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this isnt a proper "Personals" thread, but I thought it made sense to post here. 

I'm a daddy from australia, using the site to find littles here, and the last 4 (out of 4) littles I have contacted, we seem to really get along for the initial conversation, then they disappear for a day or two, maybe send a message or not - then after a few days of this completely disappear and don't even open the messages anymore? Then I check their forum accounts to find they haven't been active at all since the day I found them or the day they posted their thread/whatever.

 

has any other doms experienced this? or is it just me? i get pretty boring and anxious when talking to new people but literally have been really good and interested with the littles I find, then they are just gone.

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Some people come to the forum, try it out and decide they don't like it. Doesn't make them fakes, IMO, it's just not for them. 

 

Plus, you could be the most interesting person in the world, and some people would still ghost you. 

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You are experiencing ghosting and has absolutely nothing to do with those women being fake. There are MANY reasons to cut communications and who knows why they did.

 

Everyone has to go through the phase of sifting through their unsuited counterparts and if seems as if you are now. Nothing we say will make you feel better, but as long as you keep putting the effort out there, then you will find your little. You get as much as you give.

 

As for fakes - yeah they are everywhere, but not nearly as much as most people would want to believe. Just try to remember to not jump into anything head first or too quickly. If you refrain from this, when the ghosting happens, it should be easier to move on to the next. You said they ghost you after a day or two, this is a good time to NOT get overly involved. Show interest but don't line yourself up to be executed. Remain present and honest but at the same time, realize it for what it is - an online meet and greet. You don't know this person, you don't even know if this person is who she is claiming to be. Save your heart a lot of grief and go at a reasonable pace with these exchanges.

 

Unfortunately you never know who will ghost you, so there is no way to avoid it. But your approach in gaining a relationship WILL have a direct impact on who you attract. I went years single because I knew the guys who were interested in weren't for me. I didn't just hop from person to person who showed interest. And even then I was still ghosted. It happens, sadly. But because I was careful, able to move at a logical pace and actually got to know people before investing in them, I wasn't hurt nearly as much as I could have been.

 

Just take your time and try not to rush anything. That would be my best piece of advice. I wish you the best of luck. :heart:

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Yeah, they're fakes...at least most (almost all) of them.  I've run into it as well, just on other sites.  They may delete their profile or they may just abandon it.  You may see another profile, with identical text but different details, at a somewhat later date.  Or, they reactivate the same profile but their details (age, location, description, et cetera) are all different.

 

I'm hoping this site is better than some of the others out there, and has a lower rate of fake profiles/ads.  *fingers crossed*

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I wouldn't call them fakes. A lot of people ghost others now a days.

 

There is no good reason! Maybe they were new and just did not like being little, maybe they did not like the site, maybe they are busy, and i mean it is possible they did not enjoy talking to you for some reason but i would not let it get you down. There are many littles on here and other sites. You will find the right one! I would not worry about the ones who left.

 

I tend to sometimes forget about the forum and that could be something that happened but then again... I do have ways other then here to contact me.

 

 

Anyhow! I would say just keep chatting to people and if they come back great but if not.. Don't worry! ^.^~

 

There are lots of nice people around.

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I'm going to be a bit straight with you but seeing the profile picture you have posted gives me the impression you "aim HIGH!" Nothing wrong with that but if those are the Littles you're contacting on here... the likeliness of them having a buttload of attention is high and the chances of it working with them decreases. Also post a picture of yourself or several. Add more detail you are a bit barren ... Not saying I'm not! These women are window shopping for their perfect Ideal Daddy. Prettier, more intelligent, more self confidence they have the more picky they shall be. NOT only but look at the Market they have. This is all about MATH!

 

4 Littles? Try 40, I have and I have found quite a few real Littles. Some were people that were writing 5 paragraphs and then not interested I figure for whatever reason or found what they wanted or just want to "Be admired!" Are there actual Fakes for any other reason, not that I've witnessed maybe a few people ... like males impersonating females or trolls..or something like that but it's less than in 1 in 20 or even less.

 

The MATH is this: If you're a Super Hot, Great Soul, Wealthy Daddy ... = Same in a Little if not you better believe she sees her soulmate in you.

 

You come on the Chat and write proper and well and open yourself up as a decent Daddy you'll have a Messenger full of Littles to chatter with all night if you have no reservations about anything other than wanting to meet Littles!

 

Forgive me if this all sounds Shallow and uckie and harsh and bad.. But ask this question is it honest? Is Dating any different? I don't know, I doubt it. If I went OKCupid and I have my statistics come out about the same but actually HERE I'm much more successful so there are more real Women and Littles here than Real Women interested in conversing than on Okcupid. :/ by my experience

 

Cause of course there are less options !!! and I really share my heart here, try it!

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You are experiencing ghosting and has absolutely nothing to do with those women being fake. There are MANY reasons to cut communications and who knows why they did.

 

Everyone has to go through the phase of sifting through their unsuited counterparts and if seems as if you are now. Nothing we say will make you feel better, but as long as you keep putting the effort out there, then you will find your little. You get as much as you give.

 

As for fakes - yeah they are everywhere, but not nearly as much as most people would want to believe. Just try to remember to not jump into anything head first or too quickly. If you refrain from this, when the ghosting happens, it should be easier to move on to the next. You said they ghost you after a day or two, this is a good time to NOT get overly involved. Show interest but don't line yourself up to be executed. Remain present and honest but at the same time, realize it for what it is - an online meet and greet. You don't know this person, you don't even know if this person is who she is claiming to be. Save your heart a lot of grief and go at a reasonable pace with these exchanges.

 

Unfortunately you never know who will ghost you, so there is no way to avoid it. But your approach in gaining a relationship WILL have a direct impact on who you attract. I went years single because I knew the guys who were interested in weren't for me. I didn't just hop from person to person who showed interest. And even then I was still ghosted. It happens, sadly. But because I was careful, able to move at a logical pace and actually got to know people before investing in them, I wasn't hurt nearly as much as I could have been.

 

Just take your time and try not to rush anything. That would be my best piece of advice. I wish you the best of luck. :heart:

 

 

I wouldn't call them fakes. A lot of people ghost others now a days.

 

There is no good reason! Maybe they were new and just did not like being little, maybe they did not like the site, maybe they are busy, and i mean it is possible they did not enjoy talking to you for some reason but i would not let it get you down. There are many littles on here and other sites. You will find the right one! I would not worry about the ones who left.

 

I tend to sometimes forget about the forum and that could be something that happened but then again... I do have ways other then here to contact me.

 

 

Anyhow! I would say just keep chatting to people and if they come back great but if not.. Don't worry! ^.^~

 

There are lots of nice people around.

I guess they could be ghosting yeah.. it's just super annoying :') I have bad anxiety so it really kills my vibe of getting to know people.

 

I'm going to be a bit straight with you but seeing the profile picture you have posted gives me the impression you "aim HIGH!" Nothing wrong with that but if those are the Littles you're contacting on here... the likeliness of them having a buttload of attention is high and the chances of it working with them decreases. Also post a picture of yourself or several. Add more detail you are a bit barren ... Not saying I'm not! These women are window shopping for their perfect Ideal Daddy. Prettier, more intelligent, more self confidence they have the more picky they shall be. NOT only but look at the Market they have. This is all about MATH!

 

4 Littles? Try 40, I have and I have found quite a few real Littles. Some were people that were writing 5 paragraphs and then not interested I figure for whatever reason or found what they wanted or just want to "Be admired!" Are there actual Fakes for any other reason, not that I've witnessed maybe a few people ... like males impersonating females or trolls..or something like that but it's less than in 1 in 20 or even less.

 

The MATH is this: If you're a Super Hot, Great Soul, Wealthy Daddy ... = Same in a Little if not you better believe she sees her soulmate in you.

 

You come on the Chat and write proper and well and open yourself up as a decent Daddy you'll have a Messenger full of Littles to chatter with all night if you have no reservations about anything other than wanting to meet Littles!

 

Forgive me if this all sounds Shallow and uckie and harsh and bad.. But ask this question is it honest? Is Dating any different? I don't know, I doubt it. If I went OKCupid and I have my statistics come out about the same but actually HERE I'm much more successful so there are more real Women and Littles here than Real Women interested in conversing than on Okcupid. :/ by my experience

 

Cause of course there are less options !!! and I really share my heart here, try it!

i guess... thanks

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On the whole i agree with sullenDaddybones. Just wanted to add this: We all know that there is no female nature,don't we ? But if such a thing existed it might lead to the necessity of reassuring oneself about the fact that seduction is possible,but without actually wanting more; Tomorrow is another day. Just take this into account and aim for the medium term !

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Many people are flighty.  They probably made an account, talked to a few people and were then like whatever and just never came back.  I don't know the statistics, but I imagine that there are tons of accounts made here that get abandoned rather quickly.  This doesn't make them fake in any way.  What would be the purpose of creating a profile and then having a conversation with someone and then leaving.........all intentionally?  The person isn't gaining anything by doing that.  Since they can carry a conversation, they're not a bot.

 

Nothing about any of this indicates "fake".  The only way they could be fake is if they aren't even a real person but, like I said, a bot couldn't carry on a conversation with you. They lost interest, that's all.

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Quite likely fake.  Fakes including chatbots supporting catfishing activities are everywhere, including on this site.

 

https://conceptainc.com/blog/tell-youre-talking-bot/

 

https://www.talkspace.com/blog/2016/01/how-to-tell-if-youre-talking-to-a-bot-the-complete-guide-to-chatbots/

 

Try a few of the experiments listed in the links above and see what happens.

 

Notice also the "emotional damage" section.

 

https://www.techjunkie.com/tinder-profile-fake-bot/

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I think ghosting happens but I honestly think people call ghosting on others too easily (not saying you did that). I for one am not on this site every day and in periods might be gone for a week or so - the people who need to know, know that though. 

 

I dont know if this has been asked or I am just dense here but where you in relationships with them or just talking, testing waters?

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i am really sorry you have come across such poopy head little its not fair it put rest of us in bad light but we are not all like it i pwomise i hope you find your special pwincess soon

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Quite likely fake.  Fakes including chatbots supporting catfishing activities are everywhere, including on this site.

 

 

So the men who post the same cut and paste reply to littles’ personals could be chatbots too?
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So the men who post the same cut and paste reply to littles’ personals could be chatbots too?

Male bots are HIGHLY unlikely to exist in the first place, and if you notice copy/pasted personal responses, I encourage you to report it! It’s against our rules, and it keeps out spam.

 

I don’t know if bots exist on this site other than the few who spam the Feedback and Suggestions section occasionally. A forum is a different environment than dating sites, and a *much* more complicated algorithm would have to be used that would be specifically tailored to THIS website. It’s waaaay more likely that a person is just ghosted. Unfortunately, lots of people get excited about this site, see it as just a dating site, post a personals ad, and leave almost immediately. It’s not uncommon.

 

Edit: we have both men and women who post copy/paste responses, but none of them have ever been bots as far as I’m aware of.

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Male bots are HIGHLY unlikely to exist in the first place, and if you notice copy/pasted personal responses, I encourage you to report it! It’s against our rules, and it keeps out spam.

 

I don’t know if bots exist on this site other than the few who spam the Feedback and Suggestions section occasionally. A forum is a different environment than dating sites, and a *much* more complicated algorithm would have to be used that would be specifically tailored to THIS website. It’s waaaay more likely that a person is just ghosted. Unfortunately, lots of people get excited about this site, see it as just a dating site, post a personals ad, and leave almost immediately. It’s not uncommon.

 

Edit: we have both men and women who post copy/paste responses, but none of them have ever been bots as far ad I’m aware of.

 

True enough.  But there are some male bots, I've been assured by women who have responded to various online forums/personals ads.  Their overall online presence is underestimated, sometimes vastly so. 

 

One thing, bots don't directly copy/paste, that's rather a naive understanding of how they are programmed to operate. Read the analyses linked above...they use natural language processing to parse for terms and concepts and then mould responses that although plausible are not always convincing.  Sudden changes in subject and specific requests sent in very short notes tend to confuse bots and lead to nonsequitur responses.

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True enough.  But there are some male bots, I've been assured by women who have responded to various online forums/personals ads.  Their overall online presence is underestimated, sometimes vastly so. 

 

One thing, bots don't directly copy/paste, that's rather a naive understanding of how they are programmed to operate. Read the analyses linked above...they use natural language processing to parse for terms and concepts and then mould responses that although plausible are not always convincing.  Sudden changes in subject and specific requests sent in very short notes tend to confuse bots and lead to nonsequitur responses.

I know there are male bots, they just aren't common. On our forum, you probably won't find any bots in the personals section. 

I also don't know where you got that I said bots copy/pasted? I said that you should report copy and pasted personal responses if you see them because it's considered spam. I also said a lot of people post "copy/paste responses, but none of them have ever been bots as far as I’m aware of."

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DET was responding to my post :) I was sort of kidding about them being bots... because bots don't consistently make the same grammar mistake in exactly the same place.

I'm pretty up on 'chatbot' tech. like how 4chan did with microsoft's (making finger quotes) "AI" and other groups will flood newly released "AI" to make them do silly / naughty things.

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i am really sorry you have come across such poopy head little its not fair it put rest of us in bad light but we are not all like it i pwomise i hope you find your special pwincess soon

thats very sweet thankyou :)

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I have had this happen to me several times from this site now, all fairly recently. The most recent (a couple of days ago) was genuinely really hurtful, because we had/have so much in common, only for them to vanish... that's what I get for getting my hopes up, I guess. I'm sorry you've had to experience this too.

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It could be that they just lost interest in the whole process as well.  I met a little here who I skyped with a few times, so I knew she wasn't fake or a bot.  After a while we realized we weren't an item, but stayed friends.  She went over to fet and made a profile there, and now she hasn't been either here or there in months.  Maybe they got frustrated and decided to take a step back.  Maybe they met someone local.  Who knows?  Ghosting hurts, and sucks, but its part of the process.  Just try to accept that it wasn't meant to be, and move on.

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The issue being debated here is not going to be solved by technical means. Having said that,I think if one device was only allowed one profile,it would have a big impact. 

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It can easily happen that people are excited and get chatting, and then....lose interest or have met someone else or have decided this isn't for them or ....any number of reasons they don't want to be in touch anymore.

BUT the decent thing to do is send a polite message explaining that they won't be in touch anymore, and briefly saying why.

It's never nice to be left wondering, and it's easy to feel that you were "not good enough" in some way, but maybe just tell yourself that it only proves this person was NOT right for you, and it's good you're not wasting any more time on them.

Because the right person is out there for you, and maybe they will be the next person you do get chatting to :)

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So I've had that happen to me as well. People just don't seem to be that pleasant sometimes. They just leave you high and dry if they decide you aren't worth talking to anymore. It is shit but it happens. 

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It seems to me that the majority of littles here dont actually want a "daddy" they just want someone to give them attention while they are bored, then they move onto the next object.

keep your head up....been ghosted several times and they always just go back into the forum and act like nothing ever happened. If you feel like, start calling them people out.

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