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Hay folks just something I was thinking about and wonder if anyone relates to this. I was thinking that I'm kinda an antisocial little. Like when it comes to talking to bigs I'm all for it because like most littles I want someone to take care of me. However I don't really talk to other littles. I think this is leading to something missing from my little side. Part of being little is of course play and playing by yourself is never as much fun as playing with others. I think I'm just a bit shy and unsure about how to start conversations with other littles.

 

So does anyone else feel like this? If you have a mommy/daddy do you kinda just stick with them? For folk that do interact more with other littles do you find it adds to your little side?

 

I think the issue for this kinda interest is its a hard one to experience by yourself, or it is for me at least. So I was just wondering how big the social element of this is for others on here?

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I really do try I always want to make friends, but I don't really know how to act socially in real life or here. I never know if people like me. Sometimes in conversation my mind will just draw blanks and I literally can not think of a single thing to say. Sometimes irl this leads me to just walk away from people.

 

I don't know what to say to take things from acquaintances to friends. I can't tell if they're interested in being my friend. I'm lucky to have a little sis that I love to death and managed to make friends with 3ish years ago At least I got one! Haha

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I used to be very withdrawn and antisocial myself, but as I moved into my late twenties I started to come out of my shell. Now, I feel pretty comfortable striking up conversations and interacting with new people.

 

I've met quite a few littles here who are really shy, even my baby girl is. But, I feel that making friends and forming bonds in the community is really important for littles/submissives. For one, It helps them to not feel ostracized. It also helps to have friends who understand this lifestyle in moments of high stress or if a little is caught up in a bad relationship. It helps to know you're not alone, and that there are other littles out there who care about you.

 

That's why I encourage my little friends to meet and chat with one another, especially if they've just joined. To me, this forum is about community and providing a safe space for everyone to come together and share with one another. It's scary out there in the Big/vanilla world, and here is a place where you can just be yourself and find others like you to chat or play with. No one should ever have to feel isolated, and here, you don't have to be :)

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I completely relate. I am only close to Daddy. I keep to myself a lot.

I try really hard on here, but I'm super awkward. ><

 

But, the more I try, the happier I am. It's all about trying ^^

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I used to be very withdrawn and antisocial myself, but as I moved into my late twenties I started to come out of my shell. Now, I feel pretty comfortable striking up conversations and interacting with new people.

I've met quite a few littles here who are really shy, even my baby girl is. But, I feel that making friends and forming bonds in the community is really important for littles/submissives. For one, It helps them to not feel ostracized. It also helps to have friends who understand this lifestyle in moments of high stress or if a little is caught up in a bad relationship. It helps to know you're not alone, and that there are other littles out there who care about you.

That's why I encourage my little friends to meet and chat with one another, especially if they've just joined. To me, this forum is about community and providing a safe space for everyone to come together and share with one another. It's scary out there in the Big/vanilla world, and here is a place where you can just be yourself and find others like you to chat or play with. No one should ever have to feel isolated, and here, you don't have to be :)

Feeling weird for this interest is something I struggled with allot. I'm over it now because I have a general if your not hurting anyone what your doing is fine attitude but I still can't help feeling kinda lonely from time to time like I'm the only one into this, which of course I know is silly because there is allot of people into this.

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I totally understand. I struggled for years after my first relationship with feeling like maybe there was something wrong with me. It wasn't until recently that I discovered that this was a legitimate lifestyle, and that I wasn't really weird at all, lol :)
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I'm antisocial and live in a small town. I often get stomped on by friends in real life (that don't know about my lifestyle). I also wish I had people to talk to that are also little. That's why I'm here! Hello! I'm brand new. :)
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I have never talked to any other littles. I kind of only explore my little side with my Daddy. Mainly because I'm awkward and quiet around people that aren't my Daddy. and as a kid, I was always shy as well. So I'm a lonely little that clings to papa  ^_^

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Guest harlequinkid

It's hard for me to talk to people in general (offline more so than online), & I have a lot of trouble talking to bigs in general. I have some major social anxiety issues that seem to make talking to others (littles, bigs, & others) really difficult for me most of the time. I'm trying to post more on the forum & talk to others in the chat room, both to help lessen my anxiety & hopefully make some friends here. (I also want to be supportive of others.) In general, though, it's really difficult for me to reach out to others; I'm glad that some people on the forum have reached out to me. :)

 

I don't have a daddy or mommy yet, but if I did, I'm worried that I'd rely on them a lot for social interaction (which is something I don't really want; I'd rather be as independent as I can be). 

 

I feel like I'm rambling, but I just wanted to say that, like others who've posted here, I consider myself antisocial. It's something I struggle with, but am working to change.

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i wish i had more little friends but it's hard for me to make any due to my social anxiety plus i moved here a few years ago from my small hometown and it's been difficult trying to make new friends in a big city. irl i only know one other little but she never seems to want to get into little space with me because she said it makes her feel awkward and embarrassed.

 

i'm usually a loner during most of the week and i cling to my daddy on the weekends. 

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Guest sexbreath
I think the element of ‘peer pressure' sort of plays into this. I find talking in general difficult. But I do find it is easier with ny Daddy. I have heard repeatedly from my little friends that they are much more shy when communicating with other littles at first. I think it could be the equivalent to starting school for the first time, not knowing if you'll fit in with the rest of your class... its sort of the same mentality, I think.
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I have definitely been socially awkward my entire life. Always struggling to fit in. I kind of stopped trying for a while, and now I regret it. I don't know how to start conversations or keep them going unless it's my Daddy. I always feel like I have nothing in common with anyone else and I get more and more frustrated the more I try... Even writing on here I feel like I'm going to be judged. It's an ongoing struggle. I'm hoping I'll get the hang of it one day.
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I am extremely anti-social. I have a corporate job that requires a LOT of face to face interaction and meeting new people, and I can somehow put on my "work face" and make it through that, but at the end of the day I'm tapped out. I can spend whole weekends not speaking to any one and be perfectly happy. I hate that I am like that, but outside of a professional setting, I'm shy and unsure of myself and just very awkward. I try but aside from a close group of friends i grew up with and of course Daddy, I distance myself from everyone else. :/ i don't know any other littles, and the thought of putting myself out there to meet some is stressful.
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I've initiated a few conversations with daddy about this very subject. I've been very clear about my feelings when it comes to me interacting with other littles or daddies irl. I only want to play with daddy. I don't feel comfortable having other little playmates or little friends irl because my closeness with daddy allows me to feel safe and secure only playing with or around him. Or even by myself. Daddy supports my decision to keep our lifestyle mostly between the two of us, save for anyone who has already been told or has an inkling based on our habits/interactions/etc.

 

While I decided with daddy not to seek other littles irl, my decision to engage with the online community was fully supported. I feel safe posting on here and listening to the other voices in our community, and I love reading everyone else's thoughts and experiences. It makes me feel much less isolated and it also strengthens the relationship I have with my daddy ^~^

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