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I was reticent to post about this and am still reticent to talk about it in general. It being "diapers". I know at least some if not a lot of people in this community have no interest in diapers. They don't really make sense to some who are in an older age-play space. I know ashwee had a bit of trouble incorporating  her need for diapers into her little girl head space.

 

I am totally okay with that but I do worry sometimes about even mentioning it. 

 

ashwee is incontinent. I change her pretty much all the time. Doing this takes a large load off her shoulders in terms of dealing with the incontinence. It also is a nice intimate thing we can share. I have mentioned it in chat a few times in passing "I need to go change ashwee brb" but then feel awkward and weird afterwards, like I shouldn't have said anything.

 

Just to be very clear. This is absolutely not because of how anyone acted. This is just my own insecurity talking.

 

I guess what I'm looking for here is to feel out how comfortable people are in general with that whole concept. Diapers, someone changing them for someone else, etc. I know there's already a thread about wearing diapers but I think this is a bit different.

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Diapers are a touchy subject with many people. A lot of people are fine with the concept of diapers as a littlespace fashion statement, but not as something that can actually be used for its intended purpose.

 

Has a lot to do with each person's personal comfort level with the subject. I personally am totally an ABDL. I've been an AB since I was eleven. I am in a 24/7 lifestyle where I am in diapers all the time (and while I don't always use them, and never mess them, it does come up). I am comfortable with diapers and everything that surrounds them. I also think it's super cute that you change your little. I don't make my daddy do that.

 

A lot of people aren't comfortable with that though, and that's a hurdle you can deal with when you are dealing with that particular person. This is an open community and the ABDL spectrum is not something everyone is a part of. If they have a problem with it, then you can deal with it with that person. Try not to concede too much of who you are though. Everyone has to be chummy to everyone and you'll always meet someone you butt heads with eventually.

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Aloha gah!ghost

 

I think it is disappointing you felt that way afterward, but I think that probably reflects more of your prevous experiences in people's reactions, ja?

 

DDlg, in general, is not well tolerated in the greater BDSM community.  Things are MUCH better now than they were say, 10 years ago.  But it is still often looked at as the realm of pedophiles and not a real BDSM dynamic.

 

I would hope all of us would encourage you to share as much as you feel comfortable.  I think it amazing you both are able to incorporate this into your dynamic and, although my partner and I do not actively enage in the use of diapers, I've always found value in learning more from other people. 

 

Cheers to you and Ashwee, gah!ghost!

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I think it amazing you both are able to incorporate this into your dynamic and, although my partner and I do not actively enage in the use of diapers, I've always found value in learning more from other people.

Much thanks. I wish more people thought this way. It's a great way to think about other people.

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I'm actually comfortable with hearing people express themselves be it wearing diapers or how excited they are to be in little space.

In the DDLG community where I live everyone wears diapers aside from the bigs and me and another little.

 

I don't feel weird knowing anyone is wearing them or speaking about them, my big brother (one of the leaders in the community) is also incontinent and he told me

his story.

 

I don't feel weirded out or anything, even for those who are not incon and just love wearing diapers- it's like getting the same

satisfaction another little gets from buying cute lil disney undies or pink fluffy ones.

 

I don't think you should feel bad as in the BDSM community

as mention a lot of people wear diapers- you re welcome here whether you like them or not. I think it's adorable and agree that it's something

intimate you both share and it's loving to see that :) so really don't feel bad at all! <3 and ashwees reactions all being blushy is super adorable :3!

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I said it in chat earlier, but the most important thing is you do you! Most people don't seem to mind, I know I sure don't! They aren't for everyone, but I think for the most part people in the ddlg community will be pretty accepting of it whether they're into it or not c:

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I'm comfortable reading about people's experiences with diapers...but at the moment, I'm not comfortable with wearing. I don't even like Sir controlling when I'm allowed to use the bathroom. 

But even though it's not a kink or a factor in my life, I still enjoy reading and learning about how it fits into other people's lives :)

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I like learning and knowing about different stuff. It doesn't gross me out. I find diapers and stuff interesting. I would really like to try pullups myself.  :3 

Ashwee also has probably some of the cutest diapers I've seen. 

 

I'm sorry how you feel, but I'm not judging you.

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I think it's great you are able to work this into your dynamic. My best friend is incontinent and has to wear 24/7 and is also AB/DL. It's a thing a lot of people have trouble looking past but I think that it's the same as any kink and especially shouldn't be looked down upon for those who it is medically necessary. It seems like we have a pretty nice, accepting and understanding group here though. :3
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Thanks you everyone for the kind words. It has made us much more comfortable about it.

 

Additionally, if anyone has any questions about diapers, incontinence, how that works with lg ageplay, or anything else please feel free to either post here or message ashwee or myself privately. We will answer any questions you may have to the best of our ability.

 

I know this is a taboo subject and it can be hard to accept or even to look into if you're curious.

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My little one also has incontinence due to her disability (Spina Bifida). As she's gotten older (real age wise) she doesn't need them on a regular basis and just uses them during her monthly . I've changed them, bought them, heck there was one time when I wore one for 5 seconds just to put myself in her shoes a tiny bit (I'm Autistic, let's just say they give me a very negative sensory feeling). So I'm very comfortable with talk about it. 

 

In the end, your business is still your business. Taboo or not, you should never feel awkward for talking about something that is so prevalent in your life. 

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I also have incontinence due to several issues. I have trouble holding my pee =/, so I use diapers and pullups.

My daddy is perfectly comfortable with changing me and helping me feel better after an accident.

He is very comforting about the whole experience. 

At first, I was a bit nervous to tell him I had been having these issues, but he made it clear that he was completely comfortable with helping me.

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I think diapers are super cute and a nice aspect that can be incorporated into the kink especially if you have incontinence. But personally as much as I think they are cute, I feel severely uncomfortable with the idea. I actually get this with my monthly as well I don't like the feeling of the cushyness. I actually would really like some help with this because when you're already feeling icky it's not great to be feeling uncomfortable too so anyone know why this might be the case?

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I think diapers are super cute and a nice aspect that can be incorporated into the kink especially if you have incontinence. But personally as much as I think they are cute, I feel severely uncomfortable with the idea. I actually get this with my monthly as well I don't like the feeling of the cushyness. I actually would really like some help with this because when you're already feeling icky it's not great to be feeling uncomfortable too so anyone know why this might be the case?

 

Is it a physical discomfort or more or an emotional one? If it's emotional… the concept of wearing a diaper being a really bad thing is beaten into us by pop culture and society in general. For example there's a lot of tampon ads that compare wearing pads to wearing a diaper as if that's some horrifying thing. Then there's the constant offhanded easy joke comedy you see everywhere making fun of diapers or even just incontinence. It's also very probable your parents were very negative about it when trying to potty train you.

 

So there's all of this negative feedback everywhere you look and it just builds up in your head without you ever realizing it. It can be very hard to get over.

 

I hope that makes sense. I have a pretty bad migraine at the moment and my brain doesn't work the best at times like this but I really wanted to respond to your question.

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Is it a physical discomfort or more or an emotional one? If it's emotional… the concept of wearing a diaper being a really bad thing is beaten into us by pop culture and society in general. For example there's a lot of tampon ads that compare wearing pads to wearing a diaper as if that's some horrifying thing. Then there's the constant offhanded easy joke comedy you see everywhere making fun of diapers or even just incontinence. It's also very probable your parents were very negative about it when trying to potty train you.

 

So there's all of this negative feedback everywhere you look and it just builds up in your head without you ever realizing it. It can be very hard to get over.

 

I hope that makes sense. I have a pretty bad migraine at the moment and my brain doesn't work the best at times like this but I really wanted to respond to your question.

 

I think it's a combination of both but the issue there is I cannot for the life of me identify a source. This combined with my strange reactions to other certain things makes me worry about my childhood and what might have happened... I don't think I've seen much of that feedback you're talking about, I really don't watch TV nor have I seen any of those popular comedy shows where it might come up. Thanks for your response it gives me a little to think about

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Anyone who has the courage to come out and say they wear diapers is awesome, honestly. Rather it be for the fun of it or because you're incontinent.

 

I know the whole thing can be iffy for people, especially those who aren't used to that side of the DDLG/ABDL world. I wore them until I was 4 years old because I wanted to know and I guess because my little age is 4, it's stuck with me. Around 8 years old, the urges to wear came back and years later, here I am. 

 

Dealing with them and a Daddy has been an interesting trip, though. For instance, my last boyfriend was cool with me wearing and would often change me into them whenever I was having a bad emotional breakdown because he knew it would put me in my little space almost instantly and then things would be better for me mentally. He never got around to changing me though, but that was more because of my own embarrassment than his. The Daddy I have know is completely freaked out by the whole idea. It's kind of hard to deal with but life goes on. 

 

I love knowing there are others out there who wear them and hearing little things from people saying they need changed or are about to get changed.. whatever it may be, well it kind of just reassures me that I'm not strange and that I shouldn't feel bad about those kind of things. Like I said, dealing with such a thing is difficult and it's nice not being alone. <3

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I have no issue with diapers. It's not something I'm into but it doesn't bother me and I certainly wouldn't look down on someone who has a heath issue and needs them. I think it's fantastic you all can find a way to work them into your relationship in a way that makes you happy instead of them being a burden due to something she can't control. If someone has an issue with that, poop on them.
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I think it's a combination of both but the issue there is I cannot for the life of me identify a source. This combined with my strange reactions to other certain things makes me worry about my childhood and what might have happened... I don't think I've seen much of that feedback you're talking about, I really don't watch TV nor have I seen any of those popular comedy shows where it might come up. Thanks for your response it gives me a little to think about

Pads are really gross to me. They're very uncomfortable and I don't like using them. They make me feel really self conscious too. I just don't use them. There's a ton of other options, obviously tampons which I do keep in my purse as backup but there's sponges, reusable cups, cloth pads which come in all kinds of cute prints and shapes. They feel way better than disposable pads too. Personally though I use a diva cup. No gross pads to deal with. The concept seems icky at first but it's not at all really.
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I use a moon cup for my period Delilah! I love it and I have 2. They're so nice, no leaks, and also you can wear them for a long time. Learning curve sucks though it takes awhile to get used to
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Obviously diapers aren't for every LG, but they are for this LG. I don't think there is any act as a little girl more submissive than having your diapers changed, and it's by far my favorite part of any DDLG session with my Daddy. Like most things for our dynamic, we have rules; wetting only, I am changed when daddy says I need it, etc. and these rules will vary as all rules do with different people and what they are comfortable with.

 

There are a few things that make wearing diapers a special thing to me as a LG, namely the sense that because by wearing diapers, I know I am not able to care for myself. They enforce that I need my Daddy to take care of me. Diaper changes are especially potent for this and really heighten the sense of dom/sub in our dynamic. Consider if you will that you have wet yourself. You cannot remove your diaper. Your daddy must do it. You must lay down for Daddy, hold still for Daddy, be a good girl and don't get your hands in the way... the entire diaper change you are at your daddy's will. It is a moment where you must put 100% of your trust in him. This can make for a very satisfying experience for a DDLG couple. I certainly know it does for us!

 

Not every LG is the same. Not every LG will want to try diapers, but they have their place in the DDLG kinkscape.

 

 

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I have A LOT of AB/dl friends so diapers are a pretty normal thing for me. I tried it for a while honestly and it's not my thing but I kind of get the appeal.

 

There's nothing to be insecure about when it comes to what you like and what you don't because all that matters is how YOU feel about it and if you enjoy the closeness that you get from helping someone else than that's great!

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