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binky_princess
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I don't understand why others must judge people so harshly.. my *NOW* ex-boyfriend used to be okay with and excited about this lifestyle but recently he just up and decided that "it was too much to deal with", saying things like "you really should grow up already it's unattractive" and "this just proves you're like crazy or something, I can't handle that"

 

It's comments and judgements like this that make me feel like I'll never find a guy who loves and cares for EVERY part of me... *sigh* I'm just so tired of guys deciding there's something wrong with me the minute I tell them about this aspect of my life....has anyone else experienced anything like this?? If so, how do you handle it? I'm kinda at a loss

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Guest Bunnyblossom

Well ppl change, but it's possible he wasn't as invested in it as you were/are.

And he may also be saying things like that out of spite due to now being exes.

Sometimes we say mean things after a breakup if the wounds still feel a bit fresh to one party or both.

 

I wouldn't say there's anything particularly wrong with you. :heart: You're just in a pickle atm.

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Guest Georgia-Daddy2
There's nothing wrong with anybody. It's just trying to find someone that accepts you for who you are that is extremely difficult. It takes time and persistents.
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I am sure all of us have been judged in one way or another. There is nothing wrong with you being you. Don't let him make you think that.

 

Also, your profile pic is adorable.

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Guest CaseySnow-
It's something that can be considered "Different", it's not a mainstream thing, so it's going to be harshly judged by others who aren't into it, there are also the people that bash it for being pedophelia and the such, so it can make people biased towards it without actually knowing what it is. It sounds like maybe your ex didn't know much about it and was excited and possibly saw false claims and judgement on the lifestyle and started to judge it differently. It's not just guys, many girls I have brought this lifestyle up to judged me and left me, it's just kinda how it will go with something that's considered different. Even within the people who accept or are active in this lifestyle, a lot of them are only in it because Littles and Daddys are usually much easier to trust or get to do stuff, so a good portion aren't even actually in it for the life style, which furthers a twisted and biased opinion others create of it. I wouldn't give up the search though, there's bound to be a CG you'll get along with and they will accept you, good luck ^^
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Guest Mister Grey

Being a Daddy is a lot of work, and most of the time you dont see that until you are actually in the thick of it.  

 

You see it on the surface and they guys are like “oh yeah, I’m going to be her Daddy” but then they actually have to do it and it is not at all what you expected or its a lot more involved then what it seemed.

 

that being said, as said before, he may have simply changed, or, and I am sorry if this sounds harsh, he is no longer interested in the lifestyle because he is no longer interested in you.  The way that he is acting now by what you said, tells me that he was never a true Daddy to begin with.

 

Lifestyle or not, its difficult to find a relationship.  Read through the forum, you will find all sorts of people who have been dumped, abused, neglected, cheated on, …I mean the list goes on and on. 

 

I am sure there is a wonderful and special person out there for you, but for the most part he probably will not just fall into your lap and you may have to go through a few more bad eggs before you find him.  Its pretty much the same for the rest of us…your not alone.

 

 

I would not concern myself with the words from this sad little ex.  He could have just been a man and walked away, instead he is hurling insults about a lifestyle he himself participated in.  He’s pretty pathetic if you ask me.

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Thank you for all of y'all's kind words, it really makes me feel a whole lot better! I know he said a lot out of spite, which still hurt, but knowing there are wonderful people, just like y'all, out and about makes me happy:)

 

so, thank y'all again and I hope everyone is having happy days!:)

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He there..

 

I feel for you , u encounterd probably a person who looked like that special one but seemed not to be. Also i think a problem that i seen here more often ,  is that people  decide , hey i am a Daddy/Mommy/CG or a little coz its interesting.. In my book you dont..

You are what you are its in you , its not a job, its you ,  its the same like if youre gay or straight or bi or trans , its not a button you flip.


So dont feel bad , the guy didnt diserve you.
you do look adorable and cute, specialy when you happy about it , so dont pay attention what others say in that department


Just always be yourself and be true to yourself

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Your words touched my heart. I have been very lucky to have chatted with a number of littles. One thing that most of them have in common is that they have this wonderful tender loving heart. To me it sounds like what hurt the most is that your EX used your words, thoughts and actions against you. He used all those things to hurt you. You will find someone who will love you for who you are. This person will not try and change you but to embrace you. This person will see the beautiful person that lives inside of you.

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Guest infinitecases

Hurting the person he loved once he's broken up with you is a way to put the past behind him and help him reassure himself that he 'left for good reasons'. Don't listen to him, he's just making excuses, he'll only hurt later on down the road if he's doing this instead of accepting that this was something that he once wanted.

 

No matter where I've been, there's always been someone (or seemingly lots of people) who had a problem with me whether it be my hobbies, or just me as a person, you'll eventually find someone who likes you for who you are, whether they're a friend or a new Daddy :) 

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Its a pretty specific kink..you can only try share with people you trust..or feel the same..i tried share and got called a peado...so i wont share again with people not into the scene
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*Sighs* :( 

 

People, all people including myself, have a certain degree of insecurity. When this insecurity is felt the thing we think we need most is other people like ourselves. So we push away people who are NOT like ourselves, and we tend to do it in ways which we instinctively feel will ensure that they STAY away.

 

Unfortunately, like most indiscretions, insecurity causes us to do the exact opposite of what we really need to do to deal with the negative feelings. Instead of needing others like ourselves we need to experience others NOT like ourselves and work through our insecure feelings to discover that we can indeed be secure in that situation.

 

Insecurity is fear-based, and fear is anti-social, and being anti-social is slow death from isolation. Fear is EVIL.  >:)​ 

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