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yeh so I've deleted this post because I am no longer looking for advice on it. I have evaluated my relationship with her and there are a few different things we are looking for. although she admitted to being sexually attracted to me and might was to have a relationship I decided that long term it would effect our other friendships and it would be best to stay friends.

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Once romance enters the equation the odds of having the old friendships back are slim.  The short term gain of the relationship will be followed by the long term loss of friendship.  If you want to experiment with women, do it outside this relationship until you know for sure you like it and you would be willing to risk the friendship for it. 

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Once romance enters the equation the odds of having the old friendships back are slim.  The short term gain of the relationship will be followed by the long term loss of friendship.  If you want to experiment with women, do it outside this relationship until you know for sure you like it and you would be willing to risk the friendship for it. 

I know I like women, I've been with them before.

You are right, it would loose a friendship 

 

edited: Yeh I've decided to keep our friendship as is and we are both happy with that.

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When the relationship ends, the friendship will end 99% of the time.  If I were you, I wouldn't do it.  I had a friend who approached me in that way and I wasn't interested.  I just felt awkward with him after that.

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You're right I mean statistically if we break up I won't get to see her again. We have always been very honest and open, talking through our issues and getting over them which is I guess why I thought it might work.

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So... Everyone so far has told you not to go for it yet you keep having an excuse for why it would work... So just say something to her.

 

Clearly you believe this is a good idea, you feel like she would be open to it, you have multiple arguments for why its good against all advice why its a bad idea.

 

I don't think you need any advice here. Just courage. Do what you clearly think is best. Say something. See what she says. Deal with what happens next as it happens.

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Hey :)

 

I thought I might write about this as well because almost everyone tells you to not do it!

 

So, something about myself first: I'm 19 and bi as well. I actually got to know a girl through a friend of mine that moved to my city. We just wrote and stuff because she lived in another part of Germany. However, we started seeing each other and we got along soooo well! The friend that introduced us to one another ( now called Lina) was my best friend at that time, but the other girl ( I'll call her Jelly) and I became pretty close and eventually, I made a little joke on the telephone that we should both change our facebook status to " in an open relationship"....when Jelly changed hers after a while into " in a relationship" I asked her why and with whom and was about to cry and she then asked me to be her girlfriend for real!

 

Because we always wrote with each other and were so close, Lina got jealous because I didn't give her as much attention and literally "fired" me as her best friend and ignored me at school.

 

Jelly and me tho, we were so happy whenever we met and she was also so caring and dominant and always took care of my childish side. When we were outside in the garden with friends for example, she noticed that I freezed so she brought me a huge blanket and made me a hot chocolate and stuff <3

 

We both kinda became very obsessed with each other and very needy and it kinda....we needed time off....eventually, we broke up after 4years because of both of us getting too possessive. We both took a two weeks break of not seeing or writing with the other person.

 

Eventually tho, the break was a REALLY good thing to do! We both calmed down and it's almost been 2,5 years now, we're best friends as well and we became even closer because she is the person I trust the most in the world and the other way around. We have both seen the good sides, friend sides, love sides, and bad sides of us ( I helped her out of depression back then) so there's nothing to hide. There are things I don't even tell my parents, just her, and it's the other way around as well. Funnily enough, we're both into BDSM and she's a switch with a tendency to a mommy & dom and I'm a sub& little xD

 

With Lina: We...talk again and are on good termed again, but we rarely talk/write.

 

So...yeah, if you want to talk about it more or wanna known more, you can just add me or write a message, I'm happy to help ^^

 

Ofc, it's not always like this, it depends on the people and how one approaches it how things end up in the end but there are not only failed stories :) I found this tip with the "time off" after a breakup on the Internet and found it working quite well! It gives you the time to sort your feelings, calm down and look over the situation ^^ So, Yeah....just keep in mind that it doesn't need to end bad >w<

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