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The smart phone revolution some eight years ago brought us a platform that brought communication into the hands of the people. Suddenly we have at our fingertips a device capable of having face-to-face communications. 

So I have seen people face-time throughout the day, just to talk to one another. I have seen my coworker face-time his girlfriend throughout the day. 

 

This is new to me. I never did this with my other relationships, and with my new little, and I got to say, I like it. Its intimate when we can't be near one another. We did it last night and I was cheesing the whole time.

 

So what is your favorite modern advancement in relationships?

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Is there even anything else that comes close? We had the ability to call people for a while now, so we could hear their voice for a while (if the phone bill allowed it). Then we could at least talk through them indefinitely in text. Around 15 years ago, through Teamspeak/Ventrilo/Skype/Mumble and now Discord, we could talk through people as much as we wanted indefinitely. And now, since 8-9 years ago we have the mobile bandwidth to actually see each other and upload pictures all the time. The more senses the better, and limitless video clearly allows for the most.

 

A close second is the ever increasing mobility for people. Especially in Europe. Until ~25 years ago it wasn't really possible to just travel all over the continent, and we didn't have many options for international travel. Internet also allows us to meet people from all over. Then again, for all the mobility we have, it's still much better to have the person you like be right there with you within the hour ♥

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Is there even anything else that comes close? We had the ability to call people for a while now, so we could hear their voice for a while (if the phone bill allowed it). Then we could at least talk through them indefinitely in text. Around 15 years ago, through Teamspeak/Ventrilo/Skype/Mumble and now Discord, we could talk through people as much as we wanted indefinitely. And now, since 8-9 years ago we have the mobile bandwidth to actually see each other and upload pictures all the time. The more senses the better, and limitless video clearly allows for the most.

 

A close second is the ever increasing mobility for people. Especially in Europe. Until ~25 years ago it wasn't really possible to just travel all over the continent, and we didn't have many options for international travel. Internet also allows us to meet people from all over. Then again, for all the mobility we have, it's still much better to have the person you like be right there with you within the hour ♥

 

While I live only 30ish minutes away from my little (happy coincidence) I gotta add Amazon\online shopping to to the list of modern conveniences. There is something about being able to order a pacifier, or some cute clothes, or a book without having to go out and find it in the world. Don't get me wrong, shopping with a little is still one of the best activities you can participate, especially when you torture her with the words "You can only have one".

 

 

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You are always a cheese ball :p

You were a cheese ball tonight tooo

You cheesy cheese ball .-. <3

Not going to deny it. I was cheesin; the whole time. That's only because you're so frickin cute. But you were cheesin' too. 

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I'm part of the generation that's seen the world before/after interwebs so watching things progress from email, to chat rooms, to typing with a grainy 2x2" video feed...and so on.  The variety of platforms to video call has to be the biggest leap forward that has me wondering 'what's next?'

 

Text is also a huge crutch for me.  That instant connection without having to fully interrupt what I'm doing to have a conversation.

 

At the same time, does anyone find themselves growing more anxious when there's a void of communication?  Silence doesn't bother me, even face to face, but I've seen people start having full blown panic attacks if a text goes unanswered more than five minutes.  Last night my Little dozed off (rough day at work, poor thing) just before our tuck in routine so the whole conversation went silent all the sudden.  Wasn't a big worry to me; I tucked her in regardless, wished her goodnight and went to bed without a problem.  Others I've seen on this forum would have a minor melt down (or so it seems).  Where do you fall in this spectrum?

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Its honestly hard to pick a specific thing. I think that as society advances so does our connection with technology. It truly is a miraculous thing considering 80 years ago we'd have to run to a pay phone or local business to place a call "on the go". But at the same time so does our connection and dependence on those we keep in contact with it. Like in the case you mentioned, some people are EXTREMELY dependent on constant contact with their little or sub, regardless of the dynamic. While I can understand the reasoning, I can't understand the execution. 

 

I'm part of the generation that's seen the world before/after interwebs so watching things progress from email, to chat rooms, to typing with a grainy 2x2" video feed...and so on.  The variety of platforms to video call has to be the biggest leap forward that has me wondering 'what's next?'

 

Text is also a huge crutch for me.  That instant connection without having to fully interrupt what I'm doing to have a conversation.

 

At the same time, does anyone find themselves growing more anxious when there's a void of communication?  Silence doesn't bother me, even face to face, but I've seen people start having full blown panic attacks if a text goes unanswered more than five minutes.  Last night my Little dozed off (rough day at work, poor thing) just before our tuck in routine so the whole conversation went silent all the sudden.  Wasn't a big worry to me; I tucked her in regardless, wished her goodnight and went to bed without a problem.  Others I've seen on this forum would have a minor melt down (or so it seems).  Where do you fall in this spectrum?

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Excellent question!

 

The smart phone revolution some eight years ago brought us a platform that brought communication into the hands of the people. Suddenly we have at our fingertips a device capable of having face-to-face communications. 

So I have seen people face-time throughout the day, just to talk to one another. I have seen my coworker face-time his girlfriend throughout the day. 

 

This is new to me. I never did this with my other relationships, and with my new little, and I got to say, I like it. Its intimate when we can't be near one another. We did it last night and I was cheesing the whole time.

 

So what is your favorite modern advancement in relationships?

 

For kinky relationships, chat apps outweigh voice, while video has a niche for certain things. During the work day, or when vanilla friends it's awesome to be able to pop open an app and engage in some playful banter or teasing. Being able easily share pics, either by cell cam or link is great too; I'll come across something kinky and be able to zip it over to a playmate easily. 

 

With voice you can run into people overhearing you, and you've usually got to focus on just the phone call.

 

Same with video, plus you've got to keep the camera on you. It is good when you're alone and want to have some play time and can't be together.

 

On my kinkier BDSM side, I'd like to experiment with a slave-cam or pet-cam using home surveillance cameras. 

 

Its honestly hard to pick a specific thing. I think that as society advances so does our connection with technology. It truly is a miraculous thing considering 80 years ago we'd have to run to a pay phone or local business to place a call "on the go". But at the same time so does our connection and dependence on those we keep in contact with it. Like in the case you mentioned, some people are EXTREMELY dependent on constant contact with their little or sub, regardless of the dynamic. While I can understand the reasoning, I can't understand the execution. 

 

Pay phone? What's a pay phone?  ;)

 

In all seriousness, when was the last time you saw a payphone? Made a call or saw someone making one? 

 

Raise your hand if you've never used a payphone.

 

While I live only 30ish minutes away from my little (happy coincidence) I gotta add Amazon\online shopping to to the list of modern conveniences. There is something about being able to order a pacifier, or some cute clothes, or a book without having to go out and find it in the world. Don't get me wrong, shopping with a little is still one of the best activities you can participate, especially when you torture her with the words "You can only have one".

 

 

The Internet has been a huge enabler of the kink world. If you wanted to find a partner before the internet you had to go to an adult bookstore, buy a spanking magazine and register for one of the big annual parties like Crimson Moon, or hope there was a local dungeon around. A bit of a downside to this is that it's killed off a lot of local fetish shops.

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At the same time, does anyone find themselves growing more anxious when there's a void of communication?  Silence doesn't bother me, even face to face, but I've seen people start having full blown panic attacks if a text goes unanswered more than five minutes.  Last night my Little dozed off (rough day at work, poor thing) just before our tuck in routine so the whole conversation went silent all the sudden.  Wasn't a big worry to me; I tucked her in regardless, wished her goodnight and went to bed without a problem.  Others I've seen on this forum would have a minor melt down (or so it seems).  Where do you fall in this spectrum?

 

I think this is now a biproduct of instant communication. We come to expect a reply, a back and forth, even if its just a <3 here for there. Its not a rational feeling when you panic that something happened. But anxiety is a thing, and you should talk about it, and work on it. In the interest of full disclosure, both my little and I have both had moments like this. Hers was more attributed to her headspace, mine was more I knew she was upset at something and wasn't talking and the void of communication made me anxious.

 

*shrugs* It happens to everyone at some point I think. 

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Its honestly hard to pick a specific thing. I think that as society advances so does our connection with technology. It truly is a miraculous thing considering 80 years ago we'd have to run to a pay phone or local business to place a call "on the go". But at the same time so does our connection and dependence on those we keep in contact with it. Like in the case you mentioned, some people are EXTREMELY dependent on constant contact with their little or sub, regardless of the dynamic. While I can understand the reasoning, I can't understand the execution. 

 

Its alot easier, as I mentioned, with the advent of modern smart phones. And the reality is that we all have little moments throughout our day where we are waiting for something, or doing something and we have a few moments to open up our phones and send something. It could be just as simple as <3. It changes the nature of communication to something that can be delayed, or something that can feel like an actual dialogue and something intimate. It feels good to know she is always thinking about me when we aren't together, and in return I'm always thinking of her. 

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The Internet has been a huge enabler of the kink world. If you wanted to find a partner before the internet you had to go to an adult bookstore, buy a spanking magazine and register for one of the big annual parties like Crimson Moon, or hope there was a local dungeon around. A bit of a downside to this is that it's killed off a lot of local fetish shops.

 

I agree. Its a lot easier to find people when you're all going to the same place. I don't think I would have ever found or went to a fetish shop to meet people. I'm aware that it happened in the days before the interwebs, but I am just not sure I could have ever gone to one. I know that they were vital to the early days of shared kinks. I have however met people off forums like this. So it has in my opinion, modernized meetups. 

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THIS IS GONNA BE ALL OVER THE PLACE
This is going to be technology in general.
I'm 18...So I don't remember not having the technology. I was not allowed a phone until I was 16. (My brother's girlfriend ended up giving me hers when I was 13). I remember using the older version of Kik. It was my first, maybe second texting app. The sad thing was they didn't have groups at the time so I only had family. Eventually, they started groups I thought it was the greatest thing ever. Then It turned to small circle videos. Then Normal full-screen video. I got a boyfriend when I was 15 by texting him. (he asked me out at school)

The negatives and positive.

 

Negatives - Catfishing, Wierd internet people, Stalkers, Peopling lying about their age, children can get lured into the worst scenario ever. Where they are scared for life or die. Theres also parents they cant monitor everything their children do. Yout partner could be cheating without you knowing, also they could already have little when they ask you to be their little.

 

 

Positives - Skyping, Texting, Long distance relationship, meet people from all over the world, give you a wider variety of guys to pick from, you get to see you daddy/little, my fav. is you can tease your partners and they can't do anything until they get home. ;)

Skype dates are also possible, and there's rab.bit, watch2gether, & gaze for movie night dates. Facetiming you could go shopping together. Amazon to send daddy cute pjs...

So :) That's my opinion


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THIS IS GONNA BE ALL OVER THE PLACE

This is going to be technology in general.

I'm 18...So I don't remember not having the technology. I was not allowed a phone until I was 16. (My brother's girlfriend ended up giving me hers when I was 13). I remember using the older version of Kik. It was my first, maybe second texting app. The sad thing was they didn't have groups at the time so I only had family. Eventually, they started groups I thought it was the greatest thing ever. Then It turned to small circle videos. Then Normal full-screen video. I got a boyfriend when I was 15 by texting him. (he asked me out at school)

 

The negatives and positive.

 

Negatives - Catfishing, Wierd internet people, Stalkers, Peopling lying about their age, children can get lured into the worst scenario ever. Where they are scared for life or die. Theres also parents they cant monitor everything their children do. Yout partner could be cheating without you knowing, also they could already have little when they ask you to be their little.

 

 

Positives - Skyping, Texting, Long distance relationship, meet people from all over the world, give you a wider variety of guys to pick from, you get to see you daddy/little, my fav. is you can tease your partners and they can't do anything until they get home. ;)

Skype dates are also possible, and there's rab.bit, watch2gether, & gaze for movie night dates. Facetiming you could go shopping together. Amazon to send daddy cute pjs...

So :) That's my opinion

 

 

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Howdy. Thank you for your response! You weren't all over the place, I followed you just fine. 

 

I grew up when dial up was a thing, and before the internet had ads. I remember playing Quake online with dial up using only a keyboard when I was in 6th grade. I lost alot of sleep on weekends because of that game. I sold ad-free netzero accounts to the neighborhood for 15 bucks to pay for my computer equipment. I kept up with the trends of technology. I didn't see broadband until I was already a man. 

 

That being said, My normal conversations with some of my lifelong friends are in streams of funny pictures, memes, gifs, and critical analysis of modern culture. My bff of 23 years and I text like school girls. This is because of AOL Instant Messenger. This is how we communicated when we weren't hanging out. I had one friend change her screen name 19 times in one month. I forgot which one she was, and so I accidentally stopped talking to her for six months. . 

 

When I was attempting to try online dating before the smartphone revolution Circa 2005, we also had issues with: "Catfishing, Wierd internet people, Stalkers, Peopling lying about their age, children can get lured into the worst scenario ever. Where they are scared for life or die. Theres also parents they cant monitor everything their children do. Yout partner could be cheating without you knowing, also they could already have little when they ask you to be their little." 

 

It really hasn't changed that much as far as I can tell with these respects. Also lots of ghosting.

 

But I gotta agree with your positives. At 33, I'm just "with it" enough to be able to keep up with my little girl. She is far superior at this than I am, but she also grew up in the age of Youtube and Facebook. 

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For me it’s any and all texting/forum/chat things. I have severe social anxiety and being able to communicate with anyone is a blessing. I still can’t flirt, tho XD
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Being able to look people up. I've avoided a few questionable people, and found out that some were already involved, thanks to Facebook or Twitter.
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Being able to look people up. I've avoided a few questionable people, and found out that some were already involved, thanks to Facebook or Twitter.

 

Weirdly, I never thought of that. But that's a good point. Stalking vs Vetting should be a new topic.

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