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My Daddy and i haven't had any playtime in a while and it's because he plays video games all day. i've told him that i want to spend time with Him but He tells me He spends AAAALLL day with me. "spending all day with me" means him sitting by me when He's on His phone. we haven't done anything sexual in like two weeks and i'm starting to feel really bummed out. every time i ask Him to hurry and finish his video game He gets annoyed with me and it hurts my feelings. idk what to do. someone pls help!
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Im sorry youre feeling ignored! I hatteee that feeling. Have you tried saying you feel ignored directly? or maybe making "dates" out at places that make you feel little (for me places like the zoo or movies seeing something cute)? If those things dont help the feeling i usually just sit down and talk to them saying i feel ignored and ask them if theres anything going on in their heads they need to talk about/that ive done. It could just be he is stressed over something and isnt saying so but cant get in his own headspace to be a daddy at the moment. 

 

Always remember that your own happiness is really important and that if its not making you happy dont be afraid to say youre done.

My last resort is to give an ultimatum saying that i need more of your direct attention or im out. but also try to work things out as this is the last resort for me (except in cases of physical/emotional/mental manipulation and violence.)

 

I hope that things turn out okay! and that the advice ive given is a little helpful.

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I'm really sorry it's been like that! I think rather than saying he should hurry, as that can sound like you're patronising him and his time spent with his games, you could perhaps talk to him about it calmly, preferably when he isn't playing. Spending time together is important and whilst there's appropriate times for you two to be doing your own things whilst together, there's also time for actually paying attention to eachother! 

 

If he's your daddy, he should know that it's important and if you haven't been sexual in a long time, perhaps he's feeling down, there's something wrong or is he really so engrossed in a game that he can ignore you for that long? Best solution is to talk about it when you're not feeling little, annoyed or terribly upset as he might take it the wrong way or it may not be the mature? conversation you need to work out what's happening with him! 

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Im sorry youre feeling ignored! I hatteee that feeling. Have you tried saying you feel ignored directly? or maybe making "dates" out at places that make you feel little (for me places like the zoo or movies seeing something cute)? If those things dont help the feeling i usually just sit down and talk to them saying i feel ignored and ask them if theres anything going on in their heads they need to talk about/that ive done. It could just be he is stressed over something and isnt saying so but cant get in his own headspace to be a daddy at the moment.

 

Always remember that your own happiness is really important and that if its not making you happy dont be afraid to say youre done.

My last resort is to give an ultimatum saying that i need more of your direct attention or im out. but also try to work things out as this is the last resort for me (except in cases of physical/emotional/mental manipulation and violence.)

 

I hope that things turn out okay! and that the advice ive given is a little helpful.

 

 

i haven't told him directly that i'm feel like he's ignoring me. i don't want him to think i'm being dramatic or anything like that. i ask him if we can go for walks with our puppy because i don't like going alone and he always says "we can go later i'm tired." and we never end up going. he doesn't seem stressed or anything. he tells me everything and he seems pretty happy. he's just so preoccupied with his game that i feel like he forgets about me. idk i can't just leave either because we're married. i've never been too good with communicating because i usually just end up crying or i don't know how to explain what i want without sounding needed or demanding.

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video games can be quite addicting! personally i wouldn't recommend an ultimatium or something drastic... but why not play the game with him?

I would love to play with him but can't play with him bc he plays on his PC lol I wouldn't want to give him an ultimatum i think that's unnecessary. OH AND he gets upset with me when i tell him i'm bored and that me being bored is my own problem and being bored is a "made-up,childish" thing to say. like???? i think that's a little rude and it hurt my feelings pretty bad. I moved away from my family to be with him and he can't even spend a little time with me?? uuugghhh now i'm just ranting

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video games can be quite addicting! personally i wouldn't recommend an ultimatium or something drastic... but why not play the game with him?

I would love to play with him but can't play with him bc he plays on his PC lol I wouldn't want to give him an ultimatum i think that's unnecessary. OH AND he gets upset with me when i tell him i'm bored and that me being bored is my own problem and being bored is a "made-up,childish" thing to say. like???? i think that's a little rude and it hurt my feelings pretty bad. I moved away from my family to be with him and he can't even spend a little time with me?? uuugghhh now i'm just ranting

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It might be he can not play with you too much because he is not always alone, i hate to say this but you need to find someone who has the same availability you have or if they don't they let you know why and keep agreements to play dates.

 

message me if you want to chat

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i haven't told him directly that i'm feel like he's ignoring me. i don't want him to think i'm being dramatic or anything like that. i ask him if we can go for walks with our puppy because i don't like going alone and he always says "we can go later i'm tired." and we never end up going. he doesn't seem stressed or anything. he tells me everything and he seems pretty happy. he's just so preoccupied with his game that i feel like he forgets about me. idk i can't just leave either because we're married. i've never been too good with communicating because i usually just end up crying or i don't know how to explain what i want without sounding needed or demanding.

 

Maybe take time to write down exactly how youre feeling and then give him a letter so its not so overwhelming?

It vaguely sounds like he is going through some depression and may need you to just love him for now. Maybe a vacation or a "staycation" would help aswell if that is something feasible in your life. Nothing too fancy just a couple nights somewhere nice without having to worry about life at home can sometimes help.

feel free to add and message me if youd like to chat more.

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