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Importance of body type?


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Guest Sillybritgurl

Hey ya'll! So I'm still relatively new to all this and kind of learning my way around, but one topic that seems to come up a lot is body type (specifically weight and height). I'll be the first one to say that attraction is part of a good relationship, but when is it taking looks too far? If your first questions are about height and weight that seems a little extreme to me. Doesn't personality count for something too? Thoughts? 

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Guest DucklingMike

Looks shouldn't matter. I am a little and I'm a 6'3" chubby thing, still hella adorable though. <3 ~

 

But really, if someone gets turned on/off PRIMARILY based on looks, that's stupid. Hope I helped. ~

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I personally don't care for outward appearances, when it comes to relationships I tend to focus on personality and intellect rather than how they look. If you're some close minded jerk, but you've got the looks of--lets say Johnny Depp, I'm not gonna look twice.

 

Now don't misunderstand--appearance is definitely a plus, but it shouldn't be the only thing someone's looking at if they're striving to find a lover and friend, you could be the cutest person in the world but if you're personalities don't match, and you have nothing to share intellectually, or have anything in common, that cute person'll probably be a little less cute. It's all about perspective and how things click. 

 

That's just how I see it anyway.  ^_^ Hope that gave a little bit of perspective!

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Guest Mittens

Honestly for me I cannot be attracted to a person except through romantic bonds. So the more I love someone the more attractive they become. I never ever ever had a crush on an actor/actress or any song writer or celeb. I never once liked anyone more than the partner I was with. HOWEVER, looks play a part with me also. If you are too skinny or too overweight they are caution signs to me. I can't be with someone who is on their death bed or close to dying or can die any moment because of their health habits. People who have unhealthy habits tend to never want to improve themselves or get better either, and if they do try they won't listen to you or work with you, instead they go off on their own and do their own things. I feel a partnership is build on Communication, Trust, Compassion, and sacrifice. You need to be willing, you need to trust. You both need to work as a team. It's no longer I and Me but WE and US. Your problem is my problem, my problem is your problem. That is how relationships are to me. And people who aren't willing to speak to me and be willing to take my advice before the relationship, or get mad and attack me for my suggestions or advice.. Are people I can't be with  at all. They aren't willing to work with me and they aren't willing to trust me. So looks have somewhat to do with it. If it's something silly like.. acne.. That doesn't bother me, scars dont' bother me, freckles or blemishes (beauty marks or moles) don't bother me. Burns, cuts, gouges, ect. Accidents, don't bother me pertaining to attraction. If you aren't symmetrical in your features.. One eye is off center, or the socket is lower and looks tilted.. a nose curved or not straight, one arm or leg even slightly shorter, you lean to one side, one breast smaller than the other or not pointing the same way, ect.. None of that matters to me, I actually find them to be cute and endearing, unique qualities only my partner has. It makes me love them and adore them and makes me closer to them and even find them more beautiful and attractive. But.. I am a weird person, no one is like me, so I write this for your fascination and to make fun of me if need be.

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I'm someone who does care about fitness myself, so my partner would need to as well. Therefore, a healthy balanced diet and regular exercise is important to me. I'd want my little to be at a healthy weight and be committed to fitness in the same way I am. That being said, body type as far as whether she is naturally curvy or petite, tall or short, busty or on the smaller side, etc. are really pretty unimportant. Of those that I listed, height is the only thing I'd have a preference towards, and it's by no means a deal breaker, unless maybe she was significantly taller than me, which would be unlikely. What's important to me is that she's the healthiest version of herself, whatever her natural body type may be.

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I dont bother much about height. But weight is different. Because I want someone who LOVES to work out and exercise. Go on long hikes and such. I dont mind if the guy has a small stomach. But honestly, I want to be attracted to both the inside and outside. Nothing wrong with that.
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To be honest I think when people say they don't care about appearances they're generally lying. Everybody has a preference, and it's not wrong to have a preference. You could have less preferences than someone else, sure, but when it comes down to it everybody has somewhat of an ideal body that turns them on. That's just my opinion though.

 

Personally, I want my partner to be healthy. If they're overweight I need to know that they're making steps towards becoming healthy and fit or else I probably won't be interested in them. I'm not saying that I want you to look like a body builder - I just want you to be healthy. I keep myself in good shape so I expect the same from my partner. 

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Hi,

Got to agree with Antoinette, as usual :) Many of us on this site don't have a picture of themselves and whilst initially those here who say "looks aren't important" might chat and feel some sort of attraction toward that person without seeing a picture but guaranteed at some point you'd want to see who you're talking to and if you then didn't find them attractive, you be at least disappointed. None of us would continue into a longer term relationship without ever seeing a picture of the other persons face....

I know there's something about me a lot of women don't find attractive so I'm not totally shallow. But like Antoinette, I have my preferences still.

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Well I can't speak for everyone but my relationship with my little started when we were both vanilla and as for looks I'm on the pudgy side and she's much thinner. Im also slightly, very very slightly, shorter than her. And yet I've always been the caregiver/dom in our relationship even when we were vanilla

 

So my thinking is that weight and height are obviously key contributors to initial attraction, we all have physical preferences. But when it reaches long term status,especially in ddlg, then the mental aspects of your personality take over. Im the Daddy because I'm the more dominant and commanding personality. She's the little because she's the little in her mind... Our shapes dont really play a part anymore

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I think people are right here. There is no one preferred body type as we all like different body types. So the only thing is honesty and to be happy in your own body.

 

I love slim petite women, hip bones etc.

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Guest headpats

It's important, but how important exactly depends on the person. Everyone prioritizes differently. Tons of people have already said the same thing, but I agree that personality and who you are on the inside is a way bigger deal than looks. Even if someone fulfills all of your superficial preferences, you can't enjoy a relationship with someone whose personality isn't compatible with you.

 

Having a first question be about height and weight is pretty extreme.

 

As far as the dynamic goes, I don't think size plays that big a role at all. You can still totally have littles and pets be bigger than their caregiver.

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Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred
Myself I love confidence. I love intelligence. I love someone who can work my brain and keep me on my toes. Their looks only multiply as I get to know them. If I am talking to someone and they tell me they know so much about such n such. Well hello handsome!! Care to teach me some of that knowledge? If you say yes that gets you extra points lol. Intelligence and wisdom come first for me. You could be looking like Sloth offa the Goonies with a brain like Mr.Peabody and I'd still find you more attractive than pretty boys like Brad underarm Pitt
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Guest _LittleKat_

Everyone has a preference! Physical attraction is important in a relationship but shouldn't be the dominant factor in it. You can have a guy or a girl who is really attractive to you, but they could be really mean and rude. You want to be with someone who makes you happy and cares about you, interests you and you won't find that out until you get to know them! ^_^

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Guest LeftyGuitar

I don't think looks are everything. What one person may find unattractive, another person will find attractive. Everyone has their own tastes. As the old saying goes, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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Guest chilldude

Well of course attraction matters to an extent, but those people that will only accept a '10'...

Weight doesn't matter really. I just want to see your face, and don't be offended I ask for your height - I'm not the tallest :p 

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Guest Fros†beard

I'm 6'2" with an average body.
I've been with tall girls and I've been with short girls; I've been with chubby girls and I've been with skinny girls.
I honestly don't care if you're a big, floating triangle - if I like you, I like you. I fall in love with the person within.
Can't really put it into simpler terms. That's literally how it is, no matter how many people call me a liar.

Do I like certain things? Sure, but that's exclusively based on past experience. In short, there's like a pool of things I find physically attractive, but some of them are absolutely mutually exclusive. So I guess I just like the human body in its various forms. And even if I like your eyes, for example, that doesn't mean I'll swoon and drool brainlessly. I won't find you attractive as a whole unless we have a connection. I've turned down girls who were generally considered super attractive, simply because I thought they were boring and shallow.

It's like you can see the person shine through their features. For better or worse.

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Looks are not everything nor the most important thing. To me it's how i click with a potential little and what her personality is like. My attraction towards a little or potential little forms as i get to know her. You can be drop dead gorgeous but your personality is rated a 1 than I will move on.
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Guest PrincessKittyx

*plus size little here*

I'm 5'2" and a chubster but Im also hella cute, hella smart and I got a hella big heart.

 

That being said, Im not really attracted to skinny or muscular men. But I have still spoken to and dated both. I havent had anyone tell me they were rejecting because of my body type but I'm sure it has happened. Doesnt bother me. People like what they like. Nothing you can really do. *shrug*

 

Im only bothered by people who are *rude* about it. Meanies.

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