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So even tho I want one, I don't has a daddy but I still want little friends... but it's hard to be friends with littles who have daddies sometimes because it makes me feel bad/lonely... idk if anyone else is having this problem... but... maybe we can have a space here if you is having same problem?

 

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I have spoken to a lot of people in here who feel very strongly about whether this topic space should exist or not....

 

I want all lonely or excluded feeling littles, CG or not, to have a place where they can come and make friends. I do, however, want the focus to be littles that don't have daddies and/or other regular support systems to address the feelings and difficulties that come with being little in a big world. 

 

I ask that if you come in here and feel excluded because you currently have a daddy, that you don't say that it is unfair for this space to exist. I have not, and won't ever, tell you that you are not welcomed in this space.

 

I will request that any conversations in this topic be focused on your struggles or joys of being a little separate of having a CG. If you are having problems related specifically to your relationship that can be addressed elsewhere, it would be appreciated if you create your own topic. However, if you feel more comfortable addressing it among friends in here, ask, and we will likely not turn you away. 

 

This topic is about support, not about exclusion.

 

Remember that everyone on this forum deserves a place of their own where they can come and feel safe.

 

Please do not come in and tell the people on this forum that they should not have this topic because you want friends too. You can still have friends. None of us are saying that you cannot. But this space is specifically for littles who want friends in a similar, CGless situation. 

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As a little with a Daddy... this is almost a bit upsetting. I don't understand why having a Daddy disqualifies me from being a little friend. 

 

I understand that sometimes people go on and on about their partners - even as a person with a Daddy, I don't like those types. But not all of us littles should be shunned because we are in a relationship...

 

But then again, I'm not single anymore, even though I searched for a Daddy for 6 years with no luck.... so maybe I no longer understand........

 

And what happens if you all do get a CG... does that mean you are no longer allowed to have these friends?

 

Why does it have to strictly be "littles without Daddies" why can't it be "littles who feel lonely" or "littles wanting only little friends"? Why must there be this divide between singles and couples? I've been feeling it more and more over the past few months and its quite bothersome. I'm no different now (in a relationship) than I was single. I want to make little friends just as much now as I did then, and leave my Daddy out of it...

 

I'm just saying... I understand being single sucks and is hard... but you are stopping a lot of wonderful people from approaching you by disqualifying them because they are in a relationship.

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As a little with a Daddy... this is almost a bit upsetting. I don't understand why having a Daddy disqualifies me from being a little friend. 

 

I understand that sometimes people go on and on about their partners - even as a person with a Daddy, I don't like those types. But not all of us littles should be shunned because we are in a relationship...

 

But then again, I'm not single anymore, even though I searched for a Daddy for 6 years with no luck.... so maybe I no longer understand........

 

And what happens if you all do get a CG... does that mean you are no longer allowed to have these friends?

 

Why does it have to strictly be "littles without Daddies" why can't it be "littles who feel lonely" or "littles wanting only little friends"? Why must there be this divide between singles and couples? I've been feeling it more and more over the past few months and its quite bothersome. I'm no different now (in a relationship) than I was single. I want to make little friends just as much now as I did then, and leave my Daddy out of it...

 

I'm just saying... I understand being single sucks and is hard... but you are stopping a lot of wonderful people from approaching you by disqualifying them because they are in a relationship.

 

I do not necessarily see it as a way to exclude littles with CG. It is simply that those who are single, more or less are going through the same things by not having a CG, and having to take care of ourselves. It's good to know you're not the only one going through it and sometimes as little you feel lost and alone without CG.

 

Because at the end of the day, you have your daddy, and we do not. And for some that makes them feel bad and much more alone.

 

Maybe not all littles have trouble being friends with littles with CG, but you can not expect everyone to have it. For some, having a friend with CG is just a reminder that you do not have it and only makes it more painful. So, all the littles react differently to different situations and we look for company with whom we feel more comfortable. I do not think that's a bad thing.

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I see you are in an open relationship. I take it the person you are with can not fill the daddy role for you? Is this side of you something you may hide from them? Speaking from my own personal experience I will let you know that you have a uphill search for you. Trying to find a daddy that is going to be ok with the fact you are already spoken for. Not saying he is not out here, but I k ow I am very protective and claim my little as my own and do not share. Just food for thought.
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As a little with a Daddy... this is almost a bit upsetting. I don't understand why having a Daddy disqualifies me from being a little friend.

 

I understand that sometimes people go on and on about their partners - even as a person with a Daddy, I don't like those types. But not all of us littles should be shunned because we are in a relationship...

 

But then again, I'm not single anymore, even though I searched for a Daddy for 6 years with no luck.... so maybe I no longer understand........

 

And what happens if you all do get a CG... does that mean you are no longer allowed to have these friends?

 

Why does it have to strictly be "littles without Daddies" why can't it be "littles who feel lonely" or "littles wanting only little friends"? Why must there be this divide between singles and couples? I've been feeling it more and more over the past few months and its quite bothersome. I'm no different now (in a relationship) than I was single. I want to make little friends just as much now as I did then, and leave my Daddy out of it...

 

I'm just saying... I understand being single sucks and is hard... but you are stopping a lot of wonderful people from approaching you by disqualifying them because they are in a relationship.

I do not necessarily see it as a way to exclude littles with CG. It is simply that those who are single, more or less are going through the same things by not having a CG, and having to take care of ourselves. It's good to know you're not the only one going through it and sometimes as little you feel lost and alone without CG.

 

Because at the end of the day, you have your daddy, and we do not. And for some that makes them feel bad and much more alone.

 

Maybe not all littles have trouble being friends with littles with CG, but you can not expect everyone to have it. For some, having a friend with CG is just a reminder that you do not have it and only makes it more painful. So, all the littles react differently to different situations and we look for company with whom we feel more comfortable. I do not think that's a bad thing.

And it's not like we don't wanna have new friends who have CGs, but like monoceros says, we have a very different experience that we are sharing right now. It doesn't mean that we have to stop being friends if one of us gets a new daddy, but instead it's a safe space for those of us in the moment.

 

I'm sorry that this caused any upset.. And Bree, I wouldn't want to not be friends w you, and if you wanna be friends I would like that..

 

I just wanted a place where littles without daddies could come where they wouldn't have to think about not having a daddy and have people referencing their daddies all the time... which I understand isn't what everyone does, but there isn't any space that's just for daddyless littles and I was feeling really sad..

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I see you are in an open relationship. I take it the person you are with can not fill the daddy role for you? Is this side of you something you may hide from them? Speaking from my own personal experience I will let you know that you have a uphill search for you. Trying to find a daddy that is going to be ok with the fact you are already spoken for. Not saying he is not out here, but I k ow I am very protective and claim my little as my own and do not share. Just food for thought.

Oh. This is kinda out of context of what I wanted the group to be...

 

I'm in a poly relationship, and no, my partner doesn't fill that role. It isn't something that they are interested in, despite trying to he patient with me.. but like that isn't the point of this group.. it isn't about us trying to find daddies.. just trying to find friends...

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OK sorry for the confusion. I did not want to imply that this was going to be a hook up group. If I did I apologize for that! I was asking those things to Fet a better idea of what it was your situation was. Nothing more and nothing less.
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I still do not understand, what is the big problem that singles littles want to contact among us to share fears, insecurities and experiences like littles without CG
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I still do not understand, what is the big problem that singles littles want to contact among us to share fears, insecurities and experiences like littles without CG

Right? Like a spot for us to just.. have for ourselves. So much of this site is spaces for littles who have CGs, so it's a bit disheartening at times. Honestly I feel even worse that there is backlash and hurt feelings over us wanting a place just for us.

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As a little with a Daddy... this is almost a bit upsetting. I don't understand why having a Daddy disqualifies me from being a little friend. 

 

I understand that sometimes people go on and on about their partners - even as a person with a Daddy, I don't like those types. But not all of us littles should be shunned because we are in a relationship...

 

But then again, I'm not single anymore, even though I searched for a Daddy for 6 years with no luck.... so maybe I no longer understand........

 

And what happens if you all do get a CG... does that mean you are no longer allowed to have these friends?

 

Why does it have to strictly be "littles without Daddies" why can't it be "littles who feel lonely" or "littles wanting only little friends"? Why must there be this divide between singles and couples? I've been feeling it more and more over the past few months and its quite bothersome. I'm no different now (in a relationship) than I was single. I want to make little friends just as much now as I did then, and leave my Daddy out of it...

 

I'm just saying... I understand being single sucks and is hard... but you are stopping a lot of wonderful people from approaching you by disqualifying them because they are in a relationship.

I agree with bree, I have a daddy but I also have little friends that don't have daddies but I am not one to brag about my daddy to my little friends that are cgless. I have wanted to make a group on kik for a little playhouse where it is a safe place for littles to come and enjoy being a little. I understand that being without a cg can be lonely, as I was without one for a few years. Honestly it is best to take you time and find someone worth while. However until then, I don't want any little to feel as if they are alone. You can friend request me, and message me for more information on the little playhouse kik group. 

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I agree with bree, I have a daddy but I also have little friends that don't have daddies but I am not one to brag about my daddy to my little friends that are cgless. I have wanted to make a group on kik for a little playhouse where it is a safe place for littles to come and enjoy being a little. I understand that being without a cg can be lonely, as I was without one for a few years. Honestly it is best to take you time and find someone worth while. However until then, I don't want any little to feel as if they are alone. You can friend request me, and message me for more information on the little playhouse kik group. 

Again tho, it isn't about not being friends with littles who have daddies, it's about a safe space for cgless littles who can commiserate over not having a cg and all that entails. I get that y'all feel excluded from this group, but really it isn't about that... It's about all of us without cgs feeling excluded from the general population because it feels like we can't quite fit within the stream of all those of you that have cgs.

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I can honestly say, even when I didnt have a Daddy, I wouldnt like this idea. My own opinion - which isn't popular, I see. But.. dont ever forget, we too know the hardships... we can provide sympathy... an ear when someone needs to complain about how hard life is without a Daddy...

 

I know you want a place of your own, and I definitely respect that. I guess I'm just tired of seeing so many different negative views to couples. Its a growing trend on this forum - I've literally been shamed because I have a Daddy because I "don't know what true loneliness is" And I guess all I have to say to it is - when we divide the community over things like this... we split the very place we call home.

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