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My daddy who I have talked to for over a month hurt me. I thought we were in a relationship, but it turns out he was role playing sexual things with other people. He said he thought it didn't matter. I'm really upset and feel like another person used me. Seems like he doesn't like me. We were suppose to meet in two week. Should I stay? He hasn't messaged me all day.
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Oh sweetheart I'm so sorry to hear that! There's nothing worse then when one side is unclear with what they want and the other puts their whole heart into it.

He sounds scummy my dear for not being clear about it in the first place or not thinking it mattered.

Move on little one. No space for those kinds of people in our worlds <3

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Guest JayRingo77

Learn what you can about yourself from this and move on.  His behavior, as described, doesn't show any interest or regard for how his actions have impacted you or may have led to the misunderstanding (giving some benefit of the doubt this wasn't malicious).

 

So I understand the context, since others seem to have a fixed idea, what do you characterize or mean by role-playing sexual things?

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Guest Slammymax

I do not profess to be any sort of expert, but I can confess to being on the other side of this type of conflict and I have accidentally hurt someone due to my own ignorance of their true feelings, so my two cents may be worth something. AliciaCrunk is right, clarity is the key, however I would urge you not to mistake ignorance for malice. If this gentleman is unconcerned with how he has hurt you, however inadvertently, then he is not worthy of a further thought from you. However, if you are clear to him how you feel, and he shows appropriate repentance, then your relationship still may have a future. Obviously, if he continues to ignore your entirely justified feelings concerning how he treated you, then I think we would all here agree that you are better off without him. And though it is never an easy task to break off a relationship, even if you know it is for the best, I'm sure you will find comfort and support in the fair members of this community.

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Guest pacibrat
If he wasn't looking to be with just one little, that should've been discussed in the beginning. If he didn't tell you and you were expecting him to focus completely on you, that isn't fair of him to do that to you. It sounds like you two are not compatible and I definitely think he would do it again in the future. It has only been one month. I would just let it go and focus on finding someone else who wants the same thing that you do.
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My daddy who I have talked to for over a month hurt me. I thought we were in a relationship, but it turns out he was role playing sexual things with other people. He said he thought it didn't matter.

 

It sounds like you both had different ideas about the nature of your relationship.  If he was just looking for online fun with whoever, maybe in his mind that's all it was, in which case to him, he did nothing wrong.  To you, he obviously did.

 

To me, a month is not very long to get to know someone that you've never met.

If you're not happy with the situation, and you're likely looking for different things, it makes sense to end it.

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Wait wait

 

Are we talking Role Plays where there's story, characters, you work your ass off and everything is beautiful or just straight up sexting cause there is a HUGE difference. 

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Its clear now that the two of you are interested in something completely different.

 

He may have not thought he was doing anything wrong. But had not discussed what he was looking for clearly. And his response indicates that he isn't upset about hurting you.

 

A month is a very short time. Think about your interactions with this person. Did things become very sexual shortly after you started talking? Had you flat out explained to him you want serious monogamy? Were there indications that he just wanted some fun roleplay? For example pet names right away, no commitment or interest beyond your little spaces and sexuality?

 

Sometimes these thing happen due to poor communication on both ends. And sometimes people are just jerks. Who knows.

 

Some things to keep in mind when looking for a partner are time(it can take a while), communication(not just about being CG/l and in your roles), common goals for the relationship (what you are BOTH looking for over all), and how much each of these things adds up ( participants should be equal, not one person putting effort).

 

I would say the two of you want different things. He's not the one for you, and your not the right one for him. Move on, don't let your feelings keep getting hurt by this guy. If you continue your showing him that you don't value yourself.

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