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From what it sounds like you're in an extremely abusive relationship. He's controlling you, and 15 months is enough time for an emotional abuser/manipulator to completely have someone in their grip. I'm pretty sure everyone who's gonna reply here is saying you need to leave him, you know you need to leave him, but you have hope that he's still the sweet caring Daddy he first was. I know you're not gonna take our advice, you need to find your own strength to leave, but it's best to do it as soon as possible and not look back. People might tell me this is an extreme response but i've been in a relationship exactly like yours, and it lasted two years, and many more to completely get over it and stop thinking about him.. and then I started volunteering at a help desk for women in abusive relationships. Abusive people know their targets are weak. He probably knew you were just out of a very damaging relationships and fully knew what he was doing, it was an act. He is not a sweet caring daddy, he's a manipulative emotionally abusing asshole who seeks out hurt girls to completely control them and make them dependent on them.

 

Now, how do you feel about this? do you want to leave? it makes me so sad hearing you think it's your fault. Are you really alone? did he make you cut off contact with all of your friends? how is your relationship with your family? I don't believe you're alone.. even if you don't have any friends left, try getting in touch with your (once?) close friends again. Tell them what is going on and why you stopped talking to them, if you did. I don't want to be super extreme and tell you you need to leave him right NOW, so I'd like to hear from you what you're feeling. Do you have hope still? Or are you just with him because you believe he's the only one that will ever love you?

 

Also you're not alone, you can always message me, i'll be happy to talk to you, and i'm sure other members are too.

Stay strong.

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I don't know the time line for these events, but if it was in a short span, I would say its fairly severe manipulation. He is using your feelings against you, to stop you from asking questions or trying to have an adult relationship. To me, he sounds like the type of fella that is great when something is new and shiny, but as soon as it tarnishes, he loses interest. I would say leave him, because he clearly does not have your best interests at heart anymore. 

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As Dan Savage says GTFO. Get the f*ck out. Leave immediately. He is toxic. I know it is hard. Starting over is hard but the sooner you leave him, the sooner you can heal. Sending aloha.
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