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I'm curious as to the views of both littles and bigs, both me and my little smoke and I have no problem with her smoking but I have seen many a littles rule set contain no smoking, I was wondering what people had to say on this. Bigs, do you allow your little to smoke and if not then why. Littles, does your big let you smoke and again if not why.

Just curious.

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Guest MrKuma

I think often rules of a little for no smoking is due to the general scope of promoting good health. I used to smoke but as a personal choice I have quit. If my little girl truly wished to smoke, well it's a personal choice and I respect that.

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Tbh I would be bothered if Daddy would smoke because I really hate the smell, I had to deal with cigarette smell almost all my life because of my parents. And obviously bothered also because it's really bad for health and I care about my daddy's health a lot.

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I'm anti smoking because of childhood experiences with it and so I try to put no smoking in the rules, but I know plenty of daddies and littles who are fine with it, so i think it really depends on the situation.

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I think this one super depends.

A lot of littles with the rule "no smoking" tend to be quitting.

I personally understand that it's an addiction and a personal choice, so littles and bigs doing it is their choices.

Although I quit smoking (I smoked very casually and was not addicted at all) and Daddy went from smoking to 3mg (1/3 the mg of a cigarette) vape liquid, and it's an improvement with the smell and his health. These also had nothing to do with the dd/lg lifestyle though. It was all personal choice and what would be more reasonable and affordable.

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Some people also have that rule to have help someone quit. I really wouldn't look at other peoples rules too much. Everyone has rules up for different reasons. Its like some people say there little can't swear. That doesn't mean 100% that they are trying to keep there little seem 'little'. Sometimes people swear to much and they want to stop, or the other person in the relationship is controlling ect. Because rules can also be made by toxic and controlling people too.

 

If you want to smoke, smoke. Its like if you wanna drink, drink. Your still an adult. 

 

(This is also why I think rules should always be fair. Like no drinking should be both parties. And they should always be discussed and there should be a reason behind that rule.)

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yeah, Daddy and i are working on me quitting cigarettes because it's bad for me, Daddy doesn't like the smell (his mom was a smoker), and i came to Him with the intent of quitting. We started with me going cold turkey. i got one cane hit per cigarette, but if i didn't smoke i got to choose a Disney movie to watch. after a couple months it became apparent that quitting cold turkey (even with my vape) was next to impossible because of my friends. people my age in my city, at least the ones i hang out with, smoke a lot. being around it all the time made for this girl getting a very sore bottom and no Disney movies. We then revised it to be a certain amount each week. i get caned if i go over, but get a Disney movie if i make it. The goal is to ween me off of them. Daddy is also very good about giving me "nights off" when i need them, such as when i'm in emotional distress, i'm hanging out with a friend in emotional distress, or going to a party. For instance, last night my friends had a fourth of july party and Daddy gave me 3 cigarettes for the night because i had already used up an "emotional distress" night (really weird week). it would have been almost impossible to get away with only one for the entire night. 

other smokable things are actually fair game for me. Daddy doesn't mind if i have a little pot on occasion. although last night was the first time He saw me take advantage of that. i had a friend drive me back to His place and was a giggling idiot crawling in bed next to Daddy. He said i was acting like a sorority girl. lol. not sure if that freedom will be long term...  :)  :D

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Daddy and I both smoke. But when I am in little space we just pretend that the cigarete is a pencil, and I am just playing around. (because when I was really just a child I used my colors and act as if those are cigarettes)

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Daddy and I both used to smoke. I quit several years ago and Daddy just quit within the past 4 months or so with a vape. He hasn't had one cigarette since he got it and went from using 8mg to 6 recently I'm really proud of him! :3

 

I actually went and got a vape too, with the intentions of cutting back on sweets. All of mine are 0mg and come in desert flavors. Right now I have one called Boss Reserve and it tastes like french toast. :D

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I have never smoked and have no desire to do so. My father smoked for 40 years and ended up with emphysema. Smoking, drugs, and drinking all have a very negative connotation in my mind and would take me right out of little mode. Therefore, I do not wish to date someone who smokes or does any of the aforementioned. Papa bear started smoking on occasion in college and occasionally slips up during the winter when he feels restless at work. The last time he did this we had a serious talk and papa bear got in big trouble which never happens. He hasn't smoked since and promised to never do so again because he really hurt the baby's feelings. Now he sucks on mints instead and eats more ice cream.  :)

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I nor my daddy smoke. he does the vape but he doesn't get high and it doesn't affect him. my daddy will kill me if I smoked :p
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I smoke cigars, which got my Daddy into it. Now it's sort of a ritual for me to prepare his cigar for him.

 

My boy asked me if it bothered me if he smoked once. He was trying to quit and thought I might dom him into it, but I really don't mind. He was able to quit on his own.

 

My ex used to smoke these little pink cloves and I thought it was pretty sexy. She would blow it in my face sometimes. She was a Little top, so it was kind of fun to imagine her as a Little gone bad who had stolen Mommy's cigarettes.

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Yeah, I gonna say no to smoking. I have severe allergies. I love the smell of cigars and how a cigar looks when a man smokes it but it always sends me head first into the toilet if you catch my drift... 

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 My little and I have a tentative rule about this as well. I smoked for 16 years, a pack to a pack and a half a day. My partner smoked almost two packs a day herself for years. I switched to vaping in January of 2014, and though I did fall off during the time I spent in Virginia, I have been able to get back on board with it and reduced myself down to a 3mg juice so far. Originally, my partner didn't express any desire to quit, and none of her previous partners had ever encouraged her to do so. But, because I am responsible for looking after her now, little or no, I strongly suggested she try vaping as a means of quitting. Low and behold, she has done amazingly well for the most part. I do still allow her a smoke here or there when her stress levels are really high, but we both have the expectation to fully quit for good in the future.

 

 I don't need to tell anyone what the hazards and downsides are to smoking. Even in a vanilla relationship, I would want my partner to make healthy decisions for their health and wellbeing. Being in a D/s relationship, especially in the case of a DDlg dynamic, I feel a sense of personal responsibility for the health decisions my little makes. I tell her all the time that I want her to be happy and healthy, and it is part of my role to see to it that she is making good choices. I don't rule with an iron fist in my relationships, and I strive to not be a hypocrite. I do still smoke every so often, particularly if I'm having a strong drink, so I don't look down my nose at my partner when she asks to have a cigarette. I'm not sure if I'll ever give up my pipe completely, to be fair. It's a blacksmith thing B) But, we are both making good progress with our overall health.

 

 I am a huge supporter of vaping as a means to quit smoking. I and many of my friends over the years have tried it all, the patch, the gum, the menthol inhaler thingamajig, you name it. The only thing that has worked for myself, my brother, my mother, and other long term smokers I've known has been the new E-cig devices. I'm not talking about Blu or the other cigarette lookalikes out there, either. The new wave of devices from Njoy, Ego, Kanger, and other makers in the past two years are a world apart from those nasty tasting cartomizer devices. They satisfy the physical and psychological cravings very well, are convenient, and allow you to step down your nicotine consumption gradually. Plus, no nasty smelling smoke, and more flavors to choose from than Willy Wonka could come up with. If you or someone you love is trying to quit smoking, I highly recommend you look into vaping as an alternative.

 

 Just my 2 cents B)

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I'm so glad this has been brought up. I smoke and have been feeling awful about it, like I'm not a good little or something. :\ but I've tried quiting and it just causes more stress. Sadly i kinda use smoking as a crutch. When i find a daddy he would have to be patient with me at least.
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Guest curious-babydoll
I used to smoke not often but with severe asthma I should have been doing it at all. One of my rules with Papa is no smoking (or drinking/getting high but that's more a safety thing and he doesn't want me doing it alone) but anyway Papa was still smoking a lot and I told him I didn't think it was fair I had to quit and he still could smoke. He agreed and was able to ween off then stop completely... He told me he didn't think it was fair And he wanted me to be able to look up to him and set a good example
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Guest Dollycupcake

I do not smoke but my big would not approve of me smoking either and he does not smoke. But i am in general very straight egde as i person so that is a part of my personality outside ddlg. Not in the religous way.

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