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Hello everyone, i'm a newbie here and i mostly read the topics, but recently i've been thinking how do we know when we grow cold towards our daddies and the reason behind it... Is it emotional or mental, or physical ... 
Me and my daddy don't play much and when he initiate a play i feel grumpy and annoyed, instead of being happy that we're indulging in a scene ... :(  Am a growing cold towards him or i'm just confused and not confident enough in myself that he actually wants to do stuff with me? ... 

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Maybe its being bored/lacking a spark and not coldness or disdain for your daddy? If he isn't being a very active Daddy and that's what you want or expect than I can see someone growing tired or bored of a relationship. I have a partner but not a daddy and it can be hard when you feel in little space and have no one to help you along in it. :l Hope things get better for you lovely and have a great day!

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If he only comes to you for sex, then it is possible that he is taking you for granted and you may be starting to resent him for that. You should tell him how you feel. If he doesn't change after that, however, I'd take that as a red flag.
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You could be growing bored. You could be growing to resent him for something. He could be growing bored. He could be lacking interest. You could, you could, he could, he could...

 

To answer you question it could be physical, mental or a combination - to be blunt, we don't have enough information to give a better idea. What I would recommend doing is looking at your own relationship with an analytical eye. Are you feeling more frustrated lately in regards to your relationship (Sexual or non)? Has something happened to make you see your partner in a different light? Did you do something for him to see you in a different light? What kind of stress are you both under? Etc? Figure out what is going on in your day-to-day life and go from there. Once you figure out the stressor you should be able to follow it back to the reason as to why some things change.

 

IF there isn't a stressor, then you might just be growing bored (or he may, etc). Either way a good discussion with your partner, where you are both being open and honest and outside of the power dynamic, is what would truly help you figure out what is going on. At the end of the day the best thing to figure these things out is to always communicate with your partner, even if it is difficult. He may be feeling the same way (and not wanting to) and therefore you both can work towards a solution together. Involve your partner in trying to rectify this will help much more than any one of us can.

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I love the song lyric, "You love that lovvvvving Feeling, wowowowow that Loving feeeling, now it's gone, gone gone and I can't go on!"

 

You don't have to ask a forum if you have feelings for the person you're with. You just got to check your own heart.

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I hear you saying that you feel cold, not bored. Bored "can" be fixed, but cold might just mean it's time to move on..

Have you discussed this feeling with him?

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Thank you all for taking time to read and answer to my confusion I’ve decided to talk with him about it and not making fake illusions that he’s not interested, maybe this is our pace for the dynamic, after all every dd/lg dynamic is different, and maybe that’s wh my expectations were different.

Anyway, thank you once again. Have a lovely day

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