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Oh wow i feel for you. Okay hmmm i hope some one will go further into detail on how to help you, but sometimes you can't help those who don't help themselves...

And this might be hard to hear but I'm interpreting her sentences to you as... She did something to feel guilty about...

I think that if you truly are this amazing person maybe you do deserve better

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Having been in her position, she needs to fix things and find the right person for her. During the time I was recovering from my relationship, I had "relationships" like this that I didn't really want. But the right person takes all that away. You just might not be the right person for her.

 

She, like I did, probably just wants some space.

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Guest Olderdaddyca
Well said Care Bear! Sometimes is best to walk away. There is an old saying "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were."
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I guess you could check up on her. Tell her you want to respect her wishes but you're just very worried about her right now. Maybe you could support her as a friend instead of the type of relationship that you had before? It's a difficult situation and unless you know someone who is close to her and knows more about it there's no possibility to accurately predict how that's going to go over.

 

Only a person close to her could even hope to offer you anything close to the information you'd need to handle this.

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I really think you should, and for your own health, walk away. If she has already gone days without you and without making effort herself talking to you, talking things through, and give you at least a better explanation what's going on with her, then she has already fallen out of love with you. One-sided relationships will never work out, no matter how much effort or time you try pouring into this. Take also into consideration, that she may very well already have found someone else. She may have just been "kind" to you, in cases like these when they can't seem to find a proper reason to break up, they tend to say things like these as well.

 

There may very well be enough different reasons, but that doesn't seem to change that if you aren't the person she can confide in anymore, that just means, and even though it may be painful to hear, you just aren't the person meant for her.

 

I'm sorry and best wishes to you!

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i agree with the other people here but wanna point out something, you said you were "passive", which can be a nice trait to have with someone, but also can be bad in that you can't tell the person you love what you find bad about them, which doesn't improve them since there were no critisism being passed by.

 

this is onlt theoretical, but i know that people who feel like shit because of a problem, do like distractions and good feels and vibes, BUT, only pemporarely, since because the person is bottelin up their problems and seeking the happy distraction, then that bottled up problem can explode in their face and hurt them from the inside, so their struggle won't show on the outside and be clear.

 

you wanted to know what exactly the thing your not giving her, and i say she might have wanted a critical point of view to help her fix her problem.

(of course, this is onlt theoretical since im only basing my words off of your short post and not an in-depth experience).

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Guest TotalitarianPrincess

Look, my dear.

I get that you love this person. I've been in the same boat as you. This happened with an ex of mine doing the same thing to me. So I'm gonna say to you what a loved one said to me.

This love is causing you pain. And it's not healthy. I get that you want to fix things. But maybe the person you love doesn't want to fix things. This love is making you sick with worry. And love should never do that to you. Love stands by you when things are hard and put to the test. And if it's real, true love, it lasts through the ups and downs. But if it doesn't, then this person is not the right one as they are. Let me say it again, as they are. Maybe one day, things will line up. But for now, it's best to let go of this pain and take time to recover and heal

It'll be okay, friend.

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