Posted 04 March 2018 - 06:32 PM
2 things... how is it you are upsetting her and (like littlefemmenist said) did she agree to the punishments and terms of the relationship?
If you are upsetting her and she is going to leave, is it a ploy to get around punishments or is she really going to leave? Is upsetting her really a bad thing? There is a reward and punishment aspect to this relationship.
It sounds like you might need to have a discussion with your little... I mean if she might not be down with the wax thing so that might be why she isn't doing it.
Posted 07 June 2018 - 10:42 AM
Posted 27 June 2018 - 12:49 AM
When me and my Daddy were LDR he used to make me get my panties wet and put them back on, or also tell me I couldn't sleep with my stuffies and so I had to put them all away. I was also told to sit in a corner but I was still allowed to talk to him, just no games on my phone. That's all I can think of rn though, I never really misbehaved and so I wasn't punished all that much.
Wet underwear can lead to bad down there situations, it's not healthy. In the future, please don't go through with that punishment.
Posted 21 July 2018 - 06:17 PM
I recently went over some revised punishments with my little. I am using a punishment method where a non-sexual punishment will be given for breaking a rule, and if that punishment is not followed, she will have a sexual punishment given. So far since discussing these new punishments with my little she's been a very good girl.
A specific punishment is if, she does not go and eat when I tell her to she will have to eat something she doesn't like when she eventually does eat. If she doesn't do that then she will have to use her vibrator for a certain length of time while doing something else.
Edited by venusisalsoaplanet, 21 July 2018 - 06:21 PM.
Posted 23 July 2018 - 08:39 PM
My first ddlg was a LDR with an adorable brat.
I found Time-Outs from daddy to be effective. I started with 1 hr. She hated when I wouldn't respond to her messages,
and after some whining, would start to behave.
If you try this.. make sure you're true to your word. If you say TO will be 30 minutes, make sure you stick to 30 mins
Oh, goodness! Ignoring is never the best thing to do. That is more of a traditional sub punishment, but there would still be a set time and acknowledgement that you will be unavailable for a specific time. Going dark unexpectedly will be damaging, especially if your Little is aware you were upset before unexpectedly leaving. When you come back to tell them what they did wrong and not do it again, or however it was it's handled when the punishment is over, an ignored Little will only be focusing on your emotions and making sure you're no longer upset. This isn't really them starting to behave, because they will focus only on not being ignored, and thus go through the motions to prevent that kind of hurt in their minds. Before punishing a Little, still always make sure they're aware of why their being punished, and how it was wrong. They must be in a healthy mindset before going through a punishment of any kind, or it will have a negative effect. Not just on your lesson, but on them as a person/Little.
Posted 07 August 2018 - 11:23 AM
Honestly the only way to make a Brat calm down is to use a VERY VERY STERN voice.
Like when a Daddy says " Im not tolerating this", "stop NOW" its so goshdang Hot >.<
You'll be quite surprised to know that most brats want a VERY strict Daddy, it just makes us feel safe.
Anyways, if you want make her spank herself while on skype/ft/videocall with you.
Make sure to never ever ever EVER let her get away with something unless its emergency or something very important because a Brat wants a Daddy that is more Dominant that her. A Daddy who will make her submit and A Daddy who is responsible, mature and confident enough to go through his threats.
Posted 07 August 2018 - 11:26 AM
Posted 23 March 2019 - 12:15 PM
Okay, so this is something I feel I can speak to since my relationships are LDR. I speak on the computer with my littles/middles daily, for several hours per day as we are available to talk to each other.
The first thing I would say is that there is a difference between giving someone a "time out" and ignoring the person. To my mind, if you're ignoring the person as a punishment then they can simply talk to someone else. It might sting that you're ignoring them but in all reality they can find something else to do. Also, it does smack of abandonment and could send the message that you only want to be with them if they do what you want. Which doesn't feel like a parenting mindset at all. Especially with LDR when you're not physically together and in reality each have other parts of your lives away from one another, why would you expect denying your little any amount of time you could be spending together over a mistake they made? Again, lots of people have issues being left, and at least in the Ageplay community (and I'd bet also in the DDLG community) many littles have been abandoned by "parents" when they felt a behavior became too much. You would be surprised how often I hear "daddy left me because I was bad too often".
Now, as to what might actually work in an LDR, you could still do a time out. But type out actions. This way it engages the little with you so they don't feel abandoned but they are still being punished. An example of this would be:
CG: why did you xyz?
CG: It was wrong because....and so you're going to time out *Takes you by the hand and leads you to your time out chair*
Little: *whines and sits*
CG: you are here because xyz and since you are (age) you will be here for (age number) minutes.
Little: *whine, stomp, sit*
CG: *sets timer and goes to do xyz*
Little: *sees CGs back is turned and gets out of the time out chair*
CG: *catches, swats, sets back in chair* The timer starts over since you got up
*repeat as necessary*
I usually do keep time in real life, and even if there is no dialogue, the little and CG can rp out the timeout until the time is up, and then rp out aftercare.
The way I do lines is I assign them their sentence and how many, and they are to write them in real life and then take a picture and send them to me. We rp out spankings when there is a lack of privacy or comfort, but if there is privacy and a good comfort level, I have directed self-spankings before.
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Posted 23 March 2019 - 09:51 PM
I personally think that if you don't let her talk to you you're kinda punishing yourself just as much as you are her, but that's just my opinion.
Hope this helps
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