Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[HisLittlePotato]

5 hours ago, Gellybeangrl11 said:

Hello,

My name is Gellybeangrl11. My middle/little age is 11-13. My biological age is 52. I am new to the DD/Lg dynamic. I have always felt like a middle/little, but I just thought that I was weird. My Ex didn't think it was good for me so I spent the last 17 years hiding. Now that I no longer am with the Ex, I am trying to reclaim myself...middle/little and all!

I am in a new DD/lg relationship and I am wondering if you all feel the same (like a little/middle) all the time?  My DD and I are also in a LDR...5 hours away. When I am with my DD I don't necessarily feel how I do when at home coloring or watching a movie in my own private little space sanctuary. Is this a bad thing? I still feel like a little when I am with Daddy. Am I still in "little space"? 

It's all so new to me. I am at peace in either situation. It's just when Daddy and I are intimate it's a bit more intense (I still feel like a lg), but it just feels different. Does anyone else have this issue? or have you ever felt like this? I think Daddy is worried that I am not "MORE" into little space when with him. It's not a matter of more or less, it's just a different feeling. Any insight would be much appreciated.

Thanks, Gellybeangrl11

I feel differently depending on the time of day!  Sometimes I'm more little, sometimes less.  I don't think the emphasis should be on "how little" you are but more on building a dynamic and relationship that keep you both happy and fulfilled.

When I'm feeling very little all I want to do is cuddle up with Winnie the Pooh and watch telly.  But on average when I'm feeling little (I'm an older middle so not super little!) then I'll put my headphones on, listen to music, write in my journal, read a YA book or something like that.  Different activities for different "ages". 

Perhaps you could try doing different things when you're with your Daddy?  Something that is just for when you're together and not something you get to do at home?

[BabyPoppy]

On 6/28/2025 at 12:13 PM, Lil_K47 said:

Hello and welcome to all who recently posted!!! 
 

so very glad we can bond here and support each other!!

 

so yesterday I was at Walmart and they had hello kitty pillows. Y’all know I had to get one of those cause they were only 10 bucks!! 😻

 

I was also shopping  for some fun treats for my neighbor and her kiddos. We’ve lived across the street from each other for over a year and up until recently we had never really spoken. Neighborhood stuff brought us together and before I knew it, I had found a kindred spirit!!! Not into DDlg, but other kinks. So we’ve had some interesting conversations lately!! Haha 

she is pretty amazing actually. She has two boys 12 and 6. Her younger Son is autistic and man she is so wonderfully patient with him! I love watching them interact. She’s wide open and brutally honest, and her 12 year old is a trip and definitely her mini me! (Swear yall, if she were into DDlg I’d be begging her to be my Mommy!! 😉🤭) 
 

Anyway, shes been struggling a little here lately with life situations so I wanted to do something nice for her and the kids. The other day she made a homemade sprinkler out of a soda bottle. Her, me, and the 6 year old had a blast playing out in the street! I came  across the coolest thing at Walmart. I was actually looking for a slip n slide and found this cool water park baseball field!! It’s shaped like a baseball diamond and the path to each base is a water slide and sprinkler!!! How stinkin cool is that!!!

 

so I’ve got that in my cart, a big bubble wand and a little bubble blower for the 6 year old when I see stuff for home made snow cones!! But dang it if they don’t have the actual machine to make the snow cones, just all the fun flavors.   I was remembering when I was a little I had a snoooy snow cone maker. So as I’m still waking around the store I’m shopping on Amazon searching children’s snow cone machine. So the first few that pop up are crazy expensive but I keep scrolling to see what else they have. And hopefully I wasn’t caught by any of them people of Walmart photo takers, because omg my squeal of excitement at seeing they still make a snoopy snow come machine probably rocked the building!!! 🤭🤣🤣.    

It said there was only 11 left and one of them is comming home here!! Itall be here Sunday and I’m so stinking excited to show the kids and make snow cones with them!

 

how bad is it that I’m now living vicariously through my neighbors kids and totally using them as an excuse (kind of) why I’m buying up cool kids stuff!! 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️

 

anyway… hope everyone has a fabulous weekend!! 

So I totally love everything you wrote here! I teach preschool during the school year and generally have the at risk, developmentally delayed, and challenging behavior kiddos mixed with my typical kiddos (inclusive settings) so our classroom dynamic is pretty diverse in skill range. This summer I'm working with the school aged kids in summer care so I have 5 - 12 year olds and we have a lot of behavioral needs kiddos there too... many of the kids I taught in preschool!! So once again diverse skill levels... I get to be a kid and play with them, do the activities with them to model appropriate skills and it is so much fun to just be present with kids! I love it! We go to the park or the pool everyday and I participate in the activities! It's the bestest to see the world through the eyes of a child and be little with them! (Even if I still need to be a grown up). Plus, there are fewer challenging behaviors when I embrace parts of my little self and just play with them instead of dictating their play. 

[BabyPoppy]

On 6/29/2025 at 11:57 PM, Gellybeangrl11 said:

Hello,

My name is Gellybeangrl11. My middle/little age is 11-13. My biological age is 52. I am new to the DD/Lg dynamic. I have always felt like a middle/little, but I just thought that I was weird. My Ex didn't think it was good for me so I spent the last 17 years hiding. Now that I no longer am with the Ex, I am trying to reclaim myself...middle/little and all!

I am in a new DD/lg relationship and I am wondering if you all feel the same (like a little/middle) all the time?  My DD and I are also in a LDR...5 hours away. When I am with my DD I don't necessarily feel how I do when at home coloring or watching a movie in my own private little space sanctuary. Is this a bad thing? I still feel like a little when I am with Daddy. Am I still in "little space"? 

It's all so new to me. I am at peace in either situation. It's just when Daddy and I are intimate it's a bit more intense (I still feel like a lg), but it just feels different. Does anyone else have this issue? or have you ever felt like this? I think Daddy is worried that I am not "MORE" into little space when with him. It's not a matter of more or less, it's just a different feeling. Any insight would be much appreciated.

Thanks, Gellybeangrl11

So "little" can be something you are (part if your personality) or something you do (a way you behave). If it's something you are, of course it will change throughout the day as all parts of our personality is somewhat fluid. For example: I am a teacher, it's a personality trait for me. I help others think about big concepts by seeing the parts, understanding the different aspects of complex ideas or problems and work through them until they understand the idea or can solve the problem (this is education at it's base). It's not something I do consciously anymore, it's something I do without thought and I work hard to not over step with others almost constantly outside the classroom.  

I view being little the same way. For me, being little is part of who I am, a way of perceiving the world with a child-like innocence,  sense of wonder, awe, and joy. Being able to have fun, be silly and enjoy the present moment are important,  but so is the need to be vulnerable about my feelings, sharing my thoughts, my crafts/coloring, and both my successes and failures. (I work hard to stay outta littlespace when at work or when life calls for big space thinking).

It's also about acceptance. For too many years I fought who I am and tried to hide in the grown up world. I implemented rules, routines, and rituals to keep me safe and secure as a big girl, but I was so unhappy and lost my spark. I am a unique individual,  which makes me valuable! You are too! ❤️ 

When we can see the forest through the trees (see that we are complete with our little self, not separate from our little self), we will find wholeness and peace.

Each person, whether big, little, Mommy, Daddy, Caregiver, switch, D/s, or anything else has  one thing in common. We are all uniquely beautiful individuals.  We are strong people who juggle grown-up life and this wonderful space where we can validate a special part of our selves that the rest of the world is clueless about, and there is no right way to be little or big.

Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken! 

Love ya my little friends! 

Poppy

[BabyPoppy]

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Edited July 5 by BabyPoppy

[BabyPoppy]

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Edited July 5 by BabyPoppy

[DaddysCosmicBunny]

Hi, I'm CosmicBunny! Feel free to call me Cosmic 💫🐇

Honestly, I'm nervous to even post, but I promised my Daddy I would try. My tummy hurts just typing this. 😣

I'm trying to make friends that understand and "get" our dynamic and lifestyle. I'll be upfront since I'm trying to be clear about my intentions. I'm 32F going on 33 and I identify as an Older Middle or "Teen" (15-17). I consider myself a switch because I know I have a Dom personality (like a big sister), but I willingly Sub to my Daddy. I have yet to meet others who identify similarly.

We initially started as a LDR in our mid-teens before meeting in person 5yrs later once turning 18. We married when I turned 19 (sooner if I'd had it my way, but I promised him I'd finish high school 🙄). He is my one and he is my only. I can confidently say we are best friends. Before even learning there was DDlg community, I was already naturally calling him Daddy and submitting to him as I found him worthy. (Don't get it twisted, though, I'm still a Brat 😈)

Once we were finally together, I gained a "close" circle of friends in our very early 20s, but it eventually grew uncomfortable and problematic. Some found us "archaic" and others were trying to "break" my loyalty to him. I proudly consider myself weird, but the commentary and attempts made me feel really shitty. Eventually (and obviously), we drifted/fell apart as a friend group. I realize I haven't hung out with a true friend since December 2019, just before the pandemic hit. 😷☣️🧼

We moved our little family to Texas 🤠 a year ago, but I've been avoiding making new friends out of fear of repeating the past. Daddy provides for us so he works long hours, while I'm home with our little family. I miss him horribly when he's gone and I wish I had someone who understands me when I say I genuinely LIKE and LOVE Daddy and I want him around 24/7. What I desperately want is to make like-minded friends who I don't have to pretend or hide in front of and most importantly won't judge and will respect us and our dynamic. 

While my Dom brain is telling me "I've got this", my sub brain is screaming at me "It's way too hard and scary."

Anyways, if you made it this far, thank you for your time and I hope you didn't find this post long and annoying.

I would love and appreciate any suggestions or recommendations on how to get out of my head (and house 🏡😅) and try making friends again. 

Cosmic 💫🐇💜

[Lil_K47]

5 minutes ago, DaddysCosmicBunny said:

Hi, I'm CosmicBunny! Feel free to call me Cosmic 💫🐇

Honestly, I'm nervous to even post, but I promised my Daddy I would try. My tummy hurts just typing this. 😣

I'm trying to make friends that understand and "get" our dynamic and lifestyle. I'll be upfront since I'm trying to be clear about my intentions. I'm 32F going on 33 and I identify as an Older Middle or "Teen" (15-17). I consider myself a switch because I know I have a Dom personality (like a big sister), but I willingly Sub to my Daddy. I have yet to meet others who identify similarly.

We initially started as a LDR in our mid-teens before meeting in person 5yrs later once turning 18. We married when I turned 19 (sooner if I'd had it my way, but I promised him I'd finish high school 🙄). He is my one and he is my only. I can confidently say we are best friends. Before even learning there was DDlg community, I was already naturally calling him Daddy and submitting to him as I found him worthy. (Don't get it twisted, though, I'm still a Brat 😈)

Once we were finally together, I gained a "close" circle of friends in our very early 20s, but it eventually grew uncomfortable and problematic. Some found us "archaic" and others were trying to "break" my loyalty to him. I proudly consider myself weird, but the commentary and attempts made me feel really shitty. Eventually (and obviously), we drifted/fell apart as a friend group. I realize I haven't hung out with a true friend since December 2019, just before the pandemic hit. 😷☣️🧼

We moved our little family to Texas 🤠 a year ago, but I've been avoiding making new friends out of fear of repeating the past. Daddy provides for us so he works long hours, while I'm home with our little family. I miss him horribly when he's gone and I wish I had someone who understands me when I say I genuinely LIKE and LOVE Daddy and I want him around 24/7. What I desperately want is to make like-minded friends who I don't have to pretend or hide in front of and most importantly won't judge and will respect us and our dynamic. 

While my Dom brain is telling me "I've got this", my sub brain is screaming at me "It's way too hard and scary."

Anyways, if you made it this far, thank you for your time and I hope you didn't find this post long and annoying.

I would love and appreciate any suggestions or recommendations on how to get out of my head (and house 🏡😅) and try making friends again. 

Cosmic 💫🐇💜

welcome to our little slice of heaven here! We're happy you decided to come join us! You're definitely in the right place to make friends! I think here you'll find there a lot of people in similar situations who can very much relate to what you're going through. Hang in there! get comfortable, explore the site. There's a bunch of us who loved to play some of the games you're welcome to join us there!! definitely check out some of the clubs if you'd like to read romance novels there's a great book club! There's also a forum just specifically for making friends although here is a great place as well! If you have any questions at any time don't hesitate to ask any of us and again welcome!

[DaddysCosmicBunny]

3 minutes ago, Lil_K47 said:

welcome to our little slice of heaven here! We're happy you decided to come join us! You're definitely in the right place to make friends! I think here you'll find there a lot of people in similar situations who can very much relate to what you're going through. Hang in there! get comfortable, explore the site. There's a bunch of us who loved to play some of the games you're welcome to join us there!! definitely check out some of the clubs if you'd like to read romance novels there's a great book club! There's also a forum just specifically for making friends although here is a great place as well! If you have any questions at any time don't hesitate to ask any of us and again welcome!

OMG, you are so sweet and kind! 💗 The book club definitely caught my attention, so there's no doubt I'll be found in there more often than not. I'll also check out the games. Thank you so much for the warm welcome and recommendations! ☺️

[Sami89]

Well I found my people, I'm 36 and little age of about 4, from the UK manny area, also new to the ddlg scene, looking to meet someone and hopefully go for irl meet ups, wishing everyone the best of luck 

[Lil_K47]

14 hours ago, Sami89 said:

Well I found my people, I'm 36 and little age of about 4, from the UK manny area, also new to the ddlg scene, looking to meet someone and hopefully go for irl meet ups, wishing everyone the best of luck 

welcome!! happy to have you with us!