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After I get sexual gratification and. ..well, you know...I start to feel grossed out by my desire for a ddlg/lolita relationship. It takes a few days for me to get back to feeling okay about it again
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You're experiencing a form of "sub drop" which is that after getting off you are more likely to reflect on what you're doing as "negative" or "bad". This is normal for many in the BDSM community. What your partner should be doing is consoling and comforting you when you experience this drop so that you recover better.

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I can't find it right now but someone wrote a whole thing on here about dealing with that feeling. It's common to go through those feeling sometimes during and after, a big thing is to have things to make you feel comfortable. Even just eating and hydration are important in these moments. If your the little grab your teddies watch a favorite movie with your dom and let him/her know how your feeling. That way you can talk about it together, they might be feeling similar. This sub drop can happen at any time even a week after so be prepared to console yourself

 

If you wanna talk to any one feel free to message me, I've been dealing with that kind of feeling for a few months. It's all in how you live your life positively

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Like both people above stated sub drop is a normal thing in the community. Sub drop can be either emotional, physical or both. This is one of the reasons that aftercare is so important. If you want to read a little more on the emotional side of it I recommend the following article. http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/03/sub-drops-emotional-side It also has some links to help build an aftercare kit.

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You might be feeling drop, but it also might be shame. Lots of folks with unusual sexual desires go through kink-shame cycles where they embrace it and thoroughly enjoy it for a while, then (often after an orgasm), feel shame about their desires. Many folks even binge & purge on the various accoutrements associated with their kink for these very same reasons.

 

You might want to check out the other thread on shame to see if what folks have written there resonates with your feelings.

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