladder problems (makes ABDL more fun when it's a need and a want!😆)... and some other stuff.... I choose to be happy about most of it and cry when I need to....

Also, like many if you I'm kinda new to this... I have really found my place yet or worked out who I am as a little... but I don't think I ever will coz as my body changes, my needs change and I need to adapt to my level of comfort in allowing someone to care for me. 

Hiding from the rest of the world is painful for our hearts... so I made it a game of pretend... my little side loves make believe! (Thanks Mr. Roger's Neighborhood!) I know my little self is my true self... when I need to do something big I think like a big... so I know the expectations of what needs to be done at work and while im there i do that... while wear a onesie under my clothes or cute hair or drinking from a fun water bottle... whatever is appropriate... but at home in my private space I can be me!

Look around! There are more older littles and middles than you realize... many of us tend to hang back a little longer before talking to people... we have a lot to juggle in life and me personally sometimes life gets busy and I step back... then it's not so busy so I pop back in to say hi... it's ok... this is family... you are accepted here. 

[sweetsubinfl]

Is this still an active page?

[Lunita]

44 minutes ago, sweetsubinfl said:

Is this still an active page?

Yes!

[Telch]

Hi! 

I am newly joined here and am so pleased to find this thread. I am 45, and only recently begun to express my middle (14-16). It sort of started a while back when I was discussing with my partner about how a lot of people still feel in their mid-late 20s in their heads, and he said "Well, yes, but you are mid-teens when you need to turn off"

I sat with that for a bit and then told him "You know what, you are right"...so now he encourages me to embrace it when I need to turn off and let off steam, I have several full outfits now that just put me in the headspace for being the rebellious, extroverted, slightly intimidating teen (I even got some Dr Martens Bratz boots to go with them!), and he encourages me to play cute games on my console that I would never have played before, and we watch all my favourite 90s movies while I eat M&Ms and ice cream and stay up way too late.

I have worried about it and asked him "Is this a mid-life crisis" and he said "I have known you for nearly a couple of decades, you have been like this the whole time, you just did not feel comfortable expressing it before, embrace it, have fun with it" so I am, and you know what? It is great and I don't care what people think!