How do I tell him(come out about ddlg)?

[Guest LittleGhosty]

How do I tell my significant other(who is my fiancé) about me being a little? I feel like he already subconsciously knows by some of my interests and behavior’s, but I’m not sure how to actually tell him. I’m scared. Help!

[Guest McLeodLot65]

What else does he know about? ie, have you talked about any other kind of d/s relationship?

[Guest LittleGhosty]

^^^^^^^ He has interest in BDSM. He enjoys receiving/giving pain. I’m just afraid he will judge me or think less of me.

[Barbie Lumina]

Rip off the band aid. Ask him if he's heard of DDLG, what he thinks of it, do research/sit on the forums together and discuss. 

[cuppycakes]

I remember when I told my daddy about ddlg. I was really scared and it actually took me 20 minutes to even get started (he's very patient with me). We just sat there together for a long time in silence while I worked up the courage to say something. I asked him if he'd heard of ddlg, and he said "kind of but not really" which was to be expected. I told him what it was by giving him examples from my own preferences as well as what other people felt like it was to them (the forum is great for this because I learned so much about ddlg through here).

 

If he plans on staying with you forever, I don't think this would be a big deal to him. If you're super worried, maybe even start out with something simple. I sleep with stuffed animals every night and had discussed my wanting a pacifier, too. You can bring it up casually, or you can even write a note to him that expresses everything you don't want to say out loud!

Good luck! And I'm sure it'll go better than you think ♥